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Old 08-13-2017, 02:48 PM
 
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^^^True that the generation that lived through the Great Depression is soon to be only a memory... but, many I knew well were from this era where so many had nothing and little means to acquire...

Many of these same people are the type that would straighten bent nails, save nuts and bolts in jars and soup cans, same with little scraps ranging from wood to fabric.

Being a property manager for 35 years I see just how much people toss with much going to the landfills.

Like clockwork, around mid January the Christmas gifts would start to overwhelm the dumpsters... many were already broken... some simply wasteful...

A little girl wanted a pink Barbie bike and got it... a few weeks later it was next to the dumpster so I had to ask... the mom said the tire is flat so they were getting rid of it... it only needed air!

Having cleaned out a lot of homes bought As-Is in Estate Sales I have come across many things that interest me... still have a little 10x16 detached garage just the way it was when I bought the property 30 years ago... the workshop is just as the original owner had left it...

I hope to up-size when I retire... enough room to finally have a proper display of a lifetime of collecting automotive memorabilia and cars... 1905 to present.

Fully understand one person's dream is anther's nightmare... after that person is gone where is there still a problem... simply turn the items into cash or donate or call the 30 yard dumpster and start filling.

Where the problem is those remaining have guilt and the fear of tossing something valuable or missing something all together...

I tend to accept a lot of things and it has come back to bite me... my former boss gave me his car after he could no longer drive... NO ONE in the family wanted it 20 years ago... now several have hard feelings over it... I simply said I'm happy to give them the car if they pay the 20 years of storage costs ... $50 x 240 months = $12000
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Old 08-13-2017, 05:31 PM
 
Location: VT; previously MD & NJ
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It's fun giving stuff away - I'm always taking stuff to Goodwill or the local ministry thrift shop. Looking forward to doing more of that especially w/ bulky furniture I never use and only occupies space. I inherited it from others and they told me to not get rid of it because of sentimental value. But it is time to do so.....nice to know that others can use it and get it for a discount.
This I don't understand. It had sentimental value to the person who gave it to you? Has no sentimental value to you, does it? Should be no guilt giving away something like that, in my opinion.
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Old 08-13-2017, 05:35 PM
 
Location: Tampa, FL
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This I don't understand. It had sentimental value to the person who gave it to you? Has no sentimental value to you, does it? Should be no guilt giving away something like that, in my opinion.
They moved to independent care where the stuff couldn't be kept.
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Old 08-13-2017, 07:24 PM
 
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Just a suggestion for getting rid of old clothes, curtains, rugs, etc---


Donate such to animal shelters, they always need such items to line the cages. I volunteered at an animal shelter and saw first-hand how great the need is. Anything washable is accepted. Towels, sheets, blankets, curtains, rugs, old clothing, etc can be used to line cages and make life a little more bearable for the animals.


If you donate such items to Goodwill, they just toss them unless they are in new or like new condition. They use old clothes to wrap up breakable items people purchase, talk about the ultimate recycling!
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Old 08-13-2017, 10:46 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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Just a suggestion for getting rid of old clothes, curtains, rugs, etc---


Donate such to animal shelters, they always need such items to line the cages. I volunteered at an animal shelter and saw first-hand how great the need is. Anything washable is accepted. Towels, sheets, blankets, curtains, rugs, old clothing, etc can be used to line cages and make life a little more bearable for the animals.


If you donate such items to Goodwill, they just toss them unless they are in new or like new condition. They use old clothes to wrap up breakable items people purchase, talk about the ultimate recycling!
Oh no, I've been donating to Goodwill. No more. What about old pillows? Would that help animal shelter? I need to find my local animal shelter.
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Old 08-14-2017, 02:04 AM
 
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Oh no, I've been donating to Goodwill. No more. What about old pillows? Would that help animal shelter? I need to find my local animal shelter.
My local Goodwill even recycles old clothes, by using them as packing/wrapping for fragile items people buy. Imagine buying an item and having it handed to you wrapped in one of your donations


I really don't know about pillows for animal shelters, but just call and ask. When I volunteered, they would take anything washable. They do--nicely---ask that you remove old buttons, zippers, etc that could hurt an animal, however many don't. My job one day was to go through some donations and remove such. Even old socks can be used. We sliced them in half and used to wrap newborn kittens.


I do believe they will even take old, stuffed toys, something for an animal to cuddle, a comfort item. There again, call and ask. When you drop off your donations, you might just pick up a new fur friend!
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Old 08-14-2017, 05:54 AM
 
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It sure seems like woman love to declutter and give away stuff easier than men. We are looking at moving in 2 years, and I dread to death getting rid of so much, and DW can't wait to get rid of as much as possible asap. I just have a hard time giving away stuff I paid good money for and may need in the future. I have no problem getting rid of knick nacky things. Or stuff I know I will never use. But I do enjoy my memory lane stuff once in a while.
Women are typically do the majority of keeping the house clean. Many also take care of the finances. Both are time eaters. A place for everything, not getting attacked by stuff when open a door.... Less stuff means it's easier to maintain a clean house and being organized makes you feel like you have life under control. With less stuff and being organized, life is simpler so you can enjoy the important things in life instead of being a slave to stuff.

The kids today seem to get what it took many of us years to learn. I've noticed they are opting for experience rather than stuff. Memory lane can be in your head when you think about the experience and smile.

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Old 08-14-2017, 06:05 AM
 
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It sure seems like woman love to declutter and give away stuff easier than men. We are looking at moving in 2 years, and I dread to death getting rid of so much, and DW can't wait to get rid of as much as possible asap. I just have a hard time giving away stuff I paid good money for and may need in the future. I have no problem getting rid of knick nacky things. Or stuff I know I will never use. But I do enjoy my memory lane stuff once in a while.
A second thought is look around your house. If that was your parents things and you had the job of cleaning out how would you feel? My parents and in-laws were savers. We had to place Mom (no choice) and now we have to clean out her house. My brother and I DREAD it and feel overwhelmed. If you land in a nursing home what would you rather have.. your kids time used cleaning up your house or they use that time to visit you instead?

The common solution offered is to sell the stuff as if we are loaded with time. We didn't collect the stuff but we are left with the clean up. My mom will be MUCH easier than my in-laws. Oh god, I get dizzy just thinking about when that time comes, ever WORSE, DH will be towing some of the stuff over here. I'll have to stand guard to try to keep it to a minimum.

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Old 08-14-2017, 01:44 PM
 
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Not meant to offend but a person really is not required to do anything... I have bought several properties As-Is and it came with everything... mostly the kids if there are any or other relatives live on the opposite coast or even in other countries.

The physical clearing really is not that hard if there is no emotion involved...

I sort into piles... donation, trash, sell and keep... my keep has become very small... did find a couple of great books I am glad to have and a scrap book with pictures of the home being built back in 1922... kept that too.

One of my dear friends passed away at a retirement home... his only child and only granddaughter did not come for the funeral... it was left to the VFW and friends... I was really surprised but he lived in California, son in Florida and granddaughter in Minnesota... so had health issues.

Son... did ask for his father's gold watch, Service Medals and a few things that would fit into a 2x2 box... that was it.

I've had tenants become ill and pass in the hospital... again... no one from the family made the trip... some asked about bank accounts but how would I know?

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Old 08-17-2017, 07:33 PM
 
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Money comes and goes, we can't dwell on money we spent in our lifetimes...we'll drive ourselves NUTS.
Spoken like someone with a fat bank account and an awesome income. Great job!

There are those of us who can't afford to be so cavalier with our funds. If there is real value to an item that can be recouped, it would be foolish to just give it away.

Unless of course, it really is just worthless crap.

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