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Old 09-08-2017, 04:18 AM
 
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I am still young certainly, but have to admit I worry about getting older. Call me vain but while I know I am no super model by any means, it is something I think about.
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Old 09-08-2017, 05:19 AM
 
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Generally, I think it's a much harder process for women. For me, it was 50. I see my peers practically in panic mode at the idea of growing old. To hold on to the physical with the latest lotion, potion, or procedure. Then, for extra fun, we go through the hell called menopause.

It's not all bad, though. I feel more confident, at peace, and am putting myself first for once.
I think the key to easing in to acceptance is for women to support each other more. I only have one friend that I can talk "real" to about this. My other close friends are in what I call the denial group.
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Old 09-08-2017, 05:30 AM
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Getting older. It beats the alternative. Doesn't bother me a bit. Bring the wrinkles and the aches and pains. I'm still enjoying life. I just have a few more Ibuprofen on hand.
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Old 09-08-2017, 05:33 AM
 
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I am still young certainly, but have to admit I worry about getting older. Call me vain but while I know I am no super model by any means, it is something I think about.
The alternative to getting older is death, which is more appealing to you?
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Old 09-08-2017, 05:37 AM
 
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Generally, I think it's a much harder process for women. For me, it was 50. I see my peers practically in panic mode at the idea of growing old. To hold on to the physical with the latest lotion, potion, or procedure. Then, for extra fun, we go through the hell called menopause.
It's not all bad, though. I feel more confident, at peace, and am putting myself first for once.
I think the key to easing in to acceptance is for women to support each other more. I only have one friend that I can talk "real" to about this. My other close friends are in what I call the denial group.
Not all women are like your description and I am one who is not even remotely close to your description, thank goodness.
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Old 09-08-2017, 05:57 AM
 
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Then, for extra fun, we go through the hell called menopause.

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It was no "hell" at all. I didn't even notice it. It was nothing. And no problems whatsoever.
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Old 09-08-2017, 06:05 AM
 
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i had decided at a young age that beauty ( as in the superficial expectations of society) on the outside disappears so I'd better work on the beauty inside. I live life to the fullest,enjoy my friends, my family and after surviving breast cancer I am loving life. i have a face my granddaughter loves and that means the world to me.
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Old 09-08-2017, 06:10 AM
 
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So I am not getting "over it" , I am embracing it . There is this moment when you hit a certain age (different for everyone) where you really don't give a rats backside what anyone thinks and you focus on the quality of your life and it isn't defined by whether a man notices you or not.
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Old 09-08-2017, 06:12 AM
 
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i had decided at a young age that beauty ( as in the superficial expectations of society) on the outside disappears so I'd better work on the beauty inside. I live life to the fullest,enjoy my friends, my family and after surviving breast cancer I am loving life. i have a face my granddaughter loves and that means the world to me.


This.
Well said.
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Old 09-08-2017, 06:38 AM
 
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It was no "hell" at all. I didn't even notice it. It was nothing. And no problems whatsoever.
Well, aren't you lucky! This is exactly what I was writing about. Women are so mean to each other. No supporting; just judging.
Just realize your experience is not the normal and for some of us it is a different journey, including suffering with health issues.

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