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I found this article tonight on the CitiLab website and decided to share it. Loneliness causes or worsens many health conditions, and spans all ages. It is something we all need to be aware of. A friend of mine was widowed two weeks ago, and another friend, who was widowed in the spring, is expressing grief tonight in a Facebook post. Here is the article.......Thoughts? Solutions?
I can relate to that story. We humans are social animals and we need social connections to maintain health. Loneliness can kill you. Sitting in your recliner all day watching TV is unhealthy.
I retired two years ago. Although I love my wife, I do miss the intellectual stimulation of solving difficult technical problems while working with a group of the smartest people I've ever met. Who would not?
That's why I agreed to return to do a consulting job part time. I'm looking forward to that mental stimulation. Being alone for too long gets boring.
Ever wonder why such rich notables as Buffet and Gates still work? It sure isn't for the money!
I guess I was born without the social connection gene.
I feel better mentally when I'm alone and people not bugging the crap out of me.
Besides, when ever I need a social fix, that's what internet forums are for.
I like people around when I want them - ultimately, as long as I can control the access, and typically in short doses. Otherwise, I'd generally rather be alone. I don't need constant stimulation from other people.
With that said, not having the option to connect to people is different than wanting to be alone.
Being with friends beats being alone, but being alone beats *having* to be around people who are annoying or boring or crabby. Guess which kind you'll meet in a facility for the Old.
Being with friends beats being alone, but being alone beats *having* to be around people who are annoying or boring or crabby. Guess which kind you'll meet in a facility for the Old.
Probably some of the same people I worked with, members in groups I've joined and neighbors I've had.
I guess I was born without the social connection gene.
I feel better mentally when I'm alone and people not bugging the crap out of me.
Besides, when ever I need a social fix, that's what internet forums are for.
Yep. I love my solitude more than ever. I live with someone, but we both need our alone time which is why it works well. I also live in NYC so by default I'm around other people. And that whole work office forced communication was awful lol
I never feel lonely. At times I choose to be with others, at other times I choose to be by myself. I don't question my choices because I am comfortable with who I am and my preferences - and that is the key: "I" make the decisions, I don't do anything because someone else tells me I "should".
The worse kind of loneliness is being with the wrong person.
Would that be "loneliness" or "grief"? Although I wouldn't have thought it possible, I have come to be quite comfortable being alone most of the time. However, the initial stages (when I was used to -- not to say addicted to -- having someone physically near and emotionally close constantly, which I dare say MOST people are) were extremely scary and stressful.
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