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Old 08-25-2017, 06:53 PM
 
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Sounds like you did very well...

Around the SF Bay Area it is not uncommon to find 20 somethings making more right out of the gate than their parents ever did...

I work with a lot of nurses and many are or Filipino heritage and many of these 25-28 year olds make double or more than their parents ever have...

They are also getting married and buying homes and progressing nicely...
One of my coworkers with an advanced degree is renting an apartment for 3K. Sure, there are some hot shots making 200K but more common even in tech is between 100 and 150K. Her DH is making peanuts at a start up hoping for a big break via an IPO. They have no choice but to do day care with the kids. Taxes take their bite. I don't see any $7 avocado toast or Grande lattes going on. I do see Grocery Outlet, etc.
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Old 08-25-2017, 07:50 PM
 
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It is a mixed bag for sure... only point is some are doing far better in the financial dept than their parents ever did...

Time will tell on the marriage front... know far too many with relationship issues as many are no longer tied to each other as a matter of survival...

It is very easy to crash and burn here but I imagine that happens everywhere.

Still so many first generation in Nursing and that is inspiring... and the parents could not be prouder...
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Old 08-25-2017, 09:18 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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One of my coworkers with an advanced degree is renting an apartment for 3K. Sure, there are some hot shots making 200K but more common even in tech is between 100 and 150K. Her DH is making peanuts at a start up hoping for a big break via an IPO. They have no choice but to do day care with the kids. Taxes take their bite. I don't see any $7 avocado toast or Grande lattes going on. I do see Grocery Outlet, etc.
This is a choice right, working for an IPO.
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Old 08-26-2017, 06:47 AM
 
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No way! My mother was a miserable person. Banish the thought!
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Old 08-26-2017, 09:07 AM
 
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No way! My mother was a miserable person. Banish the thought!
Mine was too. She hated her life. She did nothing but tell us how much she sacrificed for us and made sure by her words and actions that we knew she would rather be anywhere else.

Then she turns around and tries to force me to follow her footsteps! She was so angry when I didn't marry the first guy to ask and pop out a bunch of babies. So angry when I dropped out of the religion that was a big part of her misery. So judgmental that I worked and disappointed about all my other life choices too.

She never told us what it was she sacrificed for us, but considering she hated the way I lived which was pretty much her opposite, I'm very curious as to what she had in mind to do if us pesky kids hadn't come along and ruined her life.
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Old 08-26-2017, 11:35 AM
 
Location: Albuquerque NM
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Wow, Lilly! I see a lot of that in my parents too, particularly my mother. Insisting on having a large family because that is what her culture and her precious religion pushed but then resenting and blaming us kids for her problems. Then being disappointed because we did not choose a similar life and bless her with many grandchildren.
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Old 08-27-2017, 10:56 PM
 
Location: New Mexico
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Looking back, I think I copied more than I was willing to admit at the time. They were good people and not a bad model to follow. The details are different in some ways but some of my life decisions were similar. That is true up to the time I retired. They worked into their mid 60s but I retired early because I saw that they did not have the retirement they had hoped for due to illness. That turned out to be one of the best decisions I ever made.
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Old 08-28-2017, 06:33 AM
 
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I couldn't possibly have followed my parent's life, even if I had wanted to, besides most of my education was made by my grandparents. My parents (we're talking of the Swinging Sixties and early seventies when I was a kid) were living the "high life", each on their own (they divorced early). My father collected some gorgeous women I must say (he even had a short fling with the Italian wife of former king Albert of Belgium, that he had met at a party at the Aga Khan villa in Costa Smeralda , Sardinia, that he was covering as a paparazzi), my mother had lovers too, lived in communes in NYC, Boston, SF, LA-she even had a short fling with singer James Taylor- (and she dabbed into drugs without ever to be hooked on it , but later in life she was hooked in Guru Shree Rajneesh and made the trip to Rajneeshpuram, and later Antelope, Ore). They had a colourful and adventurous but fully disfunctional life...both passed away recently. But I guess they couldn't have lived that kind of life in our day and age. Money was not as important back then, that's the reason why my mum particularly was able to play the gypsy without having a steady work (only later when her beauty faded and men lost interest in her, she had to do menial jobs, she was really broke).
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Old 08-28-2017, 07:34 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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One thing I think people may be forgetting is that it's much easier to "copy" your parents' life if they were involved in one of the true professions. A doctor child could easily follow in the doctor parent's footsteps, for instance. For others, that's not the case.

My dad worked in manufacturing most of his life. He graduated with an elementary education degree, but the pay was better in manufacturing at the time. He started in a mechanical apprenticeship that was offered by the local F500 chemical company. He was a direct hire. These days, the apprenticeship program no longer exists and the job he did pays less now in absolute dollars than it did when he left that company in 1991. It is also run through a temp agency.

A younger person couldn't copy their parent's career in that as the field has essentially been decimated.
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Old 08-28-2017, 02:37 PM
 
Location: Texas Hill Country
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oh my gosh no.. My mom was the stereotypical housewife. Apron included. Quite honestly I have very few memories of her not being in the kitchen.

Dad, on the other hand, as much as I loved him because of the way he treated me was even worse than Archie Bunker. But because he was so racist towards EVERY nationality, I just couldn't believe that and came to the conclusion early on that he was wrong.

So, it's all good. Without trying to mom taught me there's more to life than being on call night and day and dad taught me tolerance and acceptance.
Sounds a little like my childhood, slightly. Dad believed in "Three Strikes and you're out!", that if you got three felony convictions, you were up for being executed. That if you wanted to shoot a rifle like an AR-15, Join the Army!

So what was my saving grace? I have the tendency to take things in a very ROMANTIC view.

Still, I understand from Mom that it was very tense around the household when I started belly dancing........
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