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Old 09-10-2017, 09:25 AM
 
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Not for me because I never had kids. But I am more content and happy I think partly because I no longer have to answer to a boss in a high stress job and my time is my own. I like the freedom I have; my time is my own. I can slow down and enjoy what's around me.

And I can wear jeans every day!
I don't have kids either and I think I am pretty content. Sure there are issues, but listening to my siblings and others that are in their 60s and are parents and grandparents - what an unhappy bunch. And their kids aren't even close to being slackers. What the heck? Is it something inside you that makes you a happy person? If so, I am glad I am like my mom. LOL. I wish my sisters had inherited some of that.
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Old 09-10-2017, 10:45 AM
 
Location: New Mexico
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I just went to a couple's 65th wedding anniversary and they couldn't be happier. I'm sure there were tough times along the way, they were both born elsewhere, but they seem to be managing their elder years very nicely. They had a house full of family and friends helping them celebrate. They have good reason to be happy.
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Old 09-10-2017, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Cushing OK
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Luck had very little to do with anything. Life now is due to a lifetime of hard work, planning, lifestyle choices, and deferred gratification. Not all things are good in anyone's life. We all have struggles, tragedies, setbacks. Results in life are mostly about making good or bad choices. Not luck. Luck infers we had no control. We did.
This is true, up to a point. But health can change all your plans. I came down with a bad case of an autoimmune disease in my 20's. The doctor didn't know what was wrong so tried this and than and this again. No luck. When I got really bad, I went to another doctor who put me in the hospital and did tests. He said I should have been treated years before, but it would have limited effect now.

Since then, I have discovered the cause, but the dump site next to our street wasn't known to be the second on the EPA list of the ten worse back then.

My health has been at issue since even when it was okay. I've tried to achieve things I wanted, but the stress was too much. I just got too tired. Stress has very negative effects for me now. I tried to go back to work, and all the ability was there, but I couldn't give it all it needed. And it wasn't fair for them if I couldn't.

I had to come to peace over the idea that some of my dreams were not going to be. But I took it as a gift, too. It gave me time for others to grow. I feel the same deep joys in creating bits of needle arts as writing computer programs. I love writing stories. They are all making something new and origional out of scattered energies. They are all creating.

When I gave up the idea that somehow I was going to get past my body, and that the joys of creating something new were found on many roads, I started to feel much better too. I manage things like stress. You need some, but you need to know how to let go of it too. The irony is that I would likely make a better programmer now than then since I've learned when to stop for a while and see past the moment.

I 'retired' a while ago from the health issues, but there was always a feeling that I might get judged since I seemed pretty okay. Now, one year older, its officially okay. I'd still like to find a spot where I could show and maybe sell some of the stuff I make, maybe online. But its not because I need an excuse to do it, but because I love making origional things, and if someone found some joy in them too, it would be quite fufilling.
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Old 09-10-2017, 08:07 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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There is going to be a wild variance between someone who has had debilitating health problems through no fault of their own for the last twenty years and been out of the labor force, vs. a wealthy executive who has been blessed with looks, health, a beautiful spouse, etc.
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Old 09-11-2017, 11:56 AM
 
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What many miss here is that level of satisfaction correlates largely with financial success. Many older people are doing just fine in this country. Younger generations are not.

At 58, my wife and I are doing very well.

On the other hand, I am scared to death at the future that awaits the young people in my children's generation.

Now, I'll see if I get all the obligatory posts about "how its all their fault" despite the lack of well paying jobs and the high cost of college compared to when we were young.
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Old 09-11-2017, 01:43 PM
 
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What many miss here is that level of satisfaction correlates largely with financial success. Many older people are doing just fine in this country. Younger generations are not.

At 58, my wife and I are doing very well.

On the other hand, I am scared to death at the future that awaits the young people in my children's generation.

Now, I'll see if I get all the obligatory posts about "how its all their fault" despite the lack of well paying jobs and the high cost of college compared to when we were young.
Yet in this survey, 61% of people aged 18 to 39 are satisfied - compared with 67% of people age 60 and older.

So the difference is not that great.

It's not like people ages 40 to 59 and 60 and older as groups are wildly more satisfied than the 18 to 39 year olds in terms of number of people.

(and 60% of people aged 40 to 59 are satisfied.)

And the survey was based on only 2600 people.

Also, there is a difference between being satisfied and being content. While the headline of the article uses the word 'content', the people polled were actually asked if they are 'satisfied' or 'very satisfied'.

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