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Old 01-05-2018, 07:22 AM
Location: Wonderland
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Originally Posted by Blondy View Post
This is your brother's problem......speaking of boundaries.........

I would let him solve it or not.
BINGO. You took the words right out of my mouth.
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Old 01-05-2018, 07:47 AM
Location: Loudon, TN
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Originally Posted by AndCatsForAll View Post
I agree whole-heartedly about the dog. My dad just got a pup. My husband and I know we will be taking it in if he gets too sick and we helped him pick out the animal and ensured it was getting obedience training. It's done wonders for him in every way but yeah, it's possible it will outlive him and if that happens we will take it in. We haven't replaced our last dog in case we need to take in his dog and we've been holding a spot for years just in case. Our last dog died in 2006.

But I stand firm on the lock issue. I wouldn't change them. I'd rather just keep intimate moments restricted to the bedroom and have dad wander into the front of house and call out than to keep him outside. He can wait in the kitchen for all I care. He can turn on the tv sit down and watch judge shows it's not a big deal. Perhaps that's because it's in the negative degrees before windchill this weekend or perhaps because I know he's not as on top of things mentally as he used to be. I'd rather have him safe and warm than waiting outside and suffer what could be somewhat of an embarrassing moment.

Older parents can be frustrating and inconvenient but so are kids. I still think grown kids owe their parents- especially if they've stuck around for the children's' lives and done their level best to create a good home. I do feel we owe it back.
I agree about just putting a lock on the bedroom door too, so if he comes over he can just hang out and watch TV. But I'll bet that if he walks over once or twice and finds the door locked and has to walk back, maybe he will start to get the idea to call first so he doesn't make a trip for nothing. And I think by telling him there will be times it's locked for privacy, but that it will be unlocked otherwise, he won't be offended by it.
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