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Bullying doesn't end as we enter our golden years, apparently. The AP has uncovered incidents of cruelty at senior centers and housing complexes that highlight the surprising ways elderly people bully one another. "There's the clique system just like everywhere else," says Betsy Gran, who once ran a senior center in San Francisco.
Yep, this is true. I'm in my 3rd low income senior apartment building, and I hope to stay in this one until they haul me off with dementia to assisted living. But, what I've learned is not to socialize where I live. Learned the hard way in the last two places I lived.
The key is to socialize somewhere else, but not in your building. That way, if things are weird at the senior center or where you're volunteering, etc., you can go home to your haven. But, if things go wrong in your building, you no longer have a haven.
Plus, you can end up with people knocking on your door at all hours, you get sucked into the drama, etc. And it's really common for the drama queens and the needy user-types to hang out in the community rooms or be involved with the Bingo games, etc. So, if you go, you will be a new target. They'll be asking for favors, to borrow things, for rides, for favors, they'll be sucking you into drama.
So, just socialize somewhere else. But, don't expect to move into some senior community and have all of your neighbors be self-sufficient, well-adjusted angels.
Still very much alive and well in the workplace too. The days of respect for high seniority experienced employees on the cusp of retiring early is long gone.
I had a young Electrical Engineer ask me yesterday what a particular symbol meant on a ladder logic diagram. It was the NEMA symbol for a 'push to test' indicator lamp. What?!? I politely explained it to him, obviously I am not worthless yet.
Sadly, bullying is human nature going back tens of thousands of years when the bully was better able to survive by taking other peoples food, clothes and dwellings by force.
Some people just can't control themselves no matter what age they are. If you learned early in life that being a bully got you what you want and made you feel superior, then why change because you're old?
That doesn't surprise me at all. Human beings are human beings. Yes you would think by the time we get to be seniors we'd develope a bit of common sense but again humans.....
LOL at my church we have a group of members (remember the one place you would think to be Christian would be in a church) who are shall we say "seat sensitive". they have staked out the front pews for Sunday service. want to see some bullying? sit in one of the seats that the queen Bees usually occupy?
Another reason I will never live in a "community" of old people. Will stay in my own home in a real neighborhood...a mix of families, singles, couples of all ages.
Another reason I will never live in a "community" of old people. Will stay in my own home in a real neighborhood...a mix of families, singles, couples of all ages.
there's potential for bullying there too. It's not age-specific.
I too want to stay in my own home in my own neighborhood as long as possible but based just on the bullying factor, I'd rather take on bullies of my own age than teen age or young adult bullies.
there's potential for bullying there too. It's not age-specific.
I too want to stay in my own home in my own neighborhood as long as possible but based just on the bullying factor, I'd rather take on bullies of my own age than teen age or young adult bullies.
I don't care for the concept of living in age-segregated communities for a variety of reasons. To each our own!
Wow!
I am utterly shocked, to hear that everyone isn't nice all the time.
Maybe it's the food additives?
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to hear that everyone isn't nice all the time.
