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I'm at that age 50s where the aging appears to take a faster pace. Greying hair, and the changes to the face is really significant. No matter what I do with my physical fitness, can't seem to slow the physical aging that's going on. Two choices I guess, accept it or be miserable. Trying to age gracefully while maintaining fitness and weight control.
About the voice, it was kind of interesting -- a few months ago, an old FL neighbor contacted me. He had been married when he lived here, moved away two years ago and now is back up North with his adult children and divorced. I didn't really remember what he looked like other than non-descript balding guy with glasses and really prominent white teeth (that looked false). He kept calling, I got the impression he was interested, and I also thought he was around my age because we have mutual friends from up North who are exactly my age. But his voice did sound old. Older than I thought it should have for late 60's. Could have been from former smoking, but also sounded a little mush-mouthed like Trump sounded when they thought his dentures were slipping.
Anyway, from some things he said and a little googling, I found out he's 78 -- 11 years older than me. Well yeah, now he's going on 80, no wonder he sounds old. I lost interest after that, I have a hard time with men my own age, much less someone almost 80.
Escort Rider, I have been reading your posts for years and you always sound so positive and fit! I knew you were "retirement age" but thought of you as one of the most active/youthful folks on the forum. Though I haven't heard your voice (lol, just kidding!).
I'm late 60's, female, relatively slim and stylish, but yet I feel old when I look in the mirror. I see the wrinkly chin/neck, the puckery lines above the upper lip (non-smoker but used straws all the time....bad!), the leathery skin on my arms from years in the sun, the "fat puffs" in places where my weight has shifted. For somebody who's always been fairly vain about my looks, this stuff is really a bummer. When I look back at my pictures from my 50's, that was really the last time I looked great. At 60, all hell started to break loose. I'd go plastic surgery but I mean, really, there's just too much to fix at this point.
You might get a consultation before you dismiss a little nip 'n' tuck. The "wrinkly chin/neck" is the most aging thing, and yet easiest to fix. As are drooping eyes. You'd be amazed.
As to leathery, wrinkled arms---no fix I know of there. And we have to LOOK AT THEM while we type. That's the worst.
But yeah, that fast aging is the pits. I, too, feel like I looked pretty good until 58. Then, downhill like a shot. Depressing!!
About the voice, it was kind of interesting -- a few months ago, an old FL neighbor contacted me. He had been married when he lived here, moved away two years ago and now is back up North with his adult children and divorced. I didn't really remember what he looked like other than non-descript balding guy with glasses and really prominent white teeth (that looked false). He kept calling, I got the impression he was interested, and I also thought he was around my age because we have mutual friends from up North who are exactly my age. But his voice did sound old. Older than I thought it should have for late 60's. Could have been from former smoking, but also sounded a little mush-mouthed like Trump sounded when they thought his dentures were slipping.
Anyway, from some things he said and a little googling, I found out he's 78 -- 11 years older than me. Well yeah, now he's going on 80, no wonder he sounds old. I lost interest after that, I have a hard time with men my own age, much less someone almost 80.
Voice tones don't always give the age away. Seems one of the traits inherited in our family is our voices. My sisters and I, as well as my daughter's voice, sound exactly alike, and we inherited it from my mother. So on the phone, it's very hard to tell if one is talking to my mother, age 91, my daughter, age 33, or me, or my sisters ( ages 70, 69 and 67 respectively). Except that my mother still has a slight southern accent that the rest of us don't have.
Funny story. My 67 yr old DH works part time at Home Depot. He’s always been blond but is now gray. He’s very fit and healthy and I think he could pass for 10 years younger.
So, a call came in to the store, and the caller asked for “ the distinguished elderly gentleman in hardware.” My husband was crushed for days. I told him he should focus on the distinguished gentleman part, not the elderly art.
Sort of related to the OPs question, when do you think the switch gets flipped when we older people think it makes sense to send money to televangelists and phone scams?
As for me, I’m 69 and I look younger and think I’m still pretty hip.
My friend was in her mid-forties and going through chemo. She eschewed the wig thing when her hair fell out and just tied pretty scarves on her head instead until her hair grew back in. She was very petite, only 4'11".
She went to the store to buy a card for a kid making confirmation, and they didn't have any. At the store was a young woman also looking for a confirmation card, and they both realized there weren't any to be had.
At that moment, the young woman's mother apparently called, and my friend overheard her say, "I'm telling you, Mom, there are no confirmation cards here. There's an old lady looking for one, too, and she couldn't find any!"
I remember the first time age hit me...in line at groc store...
looked up to realize everyone working and those shopping were all younger than I am...
In the months before I retired, I noticed that the workplace had gotten much younger. Even worse, people I thought of as new to the workplace really weren't. They were in their 30s, and they had positions of responsibility.
My friend was in her mid-forties and going through chemo. She eschewed the wig thing when her hair fell out and just tied pretty scarves on her head instead until her hair grew back in. She was very petite, only 4'11".
She went to the store to buy a card for a kid making confirmation, and they didn't have any. At the store was a young woman also looking for a confirmation card, and they both realized there weren't any to be had.
At that moment, the young woman's mother apparently called, and my friend overheard her say, "I'm telling you, Mom, there are no confirmation cards here. There's an old lady looking for one, too, and she couldn't find any!"
I wonder if I was as insensitive like that in my younger years - I sure am not now as a mid-50s yr old person living in a retirement community with some folks in their 80-90s. Much respect for them. All of them.
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