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Old 08-27-2017, 08:30 PM
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Interesting question I haven't given it much thought.
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Old 08-27-2017, 08:34 PM
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Top two of each sex achieved professional goals that they anticipated. Difficult to know who obtained millionaire status. From a graduating class of 524 a good guess is several dozen.
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Old 08-27-2017, 08:40 PM
Location: South Florida
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I went to a really interesting HS in NYC. It was a specialized art school, so everybody there was an art major. The student body there was very mixed. There were kids on welfare and kids who were dropped off by their chauffeurs. there were kids of every ethnicity. The one thing we all had in common was some degree of artistic talent.

I studied Fashion Design, went into financial planning, then real estate, and ultimately started a construction company together with my husband. There is a Facebook page for my graduating year and most of the people did like me... majored in some form of art and wound up in something completely unrelated.
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Old 08-27-2017, 10:40 PM
Location: New Mexico
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The few that I kept in close touch with stayed with the same job/company their entire career. None in prison to my knowledge. One, I hear, dabbled in publishing porn briefly. Another is or was selling real estate last I heard. A few marriages didn't last but most did. I lost track of most of them. I went to one HS reunion early on and it was a bust.
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Old 08-28-2017, 03:12 AM
Location: We_tside PNW (Columbia Gorge) / CO / SA TX / Thailand
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Dropped by a 40+ annual class reunion (my first)

HS classmates that attended were still stuck in HS... sad

I was fortunate to escape that mode as soon as HS was over...(became a caregiver for disabled parent) or I would have been dead by age 20. (only b'cuz I was VERY lucky since age 14!)

Several died in their 40's. (ironically it was usually the ones who were living clean / high incidence of Cancer in my childhood region). I am on borrowed time...
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Old 08-28-2017, 03:19 AM
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I went to prep school.

Hedge fund guru; private equity guy; psychiatrist; dermatologist; about 3 or 4 other doctors; lots and lots of lawyers; family businesses; ordinary business executives; I'm a nonprofit executive; several teachers; one professor that I know of; a few who couldn't handle life or chose unpromising paths. Of 55 in my graduating class, 6 have died (two in accidents when young).
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Old 08-28-2017, 06:16 AM
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"full consciousness " therapist; high school teacher; film industry worker;one committed suicide;another, a professional photograph, died of lung cancer at 57 (he was a heavy smoker and drinker);history films producer;editor-in chief in "international relations" magazine; business executive (married a Swedish guy); egyptologist;
beautician (female); for those I was close to , the others , no idea.
They seem to be (for the most part) in good health. I'm ashamed to say that it seems to me most of them succeeded more than me professionally (I have quite a modest situation).
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Old 08-28-2017, 06:50 AM
Location: Tennessee
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One of the cheerleaders and well-liked "in crowd" girls tried to get a ten year reunion together back in 2014. It fell through.

The problem is that many of those who were close then have remained in the area and remain close now. They have no need for a reunion because they see each other a few times a week anyway. Most of us have some connection on Facebook. The ones who wanted nothing to do with anyone have generally left.

In this day and age where people can keep in relatively close to, I doubt these reunions will be as significant as in years past.
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Old 08-28-2017, 01:50 PM
Location: Los Angeles area
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Originally Posted by Pyewackette View Post

There is no one I want or need to "catch up" with from my past. Yes, I did NOT "spring miraculously into bloom today" - I sprang miraculously into bloom the day I graduated from high school and started working my way through college. I made my life AFTER high school.

I don't find "other people" all that interesting either. There are far more interesting things I do with my time and energy other than moving decades backwards to worry about people who happened to be teenagers at the same time I was a teenager in a small town where I have not even visited for over 40 years.

I don't need to be a Nosy Parker to find interest in life.

You are imputing to me things which I did not say, which is a very dishonest way to discuss an issue. First, I don't "worry" about people I used to know. Second, not only am I not a "Nosy Parker" but I have many interests in life besides knowing what has happened to people I used to know, as interesting as that is. Third, I am not "moving decades backwards" by becoming aware of what has happened to people I used to know; in fact, there is no "moving backwards" at all. If I happen to find out what someone has ended up doing with his or her life, that is not a regression for me at all - I still retain all the progress I have made in knowledge, skills, and attitude.

I am sorry you so obviously had bad experiences in high school. Given that background, it is perfectly understandable that you want nothing to do with those memories/those people. But what is not so understandable is the sneering, nasty attitude you demonstrate toward a point of view different from your own.

Perhaps you would agree with Jean Paul Sartre, who wrote that "Hell is other people" ("L'enfer, c'est autrui"). Indeed, I have known some people who cause me to recall that little quote, even if I do not share that attitude as a general rule of life.
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Old 08-28-2017, 02:50 PM
Location: Kirkland, WA (Metro Seattle)
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Originally Posted by Escort Rider View Post

Perhaps you would agree with Jean Paul Sartre, who wrote that "Hell is other people" ("L'enfer, c'est autrui"). Indeed, I have known some people who cause me to recall that little quote, even if I do not share that attitude as a general rule of life.
Whether s/he (person being referenced in the above) would agree with old John Paul, I certainly would. That's my choice, across almost five decades, for better and worse. Some don't get it, others do, that the bulk of us who feel that way about others simply want to be left to our own devices.

I don't care much about HS, and could put a name on maybe 50/220. I have a picture of all of them (big photo, small circles w/ faces) and that's about how I scored last time I looked.

However, many here (C-D) and elsewhere are actively *afraid* to discuss HS. To me, that hides painful memories. Great, and I don't poke them much. My HS years were dull and not notable. I pretty much put that bus in reverse start of Senior year, and did my own thing to the greatest extend practicable throughout, wanting only to be OUT of there. Wish I could say I was the 8-Ball kid on the West Porch, leather jacket and old H-D motorcycle: the sweetheart-kissing, cigarette-smoking rebel w/heart of gold.

That, as they say however, ain't how it went. I attended precisely zero clubs, sporting events, dances, "proms", or anything whatsoever they did not demand of me w/threats. I wanted a motorcycle very badly but settled for a big scooter, which my old man would tolerate, and neither wanted nor needed a driver's license until months after turning 16. I simply...did...not...care, much to the major aggrievement of my social-butterfly mother. My old man had other fish to fry and barely knew I was *in* HS, I suspect.

Guess what: I'm doing fine, then and now, and chuckle at those things I do remember about four dull years prior to hitting the "eject" button on all that.

I was little, if-anything, to anyone other than couple dozen nodding acquaintances. I truly did not care and was astounded when informed anyone else did about school pep, activities, etc. I'm not afraid to discuss that, no one should ever truly confuse "ambivalence" with "antipathy," latter being those trench coat punks in Littleton Co some years ago who needed to be locked up at the local asylum BEFORE killing. Former being many of us who got through it with OK grades, went to OK colleges or Unis, went on to OK or better than OK professional jobs we liked, and found ourselves in our 20s and 30s. Then, the quiet-yet-high SAT/ACT types could attend Unis for higher learning at our own pace. A couple chose then to self-destruct in coke and liquor. I chose otherwise.

Lots of us out there. Nothing to see here, nothing to fear: I am, we are, the sum of our deeds and parts in the community, not our HS memories or who we associated with or how they are doing today. I sort-of care how the rest are doing, see my earlier post. In fact I may know way more about the 50/220 now than I did then, in fact I'm sure of it, and feel mildly curious to mildly contemptuous (rarely) to mostly ambivalent, being busy running my own life.
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