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Old 06-14-2018, 04:36 PM
 
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This was forwarded to me from my older brother. He lives by the motto he put in quotes at the bottom. The author is unknown, at least to us.
Enjoy!

Some wonderful advice for Baby Boomers:

1. It’s time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don’t just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard-earned capital. Warning: This is also a bad time for investments, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries. This is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.

2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and don’t feel bad spending your money on yourself. You’ve taken care of them for many years, and you’ve taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money.

3. Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor, do tests even when you’re feeling well. Stay informed.

4. Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it together

5. Don’t stress over the little things. Like paying a little extra on price quotes. You’ve already overcome so much in your life.You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don’t let the past drag you down and don’t let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.

6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: “A man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection.”

7. Be proud, both inside and out. Don’t stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.

8. Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There’s nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it. It’s part of who you are.

9. ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You’ll be surprised what old friends you’ll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them that yesterday’s wisdom still applies today.

11. Never use the phrase: “In my time.” Your time is now. As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time. You may have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.

12. Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.

13. Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If you’ve lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.

14. Don’t abandon your hobbies. If you don’t have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

15. Even if you don’t feel like it, try to accept invitations. Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But don’t get upset when you’re not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.

16. Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. That’s a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but don’t go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.

17. Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we’re all going through. Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you. If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.

18. If you’ve been offended by someone – forgive them. If you’ve offended someone - apologize. Don’t drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn’t matter who was right. Someone once said: “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Don’t take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.

19. If you have a strong belief, savor it. But don’t waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.

20. Laugh. Laugh A LOT. Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life. But you did. So what’s not to laugh about? Find the humor in your situation.

21. Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking. They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved. Let them talk and don’t worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life you’ve lived so far. There’s still much to be written, so get busy writing and don’t waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be at rest, at peace and as happy as you can be!

REMEMBER: “Life is too short to drink bad wine and warm beer.”

Cheers! Greg
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Old 06-14-2018, 04:37 PM
 
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Way too much to read.
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Old 06-14-2018, 04:53 PM
 
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Way too much to read.
But it is worth it.
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Old 06-14-2018, 05:04 PM
 
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That was very well written and inspiring.
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Old 06-14-2018, 05:29 PM
 
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Yes, great read ,thanks for sharing.
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Old 06-14-2018, 05:39 PM
 
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Thanks for that. Pretty good advice!
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Old 06-14-2018, 05:45 PM
 
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Rooted in too much vanity for my tastes. Vain superficial people who feel they need to spend $$ to be happy don't impress me. There is some good advice mixed in though. People matter, including family. IF you want to matter, then make others matter.

Yes you can share your wealth with family and be blessed by it, gimme a break.
You can live with them, no matter how much $ you have.
I know of two familieswho live with their kids and grandkids. No one is hurting for money. All professionals their entire life. It works well for some people. And BE PROUD? How about BE HUMBLE. Nice to people. Down to earth. Caring. Then you won't need to keep up with the Joneses by "living life to the fullest" by spending $$ on doing your nails and keeping your cupboard stocked with vanity items (not that i am against them, you should see my cupboard!) yet being humble and caring about others results in blessings beyond measure. Care what others think about you, don't discard their feelings with your puffed up pride. Don't make your focus on materialism, a simple flower/plant, a walk and kind gestures are more important than "buying the best for your significant other". You'll need alot of support as you age in which $$ cannot buy so keep and make good friends. Money allows people to live, but do not live for money. Ever.

Pride commeth before the fall. Share $$, your love, assist others as your heart is led to. Do what is right so you may live a blessed life, not what satisfies your temporal fleshly desires at the moment.

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“Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other
do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked.
Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is).
Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking. They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved.”

Last edited by MinimalistMary; 06-14-2018 at 06:01 PM..
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Old 06-14-2018, 05:56 PM
 
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Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other
do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked.
Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). What in the world? I know people who are well off who LOVE living with their family. To each is own.
Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking. They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved.”


I just ignored the parts that I didn't agree with. I do agree that it was too much about money but that's the American greed kicking in. So I just take it down a notch or two.

You should buy something nice for your significant other--or not even BUY them something. As I always said, you can pick me some flowers, you don't have to BUY anything. It's the thought that counts.

As far as manicures and pedicures, no. I think they are stupid. But take care of yourself--yes. I hate to see older people letting themselves go. Comb your hair, keep yourself clean, wear neat and clean clothes. Of course you should go to the dentist.

Live with your kids if you want. I don't have any to live with but it's up to the individual. Nothing wrong with it.

Take no notice of what others say about you. That is good advice. You can be proud if you lived a good, clean, decent life no matter what anyone says.

In general, it's good advice.
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Old 06-14-2018, 05:58 PM
 
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loved it! Thanks for sharing.
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Old 06-14-2018, 06:04 PM
 
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Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other
do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked.
Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). What in the world? I know people who are well off who LOVE living with their family. To each is own.
Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking. They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved.”


I just ignored the parts that I didn't agree with. I do agree that it was too much about money but that's the American greed kicking in. So I just take it down a notch or two.

You should buy something nice for your significant other--or not even BUY them something. As I always said, you can pick me some flowers, you don't have to BUY anything. It's the thought that counts.

As far as manicures and pedicures, no. I think they are stupid. But take care of yourself--yes. I hate to see older people letting themselves go. Comb your hair, keep yourself clean, wear neat and clean clothes. Of course you should go to the dentist.

Live with your kids if you want. I don't have any to live with but it's up to the individual. Nothing wrong with it.

Take no notice of what others say about you. That is good advice. You can be proud if you lived a good, clean, decent life no matter what anyone says.

In general, it's good advice.
If your talking about your own advice above, I agree
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