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Old 09-22-2017, 03:07 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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One of the two senior moderators posted a very interesting comment a few days ago in the About the Forum forum in a now closed thread entitled "Modify forum name to 'retirement and aging'. Here is that comment in its entirety:






"In theory, perhaps, you may call it an interest. But, as a moderator, Retirement is the forum where we get the most reports based on discrimination (either age or topic). No other fora come even close: people from Retirement constantly demand we close or move threads or ban certain people from posting because they "don't belong". We really don't need to give them another reason for this kind of thinking.

Thank you for the suggestion, I understand your reasoning but unfortunately, it'd only work the way I described."






I found that both fascinating and disheartening. Just imagine - no other forum comes close to this one in the number of posters demanding that threads be closed or moved or that certain people be banned from posting because they "don't belong". It doesn't speak so well for us as a group.


My suggestion is that people try to get over their literal-mindedness in adhering narrowly to "retirement" as a topic. Ever since I've been here (since 2010) this forum has doubled as an "all things senior" forum; after all, there is no other City-Data forum which covers that terrain. If a post has a connection to aging, then let's drop the "what has this got to do with retirement?" question.


In a similar vein, I suggest that people get over objecting to posters based solely on their age; younger people should be welcome to post here, as they may be looking ahead for advice on their own retirement planning or they may be talking about issues their own parents are facing. We (collectively) shouldn't be so grouchy and grumpy and unwelcoming.


Personally I don't much care for turning the entire forum into a gigantic chat thread (as opposed to using the existing Chat Thread), but since I realize I cannot hold back the tide, I do not jump in and object. It is pretty easy for me to look at a thread title and realize it's not something I'm interested in, in which case I don't even click on the thread. An objection on my part would only add negativity without much corresponding benefit to anybody. I am suggesting more of us consider that philosophy.


In the last six months I have reported exactly one post, and I can't even remember if it was in the Retirement Forum or not. No, I am not suggesting my record of non-reporting is something to emulate; it has its reasons which I am not going to get into. But just maybe a lot of us could give more thought to our motivations for reporting posts. Just because we find a poster irritating doesn't necessarily mean that person should be banned because he or she "doesn't belong". The effort to engage in an objective, dispassionate analysis could be a good thing.


I am still shaking my head in surprise about the post by the senior moderator.
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Old 09-22-2017, 03:15 PM
 
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Thanks for posting this, ER. I am always dismayed to see the accusatory "What does this have to do with retirement" comment. Or worse "Why is this 31-year-old posting here". Shame on you criticizers!


Let's lighten up and be welcoming, for heaven's sake. And since there isn't another senior forum, let's welcome all topics related to that. No wonder the young 'uns think we're all crotchety and exclusive.


SHEESH!
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Old 09-22-2017, 03:16 PM
 
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Escort Rider, What is it in the above post that makes you shake your head, and makes you also be surprised?

I'm not fully understanding what you mean. So if you could explain a little about what you mean that would be helpful.

Maybe your point is that there are a good number of objections to certain posts and threads, and people want them moved?
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Old 09-22-2017, 03:22 PM
 
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The "get off my lawn" syndrome?
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Old 09-22-2017, 03:24 PM
 
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ER, I have been in the forum longer than you and I have a sense you have picked up a change in tone etc etc. I sure have. I have a sense of what is and has happened and if interested will share. May not be what you had in mind with the thread so I won't comment unless you take it that way.
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Old 09-22-2017, 03:26 PM
 
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Escort Rider, What is it in the above post that makes you shake your head, and makes you also be surprised?

I'm not fully understanding what you mean. So if you could explain a little about what you mean that would be helpful.

Maybe your point is that there are a good number of objections to certain posts and threads, and people want them moved?
I think he is disheartened that there are so many close-minded (maybe not the right term) people in this forum? S0 nit picky? One would think that the older you get, the more mellow you get - like wine or bourbon? You would be willing to share your wisdom with all?
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Old 09-22-2017, 03:27 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Escort Rider, What is it in the above post that makes you shake your head, and makes you also be surprised?

I'm not fully understanding what you mean. So if you could explain a little about what you mean that would be helpful.

Maybe your point is that there are a good number of objections to certain posts and threads, and people want them moved?

I was surprised at the sheer volume of complaints which would cause the senior moderator to place this forum at the top of the list of all City-Data forums for that volume. You were not surprised by it?
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Old 09-22-2017, 03:28 PM
 
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I was surprised at the sheer volume of complaints which would cause the senior moderator to place this forum at the top of the list of all City-Data forums for that volume. You were not surprised by it?
wow, but not surprising.
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Old 09-22-2017, 03:28 PM
 
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sounds to me (correct me if I'm wrong) that the mod was saying that the retirement forum has the most reports of 'off topic'.


ER was voicing his surprise at this. There's a whole lot of forums here. For the Retirement one to have the most 'off topic' reports makes us sound like a bunch of crotchedy old sticks in the mud.

And there's a lot of comments about someone being too young to post on the retirement forum, like there's a minimum age requirement.

His attitude/request is that the posters here lighten up and not be so narrow-mindedly snooty.


if that's the gist of his post, I agree.
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Old 09-22-2017, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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sounds to me (correct me if I'm wrong) that the mod was saying that the retirement forum has the most reports of 'off topic'.


ER was voicing his surprise at this. There's a whole lot of forums here. For the Retirement one to have the most 'off topic' reports makes us sound like a bunch of crotchedy old sticks in the mud.

And there's a lot of comments about someone being too young to post on the retirement forum, like there's a minimum age requirement.

His attitude/request is that the posters here lighten up and not be so narrow-mindedly snooty.


if that's the gist of his post, I agree.

Yes, the way you expressed it is a pretty good take on the gist of my post.
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