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Hey and maybe the women are secretly happy that they hit the road?
I would be glad if he was happy with someone else. I want him to enjoy life. Finding someone that will do that for him would’ve great. He has been through a lot.
Wow, you took the words right out of my mouth. I was involved with a guy for several years (at times we lived together -- in my place). There were so many positives about him. But the negatives just wouldn't go away. He is who he is. And I'm who I am. The negatives were more than I could handle and I was tired of trying to handle them. He would always come back after we split up and want to move back in. Why? I kept asking myself. Where is his self respect? I was not always very nice to him.
I finally solved the problem by moving away. I came back a year later and he had just gotten married.
I must admit I was very relieved.
I did sincerely think he deserved someone who could accept him, behaviors and all. I just could not do it anymore and keep my sanity.
I went to Florida for a week last November and my husband stayed home. He's very much an introvert, but he told me that he may have to rethink getting married again if I go first. He was so lonely that he started talking to himself. I don't think that anybody would ever love me as much as he does. He's taken such good care of me after the surgery and drives me to my physical therapy. He cooks for us and does everything I can't do. He even planted the garden and flowers and he hates gardening. I can't imagine my life without him.
When you love somebody as much as we love each other, how can you replace that? Anybody else will just be second best. It's not about misandry for me. It's about not being able to love anybody else as much as I love John.
I'm not saying that I wouldn't rule out a FWB situation, but it would have to be with no strings or emotional commitment.
I love spending time with my husband of thirty-plus years, but it's awfully nice when he goes away for a few hours or days. Over a week, and I miss him too much.
And, yeah, when he asks the same question over and over, I do want to scream. But I'm better off with him than without.
I'm not officially attached and live with a roommate -
Taking forever to get ready to leave. We don't go anywhere together, but I prefer to leave the house after he is gone. He will leave doors open etc. Very absent minded.
He does a lot around here so I try to overlook this but after being asked ten times if I want something to eat after I said no in person and in text (a record he can review), it just drives me batty!!
Sounds like it's relationship for convenience. What do you really want in a man? If he is not what your looking for, then tell him you want to move on. You haven't made a commitment, so you are free right?
I had a partner for almost 8 years, but we did not live together. We were engaged once, bought the ring, etc.
But, he had some major issues after a divorce 5 years before, did not trust women. There's alot more to the story which I was learning, and I needed to move on, he was driving ME batty! I feel good, no baggage draining me anymore!
Always asking me questions from the other side of the house. I have to get up and go ask what?
Taking forever to get ready to leave. We don't go anywhere together, but I prefer to leave the house after he is gone. He will leave doors open etc. Very absent minded.
He does a lot around here so I try to overlook this but after being asked ten times if I want something to eat after I said no in person and in text (a record he can review), it just drives me batty!!
Do men get irritated with their women? How do y'all cope. .
I coped all these years by staying single. I understand everything you are saying above
I think there are plenty of men who feel the same way as you do.
Even though I do like having a partner to do things with, I can appreciate having large chunks of time spent alone. That's why, when we downsized, we still bought a place with enough rooms that we can do separate activities. Small houses are great for us, but one of those trendy tiny houses might lead to divorce. Or murder, LOL.
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I thought that after this relationship was over, I would like to be involved with someone again - but I don't know.
Maybe separate living arrangements would work. And no "assigned" household chores. No expectations of making dinner or doing laundry. Just a carefree existence together - does that exist??
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