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Old 09-22-2017, 09:36 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in America
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Change is what she wants. This conversation will either make the decision to move self evident or the relationship will change for he better.
How would that conversation change a relationship for the better?
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Old 09-23-2017, 07:49 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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My son and his wife seem to want us to move nearby and be a part of our 1 year old granddaughters life and we plan on moving soon as my husband retires but we are very aware that we need to create an active social life. The worst thing that can happen is for you to depend on them to fill a hole where your social life was.
"Be a part of granddaughter's life" might be code for "be our free babysitter", but that might be okay with you, so do what makes YOU happy. You will be in their life, but they also have a whole life without you, so you will need to find your own social circle there and you may not see them nearly as much as you would think.
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Old 09-24-2017, 06:15 AM
 
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The original poster has never responded once after the initial post. That means there are 68 posts that were wasted for the most part. And this is just one of many posts where the OP disappears after the initial post. Posts like this should self-lock if the OP fails to participate after so many days, like one or two weeks or after so many posts, like 20 or 30 posts. It sure would cut down on all the responses that go to waste because the OP disappears and never reads them.
How do you know the OP didn't slip and fall and is in the hospital with a broken leg, or on a trip and not easily able to log on or even have the time to log on, or otherwise engaged, or thinking about all the advice before she wants to respond instead of just spouting off a reply?

And how do you know that all of the replies may not help someone else reading this thread. You don't.
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Old 09-24-2017, 06:19 AM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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How do you know the OP didn't slip and fall and is in the hospital with a broken leg, or on a trip and not easily able to log on or even have the time to log on, or otherwise engaged, or thinking about all the advice before she wants to respond instead of just spouting off a reply?

And how do you know that all of the replies may not help someone else reading this thread. You don't.
you are right. She is a spotty poster either way. Not someone looking to make $500 for engaging poster.
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Old 09-25-2017, 08:41 AM
 
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I wish you were my Mother Mrs. Cool; can I adopt you.... lol
Tried to rep you, but couldn't. So, thanks! (Funny thing is, the very day I wrote that, my daughter called to tell us she IS pregnant!)
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Old 10-01-2017, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Yavapai County
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For us, moving further to northern Michigan simply means exchanging banks of sodium lights for carpets of stars.
Sounds lovely! what part of N. Michigan are you going to (in general)? Are you worried at all about harsher winters as you get older? I grew up in MI and I never minded winter that much (not so my DH), but I wonder how N. MI would be as we get older and have to worry more about things like falling on ice...
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Old 10-01-2017, 05:14 PM
 
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The original poster has never responded once after the initial post. That means there are 68 posts that were wasted for the most part. And this is just one of many posts where the OP disappears after the initial post. Posts like this should self-lock if the OP fails to participate after so many days, like one or two weeks or after so many posts, like 20 or 30 posts. It sure would cut down on all the responses that go to waste because the OP disappears and never reads them.
I don't think posts are wasted when the original poster never checks back in. There is often much to be learned from many of the posts in any thread. Whatever the subject of the thread happens to be, there is often much to be learned or to think about from reading it.
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Old 10-02-2017, 07:30 AM
 
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Sounds lovely! what part of N. Michigan are you going to (in general)? Are you worried at all about harsher winters as you get older? I grew up in MI and I never minded winter that much (not so my DH), but I wonder how N. MI would be as we get older and have to worry more about things like falling on ice...
We bought 10 acres a few miles north-east of Traverse City, not far from Torch Lake. Funny about the winters; I grew up in California, left when I was 35 because I couldn't stand another minute of one continuous season. DW and I love skiing, and wanted winter so badly, we moved to the mountains of Colorado. Once we discovered how to thrive in snow country, we discovered that we wanted that for the rest of our lives. We have been living in deep snow country in places like the mountains of Colorado to the Canadian border in Maine since 1998, and now N. Michigan, and love it. How is it to deal with as we get older? Don't know for sure; we are only 65/66 so have a couple of decades to go before we start to cross that bridge (with cross-countries or snowshoes on). You can explore 'our Michigan' on my homepage if you're interested- it really is the perfect place for us!


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Old 10-02-2017, 08:00 AM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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We bought 10 acres a few miles north-east of Traverse City, not far from Torch Lake. Funny about the winters; I grew up in California, left when I was 35 because I couldn't stand another minute of one continuous season. DW and I love skiing, and wanted winter so badly, we moved to the mountains of Colorado. Once we discovered how to thrive in snow country, we discovered that we wanted that for the rest of our lives. We have been living in deep snow county in places like the mountains of Colorado to the Canadian border in Maine since 1998, and now N. Michigan, and love it. How is it to deal with as we get older? Don't know for sure; we are only 65/66 so have a couple of decades to go before we start to cross that bridge (with cross-countries or snowshoes on). You can explore 'our Michigan' on my homepage if you're interested- it really is the perfect place for us!

What a great attitude.

I am a Californian myself, though we have lived in many different regions during my Active Duty career. We eventually fell in love with Maine.

If you like winters there is nothing to be afraid of by living in a four-seasons area.

I look around and see many seniors here who enjoy the lifestyle. Afterall Maine is the oldest state, we have the highest percentage of retirees among all states. A lot of fellow retirees flock to Northern latitudes to enjoy the weather.
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Old 10-02-2017, 05:42 PM
 
Location: Yavapai County
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We bought 10 acres a few miles north-east of Traverse City, not far from Torch Lake. Funny about the winters; I grew up in California, left when I was 35 because I couldn't stand another minute of one continuous season. DW and I love skiing, and wanted winter so badly, we moved to the mountains of Colorado. Once we discovered how to thrive in snow country, we discovered that we wanted that for the rest of our lives. We have been living in deep snow country in places like the mountains of Colorado to the Canadian border in Maine since 1998, and now N. Michigan, and love it. How is it to deal with as we get older? Don't know for sure; we are only 65/66 so have a couple of decades to go before we start to cross that bridge (with cross-countries or snowshoes on). You can explore 'our Michigan' on my homepage if you're interested- it really is the perfect place for us!

Definitely a great attitude! N. MI is beautiful and it sounds like it is the right place for you. I think about going back sometimes, but I don't think I could convince my DH.
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