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Old 03-04-2018, 06:39 PM
 
Location: New York
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NYGal, you have posted on and off about escaping ny for a while now. And that's good, I don't think you have anything to lose being that you are not working. You need an adventure, you keep talking about the what it's. Of failing, or falling flat, but dear child, what if you FLY!
Only you are stopping yourself from making your desires a reality.
Start by visiting. Find a place where you can try new things be involved meeting new people, not just us city data dwellers lol. Time is short, DO IT!

 
Old 03-04-2018, 06:42 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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I would imagine I'll get some interesting answers to this question.

Since life holds no guarantees for any of us, how willing are you to take a step without knowing you will step on terra firma vs open space?
It cannot be a risk if there is no opportunity to lose.

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How do I get over my fear that keeps me paralyzed? I don't want to miss out on what may be the best thing I ever did for myself because I'm afraid of a repeat failure?
Then you should vacation there. Repeatedly. Drive down and spend a weekend. Do it again. Go down and spend an entire week. Then do it again. While you're there, get out and about to see if you really like it.
 
Old 03-04-2018, 06:59 PM
 
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Your life now is something I want - lol!

A one bedroom apartment without any responsibilities of a house and big yard.

Just get up, have my coffee, read, get dressed. Check out something local, have lunch. Come home and watch tv.

But I do have a dream of spending my winters at the beach just a few hours from here. But i'm like you - have too many pets and then who would watch them or the house?

Hope you get to do what you want. Go for a month or so to see how you like it. Good luck.
 
Old 03-04-2018, 07:03 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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The issues with pets can be very serious. Pets are not cheap unless you just do not use veterinary care. Trying to find rentals that take pets can be an issue. Unless you can pay for boarding, pets make travel difficult if not impossible. My wife and I have had cats all our lives, usually 2 cats, sometimes more. The last cat was really expensive with special food, daily meds, and many vet visits.


We finally decided no more pets. Both sons in law are extremely allergic and could not even visit our house. It looks like one grandkid will be the same.

You are absolutely right about pets. I haven't gone very far or for overnight in a long time because I can't find someone to come in to look after them and the price of boarding them is unbelievable.

I don't have a lot of money but believe what I have will finance my move and hopefully new life. I've always done my best to provide good care for my cats. Vet visits, shots, medicine when needed. And food, litter, toys, snacks, etc.

I don't want that responsibility anymore. Yes, I am going to cry when they are rehomed. And probably worry about them being OK. But hopefully that will be replaced by happiness and joy at my new area and life.
 
Old 03-04-2018, 07:12 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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NYGal, you have posted on and off about escaping ny for a while now. And that's good, I don't think you have anything to lose being that you are not working. You need an adventure, you keep talking about the what it's. Of failing, or falling flat, but dear child, what if you FLY!
Only you are stopping yourself from making your desires a reality.
Start by visiting. Find a place where you can try new things be involved meeting new people, not just us city data dwellers lol. Time is short, DO IT!

What a lovely post. Thank you for this. I do appreciate the encouragement.

Someone above posted how they went back and forth about moving and then one day they realized it was time to act. I think that is what has happened to me. Finally realizing it's time.

I hope to live so that I do not die with any regrets.
 
Old 03-04-2018, 07:17 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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I've read some "you should" advice here. I learned a long time ago the word "should" is not anyone's friend. What does it mean if a person can't do the "should" if for some reason they cannot? Are they a failure or disappointment?

At my age (76 in April), how much time would you have me vacation there, visit there, etc.

I have visited. Probably not as often as I "should"....... but enough to know it's where I want to be.
 
Old 03-04-2018, 10:18 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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I would imagine I'll get some interesting answers to this question.

Since life holds no guarantees for any of us, how willing are you to take a step without knowing you will step on terra firma vs open space?

How do you decide whether to live a dream vs stay "safe" with what is known to you?

My dream is to move out of my senior one-bedroom apartment in central NY. Every day is the same, wake up, do your daily thing, go to bed, sleep. Repeat. Nothing that grabs my interest. Way too much TV (no cable). My one big excitement is to get in my car and drive to areas of my state that appeal to me. I like being outdoors, wildlife (plant and animal), water, etc. Living where I do, there are a few months that are good for doing those things. But other months, winter snow and cold really discourage any of that. At one time I walked in the snow, ice skated, tried snow-shoeing. But time has passed, arthritis, knee replacement, maybe even age have deterred me from doing most of that now.

Time is passing quickly. I want to live in a prettier area, I want flowers. I want more months to go out walking and enjoy what I see. I'm sick of commercial areas.

So I've been Googling about moving to NC. At one time I thought about the coast but have changed my mind due to the unpredictable weather..... hurricanes, nor-Easters, etc. My focus now is on the western part of the state, the mountain area. I have visited both areas and find both attractive for different reasons. It has been suggested to me that when I find "the" place I like, to sell/give away my stuff and buy new or in good shape used items.

What keeps my foot stuck in the rut is fear of failure. Many years ago I moved to TX for a job that never happened and I took a terrible hit financially. No job, no promise of a job. Non-successful reunion with my son there. Today I'm not working and have steady, reliable income (SS, other retirement). Just went bankrupt so have no outstanding debts. I am reasonably sure I can do this. I'm not looking for luxury. I have lived a pretty simple life for the most part. And would enjoy a simple life in a nicer area of our country.

How do I get over my fear that keeps me paralyzed? I don't want to miss out on what may be the best thing I ever did for myself because I'm afraid of a repeat failure?

Your thoughts will be appreciated.
If you think you may qualify for section 42 housing, go for that. Assets as I understand, do not count. It isn't the same as low income housing as you can make alot more $$ and there are no subsidies. Get on the list.

Beyond that, I'd say go for it. Use Sperlings website to compare cities. If possible visit any city you may want to live in FIRST.

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Old 03-04-2018, 10:39 PM
 
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Move to hot springs AR. It's great here. I'm retired, and never run out of great things to do, esp. outdoor stuff. it's gorgeous here! Also pretty inexpensive. I just turned 64 and I just took up kayaking. Then joined a few hiking clubs.
 
Old 03-05-2018, 02:35 AM
 
Location: Tucson Arizona
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We're kind of doing that. Selling our paid-for rural home to travel around and look for what's next.

It's scary and exciting, just like when we moved from our city house to live out in the country.

One way to help yourself get there is to write down your dreams and desires. What is it you want? Imagine your perfect day; where would you be living? how would you fill your time?

Before we moved here, my dream was to be able to walk to my studio barefoot. And I pictured long, white curtains blowing in the breeze. We moved around a bunch, and one day I noticed I had long white curtains. A year or so later, I had a studio just bare footsteps away. It's been great, but been there, done that. Time for something new.

Now I'm dreaming of walking to restaurants. Road trips. Dry weather. Fall leaves. Maybe even a little snow.
 
Old 03-05-2018, 02:49 AM
 
Location: Florida
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There's really only one thing to keep in mind.
Wherever you go, you take yourself with you.
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