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Wow, what an enlightening thread. I am in my late-40's and have lived without a man since 2004. That's 14 years living without a man. And even when I was married, my husband worked a lot so was away from home a lot. When I first got divorced, I didn't feel lonely at all, in fact I was so happy to have the alone time and independence that I celebrated it for a long time. But now that my kids have recently flown the coop, I am truly alone and I feel the loneliness really creeping up on me and bothering me more and more. The only problem is, I am not sure that I want to live with a man again for many of the reasons iterated in this thread, but I also am in no way shape or form interested in FWB. I want more emotional intimacy and commitment than that. I just feel like I'm in a rock and a hard place. I want the benefits of a stable relationship but not the drawbacks (which includes caring for someone, married or not, when they become ill as we age, and probably dying). I am still trying to figure this all out.
You are not alone yet. It's easy to say you won't want a replacement because he is still there.
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Originally Posted by Clemencia53
yes - I do think that might be the reason sometimes. But when I hear my friends go on and on about their adventures - literally makes me cringe.
Ok - they do say the NEED physical contact aka sex - their primary reason for being on the prowl. No thanks....lol,....
Your friends (the friends you've been seeing from high school days in planning a high school reunion?) are probably not being completely honest about their motivations. They most likely have emotional needs, not just physical desires, which are motivating them to seek male companionship. They just do not want to verbally admit it in front of others; it's easier to keep that part to oneself, and admitting it isn't always easy.
You also mentioned that two of them are somewhat recently divorced and you wondered why they don't want to take a break from men. Sometimes divorced people are seeking validation and attention to assuage the emotional pain of divorce. And sometimes when getting over a break-up, finding another person to become involved with helps to alleviate the pain of the break-up. (if there happens to be emotional pain, or if not, seeking or finding new companionship can occupy one's mind and if lucky, meet some emotional needs)
Wow, what an enlightening thread. I am in my late-40's and have lived without a man since 2004. That's 14 years living without a man. And even when I was married, my husband worked a lot so was away from home a lot. When I first got divorced, I didn't feel lonely at all, in fact I was so happy to have the alone time and independence that I celebrated it for a long time. But now that my kids have recently flown the coop, I am truly alone and I feel the loneliness really creeping up on me and bothering me more and more. The only problem is, I am not sure that I want to live with a man again for many of the reasons iterated in this thread, but I also am in no way shape or form interested in FWB. I want more emotional intimacy and commitment than that. I just feel like I'm in a rock and a hard place. I want the benefits of a stable relationship but not the drawbacks (which includes caring for someone, married or not, when they become ill as we age, and probably dying). I am still trying to figure this all out.
Maybe a female roommate? I am a guy, and live alone since my divorce also. Love it. I do spend time with friends, and family, but don't think I want a live in relationship anymore. I really haven't missed the intimacy yet. Who knows, maybe I will.
Maybe a female roommate? I am a guy, and live alone since my divorce also. Love it. I do spend time with friends, and family, but don't think I want a live in relationship anymore. I really haven't missed the intimacy yet. Who knows, maybe I will.
Maybe. I don’t know. This thread made me kinda sad.
I don't see any reason to date women much past 55 or 60, and if women feel the same about men, that's fine with me.
What was your reason to date women before?
All the older single ladies I know do like to meet men and date.
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