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View Poll Results: At what age were you the most unhappy and discontented?
Under 15 17 11.41%
15-20 20 13.42%
20-25 18 12.08%
25-30 13 8.72%
30-35 10 6.71%
35-40 11 7.38%
40-45 10 6.71%
45-50 4 2.68%
50-55 12 8.05%
55-60 12 8.05%
60-65 7 4.70%
65-70 1 0.67%
Over 70 1 0.67%
My present age 9 6.04%
I'm still under 60. 4 2.68%
Voters: 149. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 02-26-2018, 11:09 AM
 
Location: Wyoming
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It's interesting that people think of older people saying the cliché "Enjoy your youth. These are the best years of your life."

Yet over a half in this poll say the unhappiest times were when they were under 30. Over a third said under 20.
Well, the results are skewed because most CDers probably haven't reached old age yet. If you're 25 years old, ya gotta pick something under 25, right?
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Old 02-26-2018, 11:39 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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Well, the results are skewed because most CDers probably haven't reached old age yet. If you're 25 years old, ya gotta pick something under 25, right?
Well this is in the retirement forum, so I would guess most of those here are at, or near, retirement age...with some notable exceptions.
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Old 02-26-2018, 01:17 PM
 
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When I was a child trapped in an abusive home, and undergoing yet more abuse at school. I declined to answer your poll as the ranges simply do not apply.

Everything since then has been better. Once I got out from under my mother's influence and control, even when bad things happen (and they have), at least I had some options and some power. I am disabled and that's no fun - but its just chance. It's not something being done TO me. True, I can't escape it, but at least its not the result of the inescapable malice and anger of another.
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Old 02-26-2018, 03:51 PM
 
Location: WA
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Right now - at 60. hate where I'm living; too young for SS; struggling terribly with 4 part-time jobs; thoroughly stressed out; lost two STELLAR canine companions within a year; gained a lot of weight! Are we having fun yet?
I hear ya...I'm 61 and it's kind of an in-between age. Not really old yet but not young anymore. Signs of aging increasing. I also hate where I live but not up for another move yet. Need to work but having a hard time getting hired (or even an interview). I've lost my youthful optimism and thought I'd be much more content at this age but it's a whole new ballgame. Parents gone and no more relationship with only sister. So...it's weird being so alone too. Sorry about your dogs...I don't have pets but I know you get attached. It sounds like you still have a sense of humor though so that's a plus.
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Old 02-26-2018, 04:18 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I guess I have a slightly different take on the question.

It seems to me that unhappy and discontented are two different things. I have been discontented from time to time, usually because I couldn't yet see how to make a much-needed change or didn't fully understand that change was necessary.

Discontent means: "dissatisfaction with one's circumstances." Discontent is what spurs you to action.

Had I always been content, always complacent, I would have missed out on so much. So I embrace discontent.

As for unhappy, look at all the synonyms:

sad, miserable, sorrowful, dejected, despondent, disconsolate, morose, broken-hearted, heartbroken, hurting, down, downcast, dispirited, downhearted, depressed, melancholy, mournful, gloomy, glum, lugubrious, despairing, doleful, forlorn, woebegone, woeful, long-faced, joyless, cheerless

That's actually a lot of differing emotions. Haven't all of us been pretty much every one of those at one time or another?
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Old 02-26-2018, 08:05 PM
 
Location: Raleigh
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Takes out wallet, checks ID . . . takes out smartphone, checks date . . .
"Yup, 74 1/2."

Last edited by Crashj007; 02-26-2018 at 08:06 PM.. Reason: phone
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Old 02-26-2018, 09:32 PM
 
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Ok I've had Back problems for years but last Fall I got real Bad. Found it was Arthritis. I'm 64.


Went being depressed to a very Low. Lately I am able to get around better, doing some Work Out in the Gym and Hoping to get back into the outdoors.


brushrunner
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Old 02-26-2018, 09:46 PM
 
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Right now. Though I am loving retirement, the deteriorating physical issues are so discouraging. Age 62.
I agree. I have had ovarian cancer, a hysterectomy, cervical spine fusion surgery, one meniscus repair on each knee, then a total knee replacement on my right knee. High blood pressure, high cholesterol, Borderline diabetes. Arthritis. My body hurts most of the time. I am only 62. Not sure what my future health is going to be.
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Old 02-27-2018, 07:34 AM
 
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This thread might seem depressing, but it also makes me feel like I am not alone. Most of us have problems and sometimes thinking that everyone else is out having a jolly old time can make it worse. Misery loves company? I guess, but it feels like getting a big hug when you need it.
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Old 02-27-2018, 09:11 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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For those of you who have chronic pain, is there a pain management center where you live? Have you tried it?

The best are multidisciplinary, meaning they don't just give you drugs, they teach you non-medical methods for dealing with pain.
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