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Old 08-23-2017, 01:51 PM
 
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How many REAL friends do you have?

I have many aquaintances/good time friends/ but my DH is the only person who I can really count on to be there.
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Old 08-23-2017, 02:21 PM
 
Location: Tampa, FL
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Few. Only because I don't engage much. Have been that way most of my life. Not sure why.

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Old 08-23-2017, 03:08 PM
 
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How many REAL friends do you have?

I have many aquaintances/good time friends/ but my DH is the only person who I can really count on to be there.

I am always hearing people talk about their friends but for the most part they just know them on a casual basis.

It seems most people won't or don't like to admit that they have few if any real friends.
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Old 08-23-2017, 03:24 PM
 
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None really. No enemies either. Not a social person.

There is a quotation from some poet, I wish I could give attribution to but unfortunately I cannot remember who t'is.

"Friends. The stealers of time"

Even when I was young and working and well-connected that's pretty much how I felt about having to be around people

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Old 08-23-2017, 03:25 PM
 
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I was talking to an older man earlier, he says his son bragged about having over 700 facebook friends. He asked his son, "How many of them will let you crash at your house?" The son answered, "About four." "Those are your friends," he said. Based on this, I think I have one true friend and a whole lot of acquaintances. My husband is my bestie.
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Old 08-23-2017, 03:26 PM
 
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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Interesting thread. When I was going thru a weird time last year. I discovered that I did indeed have real friends. One couple told me that if I ever found myself living the situation I dreaded, I could live on their property

Three others were there for me

I think the kind of friends one has is based on the kind of friend one is. I am a listener and I' m happy to let other people talk about their problems and their joys

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Old 08-23-2017, 03:27 PM
 
Location: Northern panhandle WV
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I have not had any friends since High school. Not even casual ones.
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Old 08-23-2017, 03:30 PM
 
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I think in general conversation, both verbal and written, people refer to "friends" and not "acquaintances".

Saying "I had lunch with an acquaintance...." sounds a little funny.

DH is definitely my BEST friend, besides that I have about 3 very good friends who would be there for me under most circumstances.

I don't think people causally using the words "friend" infers that they do not understand the real definition, it's just a communication shorthand.
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Old 08-23-2017, 03:51 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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How many REAL friends do you have?

I have many aquaintances/good time friends/ but my DH is the only person who I can really count on to be there.

I'm not sure...maybe one. But I'm sometimes not sure just how much of a "friend" she is. She rarely calls or comes by and if I want to see her I mostly have to go there. We've done things together but she can sometimes be irritating to spend a lot of time with. I've known her for over 20 years though and we get along okay so I guess I'll keep her. The best friend of my entire life died in 1999 of cancer. I still miss her.


I have a few work 'friends' but don't consider them 'real friends' even though I've known most since I've been there (7 years) and I don't get invited to the weddings, baby showers, etc.. I think I'm mostly "too old" for them. It's okay though and doesn't bother me.


I honestly tried to make some friends when I first moved back home 12 years ago. I went to the Senior Center, tried at church (and at work) but finally concluded that people must already have as many friends as they need and gave up. That's okay too because I am used to being by myself and like it. Well, DD#1 is living with me now and I like that too.
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Old 08-23-2017, 04:02 PM
 
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what is DD#1?
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