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Old 09-28-2017, 03:14 PM
 
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Somewhere on one of the memorial threads it was mentioned that Robyn didn't think anyone should move into a CCRC until the age of 80. As I am looking at these communities, I'd be interested in her reasoning. I tried a search but came up empty.
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Old 09-28-2017, 03:38 PM
 
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THREAD Sorry I moved, Should I go back? (move, communities, friends)

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Three months ago I moved to a CCRC and I now regret it. I'm almost 70 and was concerned about having care as I get older. I am a widow and my only child is in Australia where I do not want to live (but do visit).

My CCRC is in too small a town and not close enough to any big city so I'm not finding things to do. 90% of the residents are much older and often more infirm.

I loved my old community but didn't want to take care of a house anymore. Now I feel I moved too soon.

Should I try to go home again and buy in the same community where I still have friends or try a different CCRC in a larger city with a younger average resident base?

I am kicking myself but not certain if I should move. This is an expensive mistake to make but I remind myself I'll be dead a long, long time so I need to live where I want no

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Originally Posted by Mr5150

So a simple yes-no question. How many here have been in a long term care facility? If you believe the insurance boys, 70% of folk over 65 will spend an average of two years in a LTC facility.

My research says otherwise. Are you over 65? Spent any time in LTC?

What I did find is those over 90 did have a 50% chance of ending one's days in a LTC facility.

My research says otherwise. Are you over 65? Spent any time in LTC?

What I did find is those over 90 did have a 50% chance of ending one's days in a LTC facility.

Posted by Robyn55 below in response to Mr5150

I think you're asking the wrong question. It's not whether we for the most part have spent time in a LTC facility. We are mostly < 75. It's whether our parents or inlaws have. In my case - my late FIL spent the average 2.5 years in a LTC facility before he died. He was in his early 80's. My late MIL was in and out of them after various hospitalizations in her late 70's (she died with home hospice at age 79). My late mother needed LTC - but got it at home (not at all cheap). In her early 80's.

My father is still alive - and not yet in a LTC facility (although he does live in a "senior" facility). He is 95. The average age in his facility now is about 84 (just about no one < 75 - many people in their 80's). Just about everyone he knows has spent at least some time in a LTC facility (he's been living in his current place for about 8 years now). It is often the last place people live before they die.

So - based on what I've observed - the critical age isn't 90. For most people - it's closer to 80.

Also - statistics can lie to a certain extent. Because many people have too much money to qualify for Medicaid and not enough to pay for LTC. So their families struggle to take care of them at home when LTC would be a better solution. Robyn

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Old 09-28-2017, 03:49 PM
 
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Thank you, matisse12

I am thinking my husband and I would want to move into one in our mid-70s because we have to be capable of living independently when we move in and pass a medical exam. It might make fitting in and making friends a bit easier too.
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Old 09-28-2017, 04:16 PM
 
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My parents went in to a CCRC 2 yrs ago at age 79 and thought they might be a little early as they see several residents in walkers and still don't like seeing it.

The price is very high $5k/month for both of them. Plus to get in was very expensive. They like the social contact and having the amenities in their facility. They've made several friends. They probably have a few regrets as their home had things (more space, garage) that they currently don't have. Both are still very fit and physically active and do a lot of things every day....always busy w/ activities.
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Old 09-28-2017, 04:23 PM
 
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Thank you, matisse12

I am thinking my husband and I would want to move into one in our mid-70s because we have to be capable of living independently when we move in and pass a medical exam. It might make fitting in and making friends a bit easier too.
I help a lot of seniors, and it is alarming to see how many people are moving OUT of CCRC for various reasons (usually they come too early). I find early to mid 80's more common, but some are not ready in mid nineties. Just have your plan made and documented and conveyed (to whoever might implement it) by age 78.

All are different (People and facilities). Many are very nice, most are pretty old demographic

My mom tried one for 90 days at age 84, she returned home, but soon required higher care. She is sticking it out at home, with in-home caregivers. (she is much happier that way). Often great for couples (Shared caregiver). Thus... I build extra living space in each of my homes, or next door (buy / build a home next door for YOU or future caregiver)

Of 4 couples I moved into CCRC, all 4 left... (For various reasons,)

Having to split up couples is another frequent show stopper (some CCRC have crazy strict rules)

Good luck
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Old 09-29-2017, 10:49 AM
 
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Somewhere on one of the memorial threads it was mentioned that Robyn didn't think anyone should move into a CCRC until the age of 80. As I am looking at these communities, I'd be interested in her reasoning. I tried a search but came up empty.
Robyn and I had multiple exchanges on this topic. A lot was based on her dad and her own personal situation. Robyn was wealthy and could afford at home services as needed. She had a large one story home which she could outfit as needed. Eighty is often a common age that folks actually go in. We are looking at age 75 plus but probably 80. Reality is the average age is in the 80's and that will be your peer group. There are new CCRC models aimed at younger folks. Will it work?
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Old 09-29-2017, 01:30 PM
 
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Somewhere on one of the memorial threads it was mentioned that Robyn didn't think anyone should move into a CCRC until the age of 80. As I am looking at these communities, I'd be interested in her reasoning. I tried a search but came up empty.
Did Robyn pass away?
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Old 09-29-2017, 01:37 PM
 
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Yes she did.
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Old 09-29-2017, 01:38 PM
 
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Robyn Greene obituaries

http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/her...&pid=186314625

http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/nam...view=guestbook

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Old 09-29-2017, 01:51 PM
 
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Densi52,

Here is a list of threads containing Robyn55's posts in threads where CCRC's are discussed.

http://www.city-data.com/forum/searc...rchid=29854779

I searched and there are no threads which she started that have CCRC in the title.

If you glance down the list, you can see the numerous threads on CCRC's. Robyn55 posted in all of them.

I know it might be cumbersome. But might be worthwhile for someone interested in CCRC's.

(I post it just in case it's helpful)
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