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Old 03-22-2018, 12:18 AM
 
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I was listening to a John McCormick album today, and he sang Kathleen Mavourneen. When he got to the part about “It may be for years or it may be forever,” I got teary. Any pretty phrase can do that, these days. My 90 year old father will quote from Shakespeare, “To love that well which thou must leave ere long.” Tears. Or long ago songs from my youth, Bread singing “I would give everything I own.” Cat Stevens and Morning has Broken. A poem called Mr Flood’s Party about an elderly man has me in “floods” of tears. “There was not much that was ahead of him, And there was nothing in the town below— Where strangers would have shut the many doors, That many friends had opened long ago.”

Sometimes it doesn’t take words. Just looking at the stars on a clear, cold night, or watching the waves roll in. Or thinking of friends and relatives that were dear to me. An expressive melody in a Scott Joplin rag.

Things seem to make me feel more deeply now than when I was young. Wondered if some of you find yourself getting more sentimental with age. Not sure even if sentimental is the right word. Just that your emotions seem to lie closer to the surface.
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Old 03-22-2018, 02:01 AM
 
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Perhaps it is not sentimentality, but more that you are allowing yourself to have feelings that perhaps you used to censor.

Maybe just treat it as a period of adjustment, feel it and don't worry about it.

I can completely identify with comments in regard to looking at the stars at night or the waves coming in. Now that I am old, I sometimes feel that I am seeing them as something new. A not unpleasant feeling.
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Old 03-22-2018, 06:26 AM
 
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Perhaps it is not sentimentality, but more that you are allowing yourself to have feelings that perhaps you used to censor.

Maybe just treat it as a period of adjustment, feel it and don't worry about it.

I can completely identify with comments in regard to looking at the stars at night or the waves coming in. Now that I am old, I sometimes feel that I am seeing them as something new. A not unpleasant feeling.
Yes, to both of the above posts
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Old 03-22-2018, 07:06 AM
 
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I think I was more sentimental in my younger years.....when my parents were still alive....now just getting old and ornery.
For instance....Easter was very important, when the kids were young. I would take them to buy a lily to bring to their grandmothers, would enjoy the smiles that the flower would bring. Things are different now. Holidays are not what they used to be
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Old 03-22-2018, 07:45 AM
 
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I get sentimental more because my kids are getting older. We have lived in the same house/town since before they were all born, so I am all the time running across things/places that remind me of events early in their lives. I get weepy eyed a lot. It could be a combination of me aging as well as them I guess.
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Old 03-22-2018, 08:16 AM
 
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yes. I started working on my family tree and after finding so many pictures of my father's family - I get sad. We were not that close to them and I wish I had been more attentive.

I'm also sad when older siblings could care less about things like this.
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Old 03-22-2018, 09:15 AM
 
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Old 03-22-2018, 09:38 AM
 
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Absolutely,
Yesterday I was looking through old photos trying to select one for my son's graduation year book pic. bawling like a baby. lol

I don't know if it's more sentimental or just I have a better understanding of the things that are important to me and it has nothing to do with investments, assets or long term care insurance.

it could also be that I just lost my dog of 15 years a few weeks ago.
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Old 03-22-2018, 10:01 AM
 
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Absolutely,
Yesterday I was looking through old photos trying to select one for my son's graduation year book pic. bawling like a baby. lol

I don't know if it's more sentimental or just I have a better understanding of the things that are important to me and it has nothing to do with investments, assets or long term care insurance.

it could also be that I just lost my dog of 15 years a few weeks ago.
15 years....sounds like you gave him a wonderful life. Sorry for you loss
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Old 03-22-2018, 10:35 AM
 
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Not at all. When I was younger, I tended to waste all my time thinking of the past or the future.

Now I make a conscientious effort to live in the present and let the past go. What's over is over - whether good, bad, or indifferent times, I can't bring them back or change them. I choose to work on today, to make it the best it can be.
I of course miss the people who are gone from my life but all the more reason to fully appreciate the ones who are still here.
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