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Old 10-02-2017, 06:41 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I'm guessing the people who just don't care didn't have a lot of friends in school. I grew up in a very small town (5,000), so I went to school with a lot of those people for 13 years. We grew up together - lots of memories, slumber parties, crushes, first boyfriends / girlfriends, sports, mischief, homecoming, prom. My childhood best friend (a boy) got cancer in 5th grade and was out of school for a year ... I think of him often and would hate not knowing how he is doing today (very well). I loved my friends and I celebrate their successes with them. We also grieve together ... we lost a classmate in a car accident when she was 24, the funeral was packed, it was a mini reunion. We're at the age now (42) where several of us have lost a parent. There's a lot to be said for those bonds.
I also grew up with that "small town life," and I honestly do not care. I keep in relatively close contact (once a month or so) with maybe a dozen people from the class. Many of the others have left themselves (as I did, then I came back). I'd like to know what happened to a few people who sort of disappeared, but only to sate my own curiosity and I doubt we'd be close again.
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Old 10-02-2017, 02:38 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I'm guessing the people who just don't care didn't have a lot of friends in school. I grew up in a very small town (5,000), so I went to school with a lot of those people for 13 years. We grew up together - lots of memories, slumber parties, crushes, first boyfriends / girlfriends, sports, mischief, homecoming, prom. My childhood best friend (a boy) got cancer in 5th grade and was out of school for a year ... I think of him often and would hate not knowing how he is doing today (very well). I loved my friends and I celebrate their successes with them. We also grieve together ... we lost a classmate in a car accident when she was 24, the funeral was packed, it was a mini reunion. We're at the age now (42) where several of us have lost a parent. There's a lot to be said for those bonds.

Your post was heart-warming to read. I think you are fortunate to have had that sort of a childhood and adolescence. My family moved from St. Louis to Los Angeles when I was 14, entering 9th grade. So I never had that circle of "since kindergarten" friends and acquaintances. Plus when I was 18 I left California for four years before returning for good. There are pluses and minuses to moving around; I can't say I'm sorry I did, as I had some wonderful experiences living in different places and I found it enriching and educational. I'm not sure what is ideal, really, but I feel sorry for those who had horrible experiences in school, whether it had to do with moving around or not. Among the latter are those who post with great anger and venom in "high school reunion" threads and also in threads like this one. It's sad, although I'm not saying I blame them for anything - after all, our experiences are what they are.
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Old 10-02-2017, 04:39 PM
 
Location: Gulf Coast
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Your post was heart-warming to read. I think you are fortunate to have had that sort of a childhood and adolescence. My family moved from St. Louis to Los Angeles when I was 14, entering 9th grade. So I never had that circle of "since kindergarten" friends and acquaintances. Plus when I was 18 I left California for four years before returning for good. There are pluses and minuses to moving around; I can't say I'm sorry I did, as I had some wonderful experiences living in different places and I found it enriching and educational. I'm not sure what is ideal, really, but I feel sorry for those who had horrible experiences in school, whether it had to do with moving around or not. Among the latter are those who post with great anger and venom in "high school reunion" threads and also in threads like this one. It's sad, although I'm not saying I blame them for anything - after all, our experiences are what they are.
Thank you ... yes, very good memories. After spending so many years together they become like family (dysfunctions and all). I don't understand why people post in threads they feel bitter and venomous about ... it seems best to avoid a subject that is such an emotional trigger.

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Old 10-03-2017, 08:53 PM
 
Location: Dover, DE
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I'm guessing the people who just don't care didn't have a lot of friends in school. I grew up in a very small town (5,000), so I went to school with a lot of those people for 13 years. We grew up together - lots of memories, slumber parties, crushes, first boyfriends / girlfriends, sports, mischief, homecoming, prom. My childhood best friend (a boy) got cancer in 5th grade and was out of school for a year ... I think of him often and would hate not knowing how he is doing today (very well). I loved my friends and I celebrate their successes with them. We also grieve together ... we lost a classmate in a car accident when she was 24, the funeral was packed, it was a mini reunion. We're at the age now (42) where several of us have lost a parent. There's a lot to be said for those bonds.
You are wrong. I grew up in a very small town in western PA. I was smart, had auburn hair and developed early. I had 2 "best" friends, but others harassed me. Due to my early development I got unwanted attention from boys, and the girls hated me for that. Because I was smart, the teachers liked me, again making others not happy. I was bullied (no one cared 50 years ago). Once I got to be a senior my 1 "best" friend did something she shouldn't have and blamed it on me, my other "best" friend decided she wanted to go to the prom with my boyfriend so told him lies about me.

Now give me a good reason why I should care about any of them.
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Old 10-04-2017, 06:33 AM
 
Location: the Old Dominion
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Default ...1980...

I tried to get back with a close high school chum. We had fallen out of touch for several years and when we ran into each other, it seemed like old times. At first... After a few months, it ended. He knew it before I did (after I asked if I had done something wrong, but he would not say). That is on both of us. He got a degree in Geography and landed a job with the Census Bureau in the Capital.
A good looking blonde I hardly knew hit it big as a model with the fashion world. Good for her.
One fellow who was a cutup became a state trooper. A friend joined the Air Force and made a career of it. The class valedictorian barricaded himself and committed suicide within a few years of marching down the aisle.
The Salutatorian went into computers after graduating from a small Virginia college. One girl who liked me then suddenly wanted nothing to do with me, became a Food Lion manager. Never would tell me the turn-off.
Never went to a class reunion and never had an inclination to go. For those of you that do go to class reunions, I hope you enjoy them.
The two turn-offs taught me to be a better listener and keen observer. And have I learned a lot.
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Old 10-04-2017, 01:25 PM
 
Location: Gulf Coast
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I was smart, had auburn hair and developed early ... Due to my early development I got unwanted attention from boys, and the girls hated me for that.
I think you and I were twins. This is my story, too.

BUT ... the jealous cows only picked on me in 7th grade because by 8th grade I'd made a couple of decisions:

1.) Nobody messes with me.
2.) If anyone messes with me they will be sorry ... and they were.

I became a cheerleader and no longer cared if my boyfriend happened to be some jealous cow's crush. If anyone was going down, it sure wasn't going to be me. I got a whole bunch of friends from all different circles and walks of life and left the cows behind. It was liberating and made me strong.
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Old 10-08-2017, 03:04 AM
 
Location: Planet Woof
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Only know of a few and I am no longer in touch with any of them. This was over 40 years ago, so frankly my dear, I don't give a hoot in double L hocky sticks!
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Old 10-08-2017, 11:36 AM
 
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I loved high school, relate to the one who mentioned sleep overs, parties, doing stupid stuff, getting into petty trouble. Large midwest city. 500+ in my class.

(Attended a private school a year and first one died from that small class earlier this year. 40+ years after graduation. Pretty amazing.)

However we all went our separate ways after high school. Connected with a few on FB. I went to the first 2 class reunions and lost interest. Get bugged every 5 years to come back. That time feels like someone else's life in many ways. Haven't been back to that city in decades, no need to all of family is dead.
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Old 10-08-2017, 12:35 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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Mayor of Houston is one I know about.

A couple weeks ago some of my old classmates held a grade school reunion. Because of the reunion I was able to find a bunch of old classmates on FB. One of my old best friends is a judge and another a librarian.

My family moved a lot so there never was a group of people I grew up with. I am surprised so many of the people I knew are still living within just a few miles of where they were born.
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