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Old 03-07-2018, 02:25 PM
Location: Central NY
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^^^^^ I agree. Some very inappropriate things have been said.

Old 03-07-2018, 02:36 PM
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Originally Posted by NYgal1542 View Post
I would imagine I'll get some interesting answers to this question.

Since life holds no guarantees for any of us, how willing are you to take a step without knowing you will step on terra firma vs open space?

How do you decide whether to live a dream vs stay "safe" with what is known to you?

My dream is to move out of my senior one-bedroom apartment in central NY. Every day is the same, wake up, do your daily thing, go to bed, sleep. Repeat. Nothing that grabs my interest. Way too much TV (no cable). My one big excitement is to get in my car and drive to areas of my state that appeal to me. I like being outdoors, wildlife (plant and animal), water, etc. Living where I do, there are a few months that are good for doing those things. But other months, winter snow and cold really discourage any of that. At one time I walked in the snow, ice skated, tried snow-shoeing. But time has passed, arthritis, knee replacement, maybe even age have deterred me from doing most of that now.

Time is passing quickly. I want to live in a prettier area, I want flowers. I want more months to go out walking and enjoy what I see. I'm sick of commercial areas.

So I've been Googling about moving to NC. At one time I thought about the coast but have changed my mind due to the unpredictable weather..... hurricanes, nor-Easters, etc. My focus now is on the western part of the state, the mountain area. I have visited both areas and find both attractive for different reasons. It has been suggested to me that when I find "the" place I like, to sell/give away my stuff and buy new or in good shape used items.

What keeps my foot stuck in the rut is fear of failure. Many years ago I moved to TX for a job that never happened and I took a terrible hit financially. No job, no promise of a job. Non-successful reunion with my son there. Today I'm not working and have steady, reliable income (SS, other retirement). Just went bankrupt so have no outstanding debts. I am reasonably sure I can do this. I'm not looking for luxury. I have lived a pretty simple life for the most part. And would enjoy a simple life in a nicer area of our country.

How do I get over my fear that keeps me paralyzed? I don't want to miss out on what may be the best thing I ever did for myself because I'm afraid of a repeat failure?

Your thoughts will be appreciated.
I vote for taking the leap.

I saw you said you pray. So, pray. Throw it out there and ask what you should do and wait for the answers. They will come.

I took a leap of my own last year. Not exactly the same thing, but it may amount to that in the end except for the weather. Every time the what-ifs tried to move in I dismissed them with the prayer "show me what I am supposed to do".

That's pretty much what most of my prayers boil down to at this stage in my life, as a matter of fact. Requests for guidance.

But again, I vote for GO. You will do it one step at a time.
Old 03-07-2018, 02:37 PM
Location: Central NY
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Originally Posted by Mightyqueen801 View Post
I vote for taking the leap.

Thank you! Every bit of support is appreciated!!
Old 03-07-2018, 03:13 PM
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I find that moving takes tremendous physical energy and physical strength. At 62, I moved across the country and the amount of physical energy required was incredible.

I think if I move again - 7 years later now - I might need to hire a mover that does the packing too.

And then of course there is all the unpacking too, zillions of boxes - but the packing and shifting takes more physical exertion/strength, especially if doing it by oneself.
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