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Old 02-16-2018, 09:46 PM
 
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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Also known as Carte Blanche. Basically means anything goes. I appreciate that in our/this section of C-D we use can discuss any topic. Be it cell phones to long term care heath insurance. Just want to give a thank you to the the mods for allowing us old folks to babble about any topic. Be it having having to do with our grand kids or buying a new car. *Nothing* is off topic here. Well except for health insurance/Medicare. And religion.

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Old 02-16-2018, 10:20 PM
 
Location: Silicon Valley
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What's on my mind right now is another tenant in my building who has dementia. I just started a thread in the Caregiving forum asking if anyone has experience with Adult Protective Services. He is getting worse and has been wearing the same pajamas for weeks, and appears to be getting thinner. Supposedly he has a daughter who checks him, but he needs round the clock supervision and he's not getting it. I don't think he's bathing and maybe not even eating.

Management has just asked me to email them regularly to document his behavior. Apparently they are documenting and trying to get help for him, or to force his daughter to find him assisted living, I don't know.

But, I'm thinking I will call APS on Monday. Was wondering if that might do more harm than good. It's so sad. He always asks everyone what day it is, and now can't even find his own apartment. He has the number written on a piece of paper. So sad. I'm worried about him.
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Old 02-16-2018, 10:28 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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What's on my mind right now is another tenant in my building who has dementia. I just started a thread in the Caregiving forum asking if anyone has experience with Adult Protective Services. He is getting worse and has been wearing the same pajamas for weeks, and appears to be getting thinner. Supposedly he has a daughter who checks him, but he needs round the clock supervision and he's not getting it. I don't think he's bathing and maybe not even eating.

Management has just asked me to email them regularly to document his behavior. Apparently they are documenting and trying to get help for him, or to force his daughter to find him assisted living, I don't know.

But, I'm thinking I will call APS on Monday. Was wondering if that might do more harm than good. It's so sad. He always asks everyone what day it is, and now can't even find his own apartment. He has the number written on a piece of paper. So sad. I'm worried about him.
Call the daughter first. If you don't have her number, then call APS.

If you call the daughter, emphasize that he is not functioning well, and that you have considered calling the APS. That should get her attention.

When my mom was losing her marbles, her friends finally did begin telling her daughters about things she was doing or not doing. I kind of wish they had started telling us before they finally did. They waited until we decided we had to do something.

Your neighbor is in danger. He might not be eating and he is not functioning well. When he doesn't eat, that just makes him worse. He might not be taking important meds as well.
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Old 02-16-2018, 10:42 PM
 
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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Hmm. Important stuff. Glad we have the permission.
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Old 02-16-2018, 11:39 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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What's on my mind right now is another tenant in my building who has dementia. I just started a thread in the Caregiving forum asking if anyone has experience with Adult Protective Services. He is getting worse and has been wearing the same pajamas for weeks, and appears to be getting thinner. Supposedly he has a daughter who checks him, but he needs round the clock supervision and he's not getting it. I don't think he's bathing and maybe not even eating.

Management has just asked me to email them regularly to document his behavior. Apparently they are documenting and trying to get help for him, or to force his daughter to find him assisted living, I don't know.

But, I'm thinking I will call APS on Monday. Was wondering if that might do more harm than good. It's so sad. He always asks everyone what day it is, and now can't even find his own apartment. He has the number written on a piece of paper. So sad. I'm worried about him.
I worked as a home health aide for a few months & to this day regret not informing social services about a woman I was concerned about. I did let the company I worked for about my concerns but they said there was nothing they could do.

Well, a neighbor became concerned & finally went over & she'd been lying on the floor, unable to reach the phone & who knew how long she'd been there. I onlynsaw her once a week.

Talk to the daughter but also follow your move intuition. I wish I had.
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Old 02-17-2018, 04:06 AM
 
Location: Idaho
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...*Nothing* is off topic here. Well except for health insurance/Medicare. And religion.
And partisan politics.
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Old 02-17-2018, 04:11 AM
 
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What's the meaning of the thread title? I'm usually old enough to get most references. Did they used to call the old credit card "the white card?" I even checked to see if it was a soccer reference. LOL
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Old 02-17-2018, 04:36 AM
 
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What's the meaning of the thread title? I'm usually old enough to get most references. Did they used to call the old credit card "the white card?" I even checked to see if it was a soccer reference. LOL
Carte Blanche is basically anything goes or no limits. I think with the credit card it was sort of trying to be super upscale and suggesting that it could be used for whatever you wanted. (you know, as in no credit limit no worry about affording it............if you have to ask the price you probably can't afford it At least that is my interpretation).
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Old 02-17-2018, 04:59 AM
 
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What's on my mind right now is another tenant in my building who has dementia. I just started a thread in the Caregiving forum asking if anyone has experience with Adult Protective Services. He is getting worse and has been wearing the same pajamas for weeks, and appears to be getting thinner. Supposedly he has a daughter who checks him, but he needs round the clock supervision and he's not getting it. I don't think he's bathing and maybe not even eating.

Management has just asked me to email them regularly to document his behavior. Apparently they are documenting and trying to get help for him, or to force his daughter to find him assisted living, I don't know.

But, I'm thinking I will call APS on Monday. Was wondering if that might do more harm than good. It's so sad. He always asks everyone what day it is, and now can't even find his own apartment. He has the number written on a piece of paper. So sad. I'm worried about him.
And thread hijacks are allowed to slide.

When I went though this, it's pretty painful in the state where I dealt with it. You need a physician's assessment filled out in a very specific way on a state form. You then have to go to court to get a legal guardian appointed. Good luck getting the physician's assessment for anyone who isn't cooperative. In court, the judge is going to be very reluctant to grant guardianship for anyone who fights it. It's a bunch of money for the lawyers which might be why the daughter isn't doing it.

Where I live, there are town or county social workers who handle this kind of thing. The main thing you want to do is talk to the social worker to make sure this guy is on their radar screen. "Management" might not have done this. In my town, I'd just poke my nose into the Elderly Affairs office. Every state manages this differently but it's likely it will always end up you talking to a social worker to make sure they're aware of the issue.
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Old 02-17-2018, 05:05 AM
 
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Carte Blanche is basically anything goes or no limits. I think with the credit card it was sort of trying to be super upscale and suggesting that it could be used for whatever you wanted. (you know, as in no credit limit no worry about affording it............if you have to ask the price you probably can't afford it At least that is my interpretation).
That I understand. I don't understand the white part. Most credit cards were white in the past. What it a colloquialism?
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