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Old 09-08-2017, 04:25 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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I guess I just don't understand this desire to move away from all that is familiar and a part of one's life history just because of retirement. I find comfort in familiarity and memories.:

I'm with you, FeelinLow. For a while I was really wanting to move away, maybe NC or VA, near the mountains. I think my motivation for that was an ongoing family situation that I was not happy about and thought moving would be a great way to escape.

I did make some trips to the area and got information on apartments, etc. But as time passed, the family situation resolved, I realized I could not financially make a big move, and of course, I had connections here, and I liked my doctors. I didn't want to have to start over. So as I let those "new" feelings seep in, I realized that I didn't want to move away from what I knew. And truthfully, I kind of like winter and don't have to drive to work anymore.

The only move I would make now would be to something in my area that wasn't an apartment complex. I check out the classifieds from time to time. Nothing yet.
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Old 09-08-2017, 04:27 PM
 
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I'd say move back to Florida.
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Old 09-08-2017, 04:39 PM
 
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My son and his wife seem to want us to move nearby and be a part of our 1 year old granddaughters life and we plan on moving soon as my husband retires but we are very aware that we need to create an active social life. The worst thing that can happen is for you to depend on them to fill a hole where your social life was.
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Old 09-08-2017, 04:43 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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I guess I just don't understand this desire to move away from all that is familiar and a part of one's life history just because of retirement. I find comfort in familiarity and memories.:
To me it feels like a renunciation of everything that came before it. Like a big "Eff you" - like you hated your work, and your life and you want a whole new life, but without really knowing what that is. And then wondering why you're not happy. I think I'll stay put in my nice little one-level house and travel a few months out of the year when I feel like a change.
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Old 09-08-2017, 05:24 PM
 
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To me it feels like a renunciation of everything that came before it. Like a big "Eff you" - like you hated your work, and your life and you want a whole new life, but without really knowing what that is. And then wondering why you're not happy. I think I'll stay put in my nice little one-level house and travel a few months out of the year when I feel like a change.

There are many reasons to move and not all of them have to imply unhappiness or grass is greener attitude. I love my friends and life here in our wee village but we want to be closer to the only family we have in the USA. I will miss my dear friends and it will be a new lifestyle but as immigrants we've learned to adapt and enjoy something special about each place we've lived. Key is not depending on our son to meet our social needs 👍
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Old 09-09-2017, 07:50 PM
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Location: Middle Tennessee
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To me it feels like a renunciation of everything that came before it. Like a big "Eff you" - like you hated your work, and your life and you want a whole new life, but without really knowing what that is. And then wondering why you're not happy. I think I'll stay put in my nice little one-level house and travel a few months out of the year when I feel like a change.
Everyone feel differently on this subject. We were in Central Florida 23 years for our jobs, which were OK but demanding. Central Florida could have been worse, but neither of us really cared for the climate or the traffic or the increasing population. So when we were able to move we did.

Been here for almost six months and couldn't be happier. Found pretty much everything we were looking for. On my way into town to pick up a pizza last evening, stopped to watch four deer grazing at the edge of the woods near the road. My thought was "I really like it here".

To some it might seem like a renunciation of everything that came before it, but to us it was just a refreshing change to our lives.
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Old 09-14-2017, 07:53 PM
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Location: Spurs country. "Go, Spurs, Go!"
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There are many reasons to move and not all of them have to imply unhappiness or grass is greener attitude. I love my friends and life here in our wee village but we want to be closer to the only family we have in the USA. I will miss my dear friends and it will be a new lifestyle but as immigrants we've learned to adapt and enjoy something special about each place we've lived. Key is not depending on our son to meet our social needs ��
Many times people move closer to children and grandchildren, especially when it is a first or new baby, and end up being babysitters. Most parents work long hours now-a-days and first time parents don't want a "stranger" caring for their precious child, and those with a second child or more don't want to pay the price of day care for several children.

IMO, retirement is for the retired. It is a reward for giving up our lives to others. We spent our own lives as children having a "boss" (our parents, teachers, coaches, etc.), during our working years or stay-at-home raising children years we had a boss to answer to or the children to take care of, effectively putting their wants, needs and desires first. After retiring and having an "empty nest", it is "our" time.

My opinion to the OP is to move back to Florida and resume the rest of your life.
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Old 09-14-2017, 08:07 PM
 
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Many times people move closer to children and grandchildren, especially when it is a first or new baby, and end up being babysitters. Most parents work long hours now-a-days and first time parents don't want a "stranger" caring for their precious child, and those with a second child or more don't want to pay the price of day care for several children.

IMO, retirement is for the retired. It is a reward for giving up our lives to others. We spent our own lives as children having a "boss" (our parents, teachers, coaches, etc.), during our working years or stay-at-home raising children years we had a boss to answer to or the children to take care of, effectively putting their wants, needs and desires first. After retiring and having an "empty nest", it is "our" time.

My opinion to the OP is to move back to Florida and resume the rest of your life.

I don't disagree but for us it's not an issue 😍 We have plans in place to enjoy our retirement 😉
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Old 09-15-2017, 04:40 AM
 
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To me it feels like a renunciation of everything that came before it. Like a big "Eff you" - like you hated your work, and your life and you want a whole new life, but without really knowing what that is. And then wondering why you're not happy. I think I'll stay put in my nice little one-level house and travel a few months out of the year when I feel like a change.
Some of us moved to our current digs to be close to a new job. We don't have friends or family here; most of family has now passed, no kids, so moving is another new adventure for us. No 'Eff you' here, I loved work, like my work buddies, but they are young and involved with building families. I liked my life here but didn't have enough time to do the things I want, in a place that will be a joy to be in. I want to walk out our front door and be struck with beauty, not be stuck in a subdivision stuffed with frantic people, scurrying about from 12am to 12pm.

For us, moving further to northern Michigan simply means exchanging banks of sodium lights for carpets of stars.
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Old 09-15-2017, 08:34 AM
 
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Whenever I hear an older couple talking about buying a big RV so they can visit each of their kids for months at a time and park the rig in their driveway, I wonder if the kids had anything to say about that.

I'm not a parent. But it seems to me that you give a child his own life and in return, he gives your life back to you when he leaves home.

Go back to Florida. Live your life.
Wise words. I'm with the move back to Florida group. Stat.
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