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Old 07-26-2017, 06:24 PM
 
Location: East of the Mississippi and South of Bluegrass
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I know in Chicago there are a few different Greek-American and Italian-American clubs where the guys meet up. They may eat, play cards, have a few drinks and socialize in general. I can't say for sure because I've never been inside any of them.

"In fact, this sliver of Grandówith its private men's clubs..."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Italy,_Chicago

I think there may also be some type of meet-ups for the women as well, but more along philanthropic and religious venues. They may socialize as well.
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Old 07-26-2017, 07:05 PM
 
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This club sounds great to me. I don't like sitting around drinking coffee and gossiping, but I could get into such a "club" for women or both men and women. It's a great way to interact and help keep the neighborhood up! What a great idea.

I imagine aerating a lawn would be rare, so if they meet once a week, what other activities do they do?


In my area, there are a few men's groups that meet daily at the local McDonalds. I would say that of the 25 guys who regularly show up, you'll find 15-20 any given day. They talk on a lot of subjects.

If a group of women get together for social reasons, that is pretty normal. However, when guys do it, all of a sudden, there is a lot of pressure from their wives to come along. When that happens, all the guy talk stops and everyone has to be careful what they say. It completely changes the group.

Why can't guys have their own get together?
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Old 07-26-2017, 10:39 PM
 
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Who said they couldn't? I surely didn't. I said I'd want to be in a club for women OR men and women who DID things to help each other out: Painting. Mending fences. Gutter repairs. Tree Trimming. That sort of thing. No coffee gossip for me. The guys on the block want to get together to do heavy yard work for each other because they're not young enough for them and their wives to handle it anymore; well, that's fine by me. I wouldn't elbow my way in.

Can't imagine where you got that from.

Of course, private club membership in say, a golf club, is a whole other story, revolving around non-retired people and their ability to impress/schmooze with potential clients for business advancement (and therefore, the chance to secure a good retirement).

'Nuther story entirely. And therefore, another thread.

But we digress, because you misinterpreted my post.

OP: I'd still like to know what else they do to help each other on a weekly basis.
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Old 07-26-2017, 11:41 PM
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Location: Southeastern Pennsylvania
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There's no regular schedule, but my husband frequently has lunch with a bunch of guys who all retired from the same company around the same time. They call themselves the "ROMEOs." Retired Old Men Eating Out.

Every once in a while, we have a lunch or dinner when the ROMEOs include the Juliets (the wives and SOs). And sometimes the Juliets just get together on our own.

I love the idea that sometimes the men do "handyman" stuff for one another. I'm going to mention that idea to my husband. I'm sure we all could use it!
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Old 07-27-2017, 03:37 AM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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I'm in a golf league with a large number of retirees from the same company. These guys make me envious of those who are retired!
I am in a league like that too. In fact today is our tee time. Since I am retired I am not jealous of them but I have made many of my friends jealous of me.


Oh and I thought based on the title we were going to talk about "Gentlemen's Clubs" as well. Such a disappointment that the groups were just doing lawn maintenance.
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Old 07-27-2017, 04:08 AM
 
Location: Ypsilanti, MI
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......I imagine aerating a lawn would be rare, so if they meet once a week, what other activities do they do?
Not sure as I am not a 'member' (yet) but power-washing decks, and the types of items you mentioned in a subsequent post are all things they may tackle as a group. Probably anything the individuals could do by themselves when 30-40 years younger but can no longer can handle solo would be on their list.
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Old 07-27-2017, 04:12 AM
 
Location: Ypsilanti, MI
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We have several chapters of SIR, Sons In Retirement. Meet once a month and do activities like golf, hiking, cards or RV stuff outside of the meeting.
I have never heard of this group. When reading your post the fist image in my mind was from Sons Of Anarchy.

Sons In Retirement - Men enjoying active retirement

Turns out the organization is very large in Mid and Northern California. Maybe one of my first post-retirement activities will be starting a local chapter here in Michigan!
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Old 07-27-2017, 04:58 AM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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Not sure as I am not a 'member' (yet) but power-washing decks, and the types of items you mentioned in a subsequent post are all things they may tackle as a group. Probably anything the individuals could do by themselves when 30-40 years younger but can no longer can handle solo would be on their list.
So we're talking guys who are in like their 80s? I can still do all those things at 63, if I want to, as can my brother who is almost 80.
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Old 07-27-2017, 08:15 AM
 
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So we're talking guys who are in like their 80s? I can still do all those things at 63, if I want to, as can my brother who is almost 80.
You being so enviably virile and buff and youthful with super duper stamina is not the point.

The guys are buddies and like doing stuff together. Funny how you zero'd in on the very limited examples posted and your extraordinary abilities and ignored the larger point.

Do you hate HOAs too?

Does it occur to you that they all band together and do ALL the properties in one day or weekend as a group thereby avoiding the aggravation of each one having to do all his own crap by himself or own or rent power equipment or paint/stain, or aeration equipment or whatever and actually have fun doing it? Maybe some of them hate doing it alone or maybe some are crappy at it or used to pay people in the past. Maybe some are injured veterans or have other medical issues. Maybe they live in a hot state where the heat index is 100 degrees for most of the mid day. Maybe the guys who like ladders clean the gutters while the guys who hate/can't do ladders pick up the slack in other areas. Perhaps having a barbecue or pool party or whatever when they're finished is the payoff. Maybe the younger ones ACTUALLY do most of the physical work, but the older guys still participate, so what? My guess is the younger ones don't tell the older ones that they should still be able to do it alone. Just a hunch.

Do you have friends? Weird criticism.

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Old 07-27-2017, 08:33 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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^^^^^^^ Excellent post.

I thought similar thoughts about this. Thank you for posting.
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