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Old 08-24-2017, 07:32 AM
 
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No, I wouldn't be satisfied. My parents were excellent people who taught me many good values, but I believe differently than they did on some things. Their beliefs and way of life worked for them and I admire them immensely, but I didn't feel I had to copy them in every respect.
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Old 08-24-2017, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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Kill me now. I'm light years ahead of where my parents were. Neither one of them made it to retirement and the alcohol abuse ruined all of our lives.
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Old 08-24-2017, 09:35 AM
 
Location: Winterpeg
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I'll be an outlier and say "yes!" In a lot of ways I am, but it's not possible nowadays to do exactly as they did.

Mom got to grade 10, dad had just high school. They met in the military in the 50s, mom stayed home with us 4 kids until we were all in school, then went to work for the federal government. They retired with awesome government pensions and travelled and had friends and family around them. They both came from the depression and horrible single parent families, and vowed to create the "real" family they never had. And they did.

My husband and I also have a shortage of education (both high school. I went to uni a few times, but never graduated - dummy!), and struggled financially longer than they did. We have one kid, we absolutely could not have afforded to raise 4 in anything other than poverty. Now the chick has flown the coop and we're empty nesters, and my parents have both passed away. We moved to a location with a lower cost of living and are comfortable, but we'll never have the kind of retirement that my parents had.
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Old 08-24-2017, 09:37 AM
 
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No, and that should be the answer everyone gives. "Copying" anyone's life, parents or otherwise means IMHO that person hasn't focused on their own strengths/weaknesses but instead pretends to want to be in someone else's shoes.

We take the good and bad form our parents who in general are our #1 teachers in life.
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Old 08-24-2017, 10:55 AM
 
Location: Texas Hill Country
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As you are now

What I mean copied your parents life , I mean every aspect work amount of children , marriage etc
NOT A CHANCE!

Dad was rather anti-2nd amendment, anti-8th amendment, hated gays, and saw situations for taking the law into one's own hands. Mom was a mother, not got a college degree, and wasn't into judo nor belly dancing.
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Old 08-24-2017, 11:46 AM
 
Location: USA
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I wish I had my mother's life! She only had to work about 10 years total her whole life and managed to retire with a pension at 55. Granted it's a small pension, but my father has a giant one and with their SS, they have it made.


They were able to travel all over the USA and Canada and Alaska starting at the "young" age of 55, staying months in some places.


Me, I'll be working over 46 years and have no pension, just my own savings/investments to rely on
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Old 08-24-2017, 12:19 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I have a theory that positive change is frequently incremental from generation to generation. Both my parents came from very poor backgrounds but both went to college in the late 1930's, a time when not every Tom, Dick, and Harry was going to college. Therefore I had the advantage of being raised by fairly well educated parents.

But looking back on things, I now realize that my parents were not life-long learners and the transition from dirt poor to college educated did (at least in their cases) put a limit on their level of educational and intellectual sophistication. At age 73 I am still growing intellectually. I read all the time - mostly non-fiction. That was not my parents' pattern.
I don't know if that's generally true, but I've seen it in my own family.

Neither set of grandparents graduated college. My maternal grandmother can read at a middle school level - she needs help with legal/tax documentation, etc. The other three grandparents are high school graduates.

My parents, and half of my aunts/uncles completed college. Only one of the high school graduate aunt's is a reader. The rest have a degree but aren't what I consider intellectually curious. They aren't readers.

I read about a 200-300 page book, on average, about every two weeks. I have hundreds of paper books, but mostly read books from iBooks or Kindle now. I might read a paper book three or four times a year.
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Old 08-24-2017, 12:34 PM
 
Location: Vancouver
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No. I'm a totally different type of person. Not wanting kids for instance.

My parents were wonderful in many respects. Loved us all, treated fairly equally. No beatings or violence, except the odd shouting matches as teenagers. Lots of laughs, and basically a happy home. Quite liberal in their beliefs.

Where I diverge from them, is in world views ( we are all victims of our time ), and travel opportunities.

I'm more like my maternal grandmother in temperament, humour, and outlook on life.
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Old 08-24-2017, 01:07 PM
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Location: Bakersfield, Ca
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Old 08-24-2017, 01:23 PM
 
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To do that you would have to admire and want to copy all your parents' choices. Like G.W. Bush. But most people, prefer to go their own way. But we seem to inherit many of our parents traits and attitudes even if we don't want to.
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