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Old 09-17-2017, 09:28 AM
 
Location: Virginia
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Well, in reference to post #8, I never really volunteered much while I was working because I traveled a lot, plus I did all the house and yard work in addition to my high-stress job. I did have my own small business for a few years after retiring, but gave it up due to the hassle. Now I volunteer through several organizations connected with gardening, tree stewardship, and environmental management and conservation. Those were always interests that I had, but now I have the time to actively pursue them with real results for the community. So a person CAN volunteer in retirement even though they didn't previously.
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Old 09-17-2017, 09:31 AM
 
Location: Colorado Springs
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Guilt?

Never. Hell I worked for 58 years.

Were you raised Catholic?
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Old 09-17-2017, 09:38 AM
 
Location: middle tennessee
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As I near retirement, I am very excited about it, but also fearful that I am going to feel guilty not working. I plan to retire next year at age 61 1/2. I have been careful, financially, which will enable me to live a modest, but comfortable life....which is what I have always done. But my parents always drilled a work ethic into me....work and save, work and save. How do others deal with the guilt of waking up on a Monday and not going to work along with everyone else? Does it dissipate over time? Did you not feel as guilty as you thought you might? I don't plan to sit in front of the TV eating bonbons. My plans are to exercise and be active in my new community.....but not pursuing a paycheck.....I am worried about how that will make me feel.

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I think its probably fear of the unknown. Its hard to imagine not having to work.

I still have days when I "work". Clean some area of the house or yard, catch up on paperwork, etc. I take days off too, when I don't get dressed and sit in front of the tv eating bonbons The biggest difference in my life now is that I move at my own speed.


Retirement is wonderful. I hope you are as happy with it as I am. I too started out not being able to imagine what it would be like. I worked two jobs much of my working life.

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Old 09-17-2017, 10:29 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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I was a workaholic before I retired at 58. I thought that I would have a hard time with idle time. I was never used to it. I have to tell you that these last two years flew by and I was rarely bored. I got over being a workaholic amazingly fast. You won't feel guilty about not working once you get a taste of that total freedom. It's intoxicating. Once in awhile I get anxious about something that needs to be done that I haven't gotten around to doing, but, meh, I'll get to it when I feel like doing it. That's retirement for me. It's all about having fun and resenting anything that interferes.
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Old 09-17-2017, 10:50 AM
 
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I kind of feel guilty when I run into people in their late 60s and 70s still working even though they struggle with health issues. I always wonder how they do it?

In my poor small south texas town lots of them are raising and supporting grandkids and kids - so they gotta work.

I do still volunteer - something I always did when I was in school and in the military. Exercise too was important.

Someone mentioned about those habits won't change and they might be right. I sometimes wonder if I hadn't spent over 20 years running and exercising in order to pass the yearly physical fitness test, would I be sitting here weighing over 200lbs? Probably
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Old 09-17-2017, 11:00 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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As I near retirement, I am very excited about it, but also fearful that I am going to feel guilty not working. I plan to retire next year at age 61 1/2. I have been careful, financially, which will enable me to live a modest, but comfortable life....which is what I have always done. But my parents always drilled a work ethic into me....work and save, work and save. How do others deal with the guilt of waking up on a Monday and not going to work along with everyone else? Does it dissipate over time? Did you not feel as guilty as you thought you might? I don't plan to sit in front of the TV eating bonbons. My plans are to exercise and be active in my new community.....but not pursuing a paycheck.....I am worried about how that will make me feel.

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I retired six years ago at nearly age 64, and have never felt one iota of guilt for doing so. Of course, I had a part time (at home ) consulting gig, which I recently gave up as it was costing me more in taxes than I felt was worth it, That and my eyes going buggy with too much close up work. This and my employment over the years made my time in the workplace paying into SS and Medicare a total of 45 years. IMO, if anyone deserved to retire, it's me.

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Old 09-17-2017, 11:07 AM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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As I near retirement, I am very excited about it, but also fearful that I am going to feel guilty not working. I plan to retire next year at age 61 1/2.
I retired one month short of my 60th birthday. Never looked back. Never felt guilty.

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I have been careful, financially, which will enable me to live a modest, but comfortable life....
Same here.

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How do others deal with the guilt of waking up on a Monday and not going to work
I exult. I revel. I enjoy. I give thanks.

No guilt at all.

Though I do, occasionally, feel a twinge of sympathy for those still working. But that passes quickly.
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Old 09-17-2017, 12:55 PM
 
Location: Location: Happy Place
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I am getting ready for retirement only a few more weeks to work. Retirement paperwork going in the mail next week...Social Security payment in place.

I cannot imagine feeling guilty for retiring. I worked 32 years and I feel GOOD about letting someone have my job and start their career.
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Old 09-17-2017, 01:05 PM
 
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So a person CAN volunteer in retirement even though they didn't previously.
Absolutely. I consider my stressful shift work job to have interfered with all other aspects of life and I do intend to be reborn.
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Old 09-17-2017, 01:44 PM
 
Location: Northern panhandle WV
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there are two kinds of people. Those that work to live and those that live to work.
if you are the first then you will have no reason to have guilt feelings. If you are the second then you will likely feel some guilt and like a duck out of water.
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