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Old 10-03-2017, 07:16 PM
 
Location: North Alabama
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I wish i was as good a man as my father was. I wish the weight of bearing and rearing five children had not been the burden that it was for my mother, because I can still remember her as the energetic young woman she was when there was just my older sister and I. I know they did the best they could both in rearing us and in ensuring that they would never be a burden to their children. I try to copy the good parts of their life but often fall short. My wife usually makes up for my shortcomings, and I like to think that we have done okay in giving our own children a good enough model to get them through their own lives. We'll see; so far they look to be doing pretty good.
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Old 10-03-2017, 09:36 PM
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My parents survived Lenin, Stalin, Hitler. Their parents were all killed by either Stalin or Hitler. They NEVER had enough food to eat until their mid-30's. They had NO education, and though they learned to speak four languages, they never learned to read or write in any of them.

However, they survived and managed to get three of their kids through Elite universities in the states.

When I complained to my father on how tough my life was....he would just smile and softly laugh to himself.

THERE is NO WAY I would trade places with them.
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Old 10-03-2017, 11:58 PM
 
Location: NYC
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I consciously avoided a lot of what they chose to do in life, but they were resourceful, dogged, thrifty & worked hard & I inherited that part of their values. As adults we had very little to talk about in common other than the weather or what was for dinner that night, they weren't too interested in my interests, their attitude spanned from disinterest to critical. Neither myself or my brother ever married or were interested in children because family life as we knew it was mostly an unending series of conflicts & criticism.

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Old 10-04-2017, 12:02 AM
 
Location: Gulf Coast
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Wow, practically everyone said NO. I didn't think of the money aspect of my childhood as much as the other stuff. Mom had no drive, ambition, anything really. She didn't drive, didn't have close friends, was so shy doing that was painful to her. She managed to squelch any of my ideas of what I wanted to do.

Dad was hard-working. I loved both my parents, but think I've surely had a more interesting life and I'm not afraid to try new things or go new places or make new friends.

No I wouldn't want to be them.

But thinking about it, I'll bet both my kids would say the same about me!
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Old 10-04-2017, 03:33 AM
 
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[quote=509;49716721]My parents survived Lenin, Stalin, Hitler. Their parents were all killed by either Stalin or Hitler. They NEVER had enough food to eat until their mid-30's. They had NO education, and though they learned to speak four languages, they never learned to read or write in any of them.
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Were they from Ukraine? Jewish? What a story you must have to tell if you choose.
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Old 10-04-2017, 05:31 AM
 
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As you are now

What I mean copied your parents life , I mean every aspect work amount of children , marriage etc
I can only imagine that I would have committed murder many, many decades ago.

As it as I fled them, and I fled anything that was like the lives they had led.
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Old 10-04-2017, 07:26 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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Not for a second would I wish for my parents' lives. You couldn't pay me to live that life.

Mom - married as a teen, divorced 4 times, raised 5 kids, worked on her feet for 40 years, alcoholism, untreated diabetes, death at 65

Dad - married a virtual child, left her with 4 young kids to care for, ignore those kids while doting on your second family, diabetes at age 35, forced retirement due to plant closure, death from Alzheimer's at 77

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Old 10-04-2017, 07:49 AM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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My parents lived a basic, good life and did a good job raising their children. I was greedy. I wanted more and I got it.
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Old 10-04-2017, 07:56 AM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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My dad quitting school at 8 to work in a mine to help support his family, slugging up a hill in the Philippines during WW2 while Japanese threw hand grenades down at him and his platoon, suffering the rest of his life with nightmares and malaria. No thanks, I'll take the life dealt to me.
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Old 10-04-2017, 03:47 PM
 
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Having so many options and choices as a U.S. citizen and living in the U.S. - the land of many different options for many - always can make a person second guess their choices.

All my parents wanted in life was to raise a family. (they told me this) So somehow I chose not to do that! They had no formal education beyond high school, and I have multiple college degrees.
So that ended up influencing me too.

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