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Old 02-22-2018, 05:40 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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YOU SHOULD NEVER USE A NURSING HOME. Oops! Caps stuck. NH are an unnatural way of extending the end of life suffering that is part of the dying process. Die in your own home in your own bed.
My mother spent her last months in a LTC facility. Her life was not prolonged. She died a natural death.
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Old 02-22-2018, 05:46 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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I'm 61 but due to various issues which include very limited family that is physically distant and with their own issues,no friends or social circle for being extremely introverted,chronic illnesses that will affect my mobility sooner than later,and huge financial mistakes I have made that have left me without savings,deep in debt and renting for the rest of my life,these thoughts just creep on very frequently.What's gonna happen to me when I can no longer work...or wipe my butt??

I guess I am depressed...but what can I do? More meds from the shrink??.

I already do all those things you are supposed to do when you are depressed...
Exercise(Stationary bike 40-50 miles/week)...eat very healthy..take certain supplements,try to get adequate sleep,losing some additional weight,etc....but...I can't help thinking about what's gonna happen.

Tks for asking...I guess I really needed to vent at this moment!
In all seriousness, I think you need to find a reason for living.

If you are not working, find an activity you believe in and volunteer. Yeah, yeah, you are an introvert. Push yourself a little. If you are retired, what you have plenty of is time.
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Old 02-22-2018, 05:50 PM
 
Location: Tampa, FL
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YOU SHOULD NEVER USE A NURSING HOME. Oops! Caps stuck. NH are an unnatural way of extending the end of life suffering that is part of the dying process. Die in your own home in your own bed.
Not prolonging. Making the transition more comfortable as one deteriorates while needing assistance with basics (is body functions). I would be suspicious of elder neglect if healthcare/nursing care wasn't being provided in your home scenario.
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Old 02-22-2018, 05:51 PM
 
Location: Raleigh
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FIL did nothing special other than lead a clean and sober life. Fortunately he worked for a major corporation and so did his wife. She's gone , sadly, but he's still kicking along at 100. Retired for 35 years, longer than I've worked. Almost longer that HE worked for them. Sheesh.
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Old 02-22-2018, 06:44 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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This is likely to change as legislators want major changes to Medicare.
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I doubt they will eliminate Medicare, although I know Repubs are itching to change it. But, remember—seniors VOTE.
Medicare will pay for nursing home care up to 28 days.

Long-term care is provide through Medicaid for the vast majority.

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I'm 61 but due to various issues which include very limited family that is physically distant and with their own issues,no friends or social circle for being extremely introverted,chronic illnesses that will affect my mobility sooner than later,and huge financial mistakes I have made that have left me without savings,deep in debt and renting for the rest of my life,these thoughts just creep on very frequently.What's gonna happen to me when I can no longer work...or wipe my butt??
When the time comes, you'll go into long-term nursing home care, courtesy of Medicaid.
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Old 02-22-2018, 06:48 PM
 
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Medicare will pay for nursing home care up to 28 days.

Long-term care is provide through Medicaid for the vast majority.



When the time comes, you'll go into long-term nursing home care, courtesy of Medicaid.
Assuming Medicaid is not dramatically curtailed. Have you read about the changes many politicians want to make to these programs?
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Old 02-22-2018, 07:18 PM
 
Location: Omaha, Nebraska
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When the time comes, you'll go into long-term nursing home care, courtesy of Medicaid.
IF the time comes. The OP's health is not great, but she may never need to go into a nursing home. (Knock on wood!)
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Old 02-22-2018, 07:21 PM
 
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Put as much thought, planning, research, and effort into staying fit and healthy as you do for your finances, and your chances of ending up in a nursing home can go way down.
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Old 02-22-2018, 10:27 PM
 
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Better yet, if I have to face the prospect of going to a nursing home at an exorbitant cost that would drain my assets to zero, I'm going to call my sister and tell her to come visit immediately (wink, wink), go out to the garage, start the engine, and close the garage door! I'll even lay in the cargo compartment of my station wagon on my Weather-Tech cargo mat, so I don't mess up the car! Problem solved!
Every time the subject of nursing homes come up, people flippantly reply that they will just kill themselves instead of ending up in one. The problem with such "planning" is that there's a good chance you could suffer a stroke out of the blue, rendering you incapable of carrying out your "plan."
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Old 02-22-2018, 10:44 PM
 
Location: WA
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True, anyone could theoretically stroke out in the next second but that's not the norm. Euthanasia is going to be huge thing. The medical profession has been somewhat resistant in most states because it doesn't want to be accused of killing people on purpose.

Maybe it would be a good specialty for incompetent doctors to practice, if they screw up, the patient lives.

Is it really a bad thing to let someone die in a peaceful way, at the time and place of their choice? I made some bad investments and can't afford / don't want to waste away in a nursing home until the bitter end. Not going to outlive my money.
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