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Old 09-18-2017, 10:01 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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No guilt. At. All.
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Old 09-19-2017, 04:05 AM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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No guilt. At. All.
How could you living in paradise? LOL
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Old 09-19-2017, 06:48 AM
 
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I'm a youngish retiree and most of my peer group is still working. I have gotten the jealous comments and "you're too young to retire" comments. No, I'm not too young. I worked 50+ years of my life if you count up the total hours worked. I also prioritized putting money into my IRA rather than buying a $350,000 house or spending on yearly trips to Europe. No, I don't feel guilty about retiring while they're still working. That's on them. They made their own choices. One of my friends decided to buy a vacation home a few years before retirement and is now forced to work full time to pay for it since they don't plan on selling their other house. Another person (who can't afford to retire) is someone who bought an expensive house and then had multiple layoffs from jobs so was never able to put money into the IRA. Another person decided to have children later in life and is now strapped with that. They all made their choices as I see it.

However, I do understand the OPs comment about work ethic. It's very important to me to be productive rather than idle. I do volunteering, have a slew of personal hobbies, and am looking for a part time job.

I have one friend who is extremely ambitious and still trying to ramp up a career, still pushing and driving to get ahead, still working 12-14 hour days. The only conversation with this person is about work, work, work. This person tends to be overbearing and tell me that I'm too young to retire and might live to be 100 so I better keep working. Most of the time I can fluff this stuff off but sometimes it gets on my nerves and if I'm going through a negative mental stretch, I might let it get me down that I'm no longer using my skills or being productive like I used to be. Sometimes I look at my activities and feel that there's no meat and potatoes there. A few volunteer activities or hobbies doesn't seem to give the same ego boost that job success typically provides. It's then that I wonder if I'm wasting the experience and skills that I used to have and maybe feel a little guilt. It's not guilt about retirement but guilt about not using the skills that I once had.

So I get where the OP is coming from.
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Old 09-19-2017, 07:11 AM
 
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I'm going to retire next year and of course I'm very happy about it (particularly looking forward to the freedom I will experience), but yesterday I had a little heartpang when my colleague - a very nice guy- told me "I'm sure when you will be retired you will miss my little jokes", I certainly will...
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Old 09-19-2017, 08:42 AM
 
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Old 09-19-2017, 09:40 AM
 
Location: Texas
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[/quote]Now all of a sudden, at the moment of retirement, that official "place" as a contributing member of society evaporates. We still have an identity as an individual, of course; we have knowledge, interests, and ways of finding joy in life. But something very important and very central is indeed missing.

That takes an adjustment for many folks (notice I didn't say for all folks), so that need for an adjustment is what I hear the OP writing about.[/quote]

Very well stated. This is a key consideration for people contemplating retirement. My advice would be to make sure you are clear about what will be the central focus of your life before you retire. Make the changes necessary to set yourself up for an enjoyable post-career life while you still have the financial means and health to do so.

Things that people commonly do to replace work and a career often include:

-Family, travel/relocation to spend time with family
-Home projects, renovations, gardening, downsizing
-Social activities, volunteer work
-Travel in general
-Hobbies
-Fitness, exercise, walking, bike riding
-Finances, money management, investing
-Community involvement, charity, political causes
-Religion

I have found that arranging my week in advance with time scheduled for activities like these is quite helpful.
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Old 09-19-2017, 11:01 AM
 
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Retirement Guilt -- can't even image that. It's unimaginable for me.
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Old 09-19-2017, 11:13 AM
 
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Old 09-19-2017, 11:34 AM
 
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GUILT
[ɡilt]

NOUN
1) the fact of having committed a specified or implied offense or crime:
"it is the duty of the prosecution to prove the prisoner's guilt"
synonyms: culpability guiltiness blameworthiness wrongdoing wrong criminality misconduct sin
antonyms: innocence
2) a feeling of having done wrong or failed in an obligation:
"he remembered with sudden guilt the letter from his mother that he had not yet read"
synonyms: self-reproach self-condemnation shame a guilty conscience pangs of conscience remorse remorsefulness regret contrition contriteness compunction guilt complex
antonyms: innocence

Guilt? Heck no! That would imply that I have done something wrong. In my opinion, the ability to retire means that you have something right (many things, actually). Absolutely no reason to feel guilty because you have achieved a long anticipated dream that you worked hard to fulfill. The fact that others have not done the same is not your fault. Would you feel guilty if you won a race and others didn't? If someone fell during the race, but you were running ahead of them and didn't see them fall, is that your fault? It's okay to feel bad for someone, but that feeling isn't guilt, or it shouldn't be unless you were the cause of their failure.
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Old 09-19-2017, 12:40 PM
 
Location: Pac. NW
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Thrown overboard by whom? Your spouse or partner?
Metaphorically speakin'. Maybe I was just bred to work and don't know anything else.
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