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Old 08-24-2017, 08:23 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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How many REAL friends do you have?

I have many aquaintances/good time friends/ but my DH is the only person who I can really count on to be there.
Outside of immediate family, right now - none. When I lived in another state, I had some coworkers who helped me out personally or if I just needed an extra set of hands as I lived alone with no family in that state. Back here, I have more casual friends and acquaintances as well as family, but no one I'd consider real close at this time.

My closest friends have either left the area or are dead.
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Old 08-24-2017, 08:53 AM
 
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I think that is how it goes for many of us.

Also,I find I enjoy these casual relationships,where I have no commitments to others.
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Old 08-24-2017, 09:12 AM
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Location: Kronenwetter Wisconsin
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Content to hang with family. We have people we meet socially but not often. I like being home at night.
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Old 08-24-2017, 09:27 AM
 
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My girlfriend comments about this all the time. I have a number of life-long close friends who are more like brothers and sisters. I've been a weekender or winter resident at a Vermont ski resort since the early 1980's. I have a dozen close friends from that place. Godfather to a few of their children. In wedding parties. I grew up on the coast in a suburban harbor town. I never broke contact with my home town, own a summer home there now, and I have some 30+ year friendships. Professionally, I did a number of metro-Boston tech startups with the same team. A few of us go back to the mid-1980's and have more than the usual professional colleague relationship. My sister lives 2,500 miles away but I'm also very close to her and her husband. I'm there every Christmas. They visit every summer. We take trips together occasionally. Last October was a couple weeks in Spain/Portugal.
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Old 08-24-2017, 09:56 AM
 
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Content to hang with family. We have people we meet socially but not often. I like being home at night.


"Ditto"
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Old 08-24-2017, 10:09 AM
 
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How many REAL friends do you have?

I have many aquaintances/good time friends/ but my DH is the only person who I can really count on to be there.
Have many acquaintances . . . as far as friends I have one good/true friend.
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Old 08-24-2017, 10:09 AM
 
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How many REAL friends did you have before retirement? I'd argue that if they still aren't your friends after retirement, then they never were!
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Old 08-24-2017, 10:24 AM
 
Location: New Mexico
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I think I have maybe 10 or 15 close friends -- some going back to the 1970s and others fairly recent. I live 1,000 miles away from some but if I showed up on their doorstep they would take me in and I would do the same for them. Some I've loaned money to and was always paid back. We have shared experiences that almost go beyond friendship. Oddly, I have no lasting friendships from high school or college and just a couple from grade school in the 1950s. I just reached 100 Facebook friends but 80% or more I've never met and probably won't.
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Old 08-24-2017, 10:37 AM
 
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I suspect that the number of true "friends" one has ... is directly related to the number of people to whom one is a true "friend."
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Old 08-24-2017, 10:42 AM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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My best friend in high school is still my best friend. He was a freshman and I was a senior in 1969, and he was being bullied for his lime green plain bell bottoms. I stood up for the guy. Friends ever since. Sadly he is in California and I'm in Colorado, but we stay in touch.


I have about a handful of close friends scattered around the country.
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