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Old 08-22-2017, 11:20 AM
 
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I agree it would "solve the problem," but I think it's also potentially a slippery slope; just my opinion. Even in other countries (and states), they won't "inject you" but help you to do the deed yourself. However, if you get to the point where you're enrolled in a hospice, simply say you have pain; you'll get all kinds of morphine. It's called the "double effect."
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Old 08-22-2017, 11:23 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I only want someone to help me die when I can no longer care for myself. It's a much simpler request than requiring someone to help me out indefinitely until I succumb to whatever fate has in store for me.
Assisted suicide/euthanasia is a completely different issue. We're basically operating under the assumption here that the elder orphan wants to continue living.
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Old 08-22-2017, 11:35 AM
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Location: Texas
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Most childfree people say they love their lifestyle and have no regrets. But here, I am seeing some misgivings amongst certain people or fears that in their old age, they will be alone. Even if they are still healthy enough to care for themselves. No offense, but could it be that the childfree lifestyle isn't that great in the elderly years? It's just a question.
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Old 08-22-2017, 11:37 AM
 
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I'm childless by choice and have absolutely no regrets. I realize that we all DIE ALONE. Children or no children, spouse or no spouse. That said, I doubt if there's anyone who isn't a little afraid of dying and/or dying "alone"... Again, children or no children, spouse or no spouse. In general, I believe the childfree have a more realistic view of what's coming in their later and final years than do the "childed." I see a lot of parents and grandparents expecting others to populate their lives, and that in general isn't happening in our society today.
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Old 08-22-2017, 11:41 AM
 
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Most childfree people say they love their lifestyle and have no regrets. But here, I am seeing some misgivings amongst certain people or fears that in their old age, they will be alone. Even if they are still healthy enough to care for themselves. No offense, but could it be that the childfree lifestyle isn't that great in the elderly years? It's just a question.
I have no fear or apprehension whatsoever about aging alone. I have the financial resources to cover all of my known needs. What else would I need?
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Old 08-22-2017, 11:57 AM
 
Location: Towson, MD
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Most childfree people say they love their lifestyle and have no regrets. But here, I am seeing some misgivings amongst certain people or fears that in their old age, they will be alone. Even if they are still healthy enough to care for themselves. No offense, but could it be that the childfree lifestyle isn't that great in the elderly years? It's just a question.
It is a tradeoff, no doubt about that. I am married and have two stepchildren, but no children of my own. I'm sure I can't count on them to help if their mother should pass before me, but this is the result of the decision I made many years ago not to have children. Of course, having children is no guarantee of help either!
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Old 08-22-2017, 12:46 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Most childfree people say they love their lifestyle and have no regrets. But here, I am seeing some misgivings amongst certain people or fears that in their old age, they will be alone. Even if they are still healthy enough to care for themselves. No offense, but could it be that the childfree lifestyle isn't that great in the elderly years? It's just a question.
Well, I for one am child free by choice and the majority of my friends all through my life have been the same. None have ever had one moment of regret. We are all in our elderly years. I am not near them because I have moved a long distance away but I've kept in touch and they are all very happily living out their lives some single, some married. None have ever thought about having kids to depend upon as insurance of being taken care of in their old age. Being child-free has nothing to do with that. Being prepared for old age is called planning whether one has children or not.

If people have regretted their decision not having kids, it would be because they thought perhaps they made the wrong decision not to raise a family but I've never heard anyone who was child-free say "I wish I had kids so I would have had someone to take care of me in my old age." If they did, they were deluding themselves.
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Old 08-22-2017, 12:57 PM
 
Location: Sugarland
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I agree it would "solve the problem," but I think it's also potentially a slippery slope; just my opinion. Even in other countries (and states), they won't "inject you" but help you to do the deed yourself. However, if you get to the point where you're enrolled in a hospice, simply say you have pain; you'll get all kinds of morphine. It's called the "double effect."
But I'd rather hire someone to kill me than to just give me morphine. I mean, people get abortions and someone helps them do it, but if I say that I want someone to help me abort myself, why is that such a big problem? It shouldn't be.
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Old 08-22-2017, 01:05 PM
 
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My mother had five children and at the time of her death, they were stepping over each other, bickering and backstabbing, all trying to be the favorite son. She died alone in a hospital bed, even the staff wasn't aware of her passing. One of my brothers found her dead with her mouth open during a morning visit before heading off to work.
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Old 08-22-2017, 01:26 PM
 
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Honestly, I think a lot of parents today spoil their children and grandchildren in the hope that they'll "repay" them with their company and assistance when the time comes. What actually happens is that they, in turn, devote themselves to THEIR children and grandchildren (and I mean to to a ridiculous degree). What might be a better so-called investment might be honoring and caring for their own elderly so as to model and promote "caregiving behavior." We have a youth-worshipping society that doesn't have time for the elderly, but I guess that's yet another topic for yet another thread, too.
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