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Old 09-22-2017, 09:27 AM
 
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I have always been happy. Just had different reasons at different times
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Old 09-22-2017, 09:28 AM
 
Location: Albuquerque NM
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Unhappiest - childhood. Dysfunctional family, poor, lived in bad neighborhoods, strict father and absent mother, felt like an outcast at school.

Happiest - age 16-35. I started dating and working, really enjoyed college, and started my career. For the first time, I was in control of my life and my destiny.
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Old 09-22-2017, 09:28 AM
 
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College years age 20 - 24 where my happiest.


In general the older I get the more miserable I have become current age 45. (hoping that turns around)
I have to say that the college years were very happy go lucky time, too. I love school.

I still haven't hit a major unhappy part to my life yet and hope I never do.

Hope you turn your way of thinking around and start enjoying life. You really have so much going for you. A family - spouse and son. Money in the bank - a good job - all your basic requirements are met - no issues there. Maybe your war experiences are keeping you from enjoying life?
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Old 09-22-2017, 09:31 AM
 
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In all honesty, 57 years into my life, I cannot distinguish my happiest/unhappiest times. I can list times that are easily defined as happy or unhappy. So here's a list sampling:

Happy - travelling/trips over the years
Unhappy - 3+ years of dealing with daughters deep depression (attempted 3-times along the way)
Happy - 2 wonderful children, 1 great daughter in law, 2 awesome grandchildren
Unhappy - various family health issues: Dad(87) with dementia, Mom(84) just over chemo/radiation treatment for lymphoma, and it came back; wife with chronic illness who can't work on disability; wife loses mother and oldest sister to Pancreatic Cancer
Happy - I woke up this morning (meaning I'm still in the game)

With all the highs were hidden lows, and with all the lows came personal growth experiences. I probably sound corny, but I see my life in one big moving & morphing journey. Despite having the human emotions of being happy/unhappy and having felt the joy and hurt that comes with the territory, the happiest/unhappiest times based on my life's perspective through today's eyes, are in a sense level. Call me balanced, or call me repressed for appearing not to have any emotions, but I feel the only way to contain my sanity and get the most enjoyment out of life that I can (with my current circumstances), is to keep it all under control and strive for balance while doing that ridiculous juggling thing with the laundry list of "to-dos".
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Old 09-22-2017, 09:41 AM
 
Location: DFW - Coppell / Las Colinas
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In all honesty, 57 years into my life, I cannot distinguish my happiest/unhappiest times. I can list times that are easily defined as happy or unhappy. So here's a list sampling:

Happy - travelling/trips over the years
Unhappy - 3+ years of dealing with daughters deep depression (attempted 3-times along the way)
Happy - 2 wonderful children, 1 great daughter in law, 2 awesome grandchildren
Unhappy - various family health issues: Dad(87) with dementia, Mom(84) just over chemo/radiation treatment for lymphoma, and it came back; wife with chronic illness who can't work on disability; wife loses mother and oldest sister to Pancreatic Cancer
Happy - I woke up this morning (meaning I'm still in the game)

With all the highs were hidden lows, and with all the lows came personal growth experiences. I probably sound corny, but I see my life in one big moving & morphing journey. Despite having the human emotions of being happy/unhappy and having felt the joy and hurt that comes with the territory, the happiest/unhappiest times based on my life's perspective through today's eyes, are in a sense level. Call me balanced, or call me repressed for appearing not to have any emotions, but I feel the only way to contain my sanity and get the most enjoyment out of life that I can (with my current circumstances), is to keep it all under control and strive for balance while doing that ridiculous juggling thing with the laundry list of "to-dos".
I agree Metalman... Life is like a roller coaster. Luckily the highs have exceeded the lows.

Only really bad time was in my mid 50's going through a divorce that ended a 35 year marriage.
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Old 09-22-2017, 09:43 AM
 
Location: Philadelphia/South Jersey area
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Humm happiest??

probably 25-30.
My girlfriends and I had really good jobs in NYC and we were the original "sex in the city" gals. Dating, clubbing, traveling and just having a great time.

unhappiest had to be from 2012 to 2015
2012. Husband of 28 years dies from leukemia.
2013 baby brother dies from pancreatic cancer
2015 best friend from college, for over 30 years dies from complications from obesity.

It feels like I wore black for 4 years straight.

although now is a pretty good time in my life also. so no complaints.
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Old 09-22-2017, 09:59 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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First forty years had many very unhappy moments/days. Dysfunctional home-life as a kid; got married at 19 and started another dysfunctional life till divorce at 40.

Divorce was a gift. I had so many fears of failing, not making it, etc. Never felt good about myself.

These past 35 years were not without problems, but any unhappiness was short-lived and overcome. So I would have to say I am at my happiness now, which kind of bugs me. Why now? Why not 30 years ago?

Better late than never.
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Old 09-22-2017, 09:59 AM
 
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In all honesty, 57 years into my life, I cannot distinguish my happiest/unhappiest times. I can list times that are easily defined as happy or unhappy. So here's a list sampling:

Happy - travelling/trips over the years
Unhappy - 3+ years of dealing with daughters deep depression (attempted 3-times along the way)
Happy - 2 wonderful children, 1 great daughter in law, 2 awesome grandchildren
Unhappy - various family health issues: Dad(87) with dementia, Mom(84) just over chemo/radiation treatment for lymphoma, and it came back; wife with chronic illness who can't work on disability; wife loses mother and oldest sister to Pancreatic Cancer
Happy - I woke up this morning (meaning I'm still in the game)

With all the highs were hidden lows, and with all the lows came personal growth experiences. I probably sound corny, but I see my life in one big moving & morphing journey. Despite having the human emotions of being happy/unhappy and having felt the joy and hurt that comes with the territory, the happiest/unhappiest times based on my life's perspective through today's eyes, are in a sense level. Call me balanced, or call me repressed for appearing not to have any emotions, but I feel the only way to contain my sanity and get the most enjoyment out of life that I can (with my current circumstances), is to keep it all under control and strive for balance while doing that ridiculous juggling thing with the laundry list of "to-dos".
Well said!
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Old 09-22-2017, 10:21 AM
 
Location: New Mexico
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I've been reasonably happy once I got out of high school and into college although there were some very tough times along the way. I rebelled at the regimentation and "joiner" and "cliquish" aspects of high school and have very few good memories from that period but my home life was fine all along and I had friends. All sorts of things fell into place in college.
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Old 09-22-2017, 11:20 AM
 
Location: Durham NC
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I would have to say early mid 30's when all the kids were young. I never had a bad time really kids all grown and married and I am now a grandfather. It's great but nothing could compare for me to when all the kids were little.
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