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While we're talking about appearance, here's a question and I'm curious to see how many truly honest answers we may get.
Would it matter to you men if a woman has had breast cancer and did NOT opt for reconstructive surgery? Some women cannot afford it and others simply do not want it. Would the lack of one or both of those particular body parts be a deal-breaker for you?
A widowed friend of mine who is in her early 60s recently had cancer surgery and went the no-reconstruction route as personal preference. She is getting an unbelieveable amount of flak from friends who claim that "men won't look at a woman who doesn't have..." . So I am wondering how true that really is. My friend also worries about when and how to tell someone she is dating that what looks like natural contours is actually just a bra with "foobs" (fake b00bs) in them: early on? later? not until 'necessary'? She feels it's somehow dishonest to not be upfront (no pun intended) about it, but also worries that telling them in advance will turn most men off.
My take on the situation is that maybe she should just forego the "foobs" entirely and adopt a "What you [don't] see is what you get" philosophy, but I realize that's something not every woman is prepared to do. Male society does seem to put a big premium on those things, certainly for younger women but I wonder if it applies just as much to senior females.... in spite of the fact that that part of our body doesn't always age well.
I know the OP is asking the men posters what they are looking for in women. And the men who are responding appear to be very honest in their answers.
But at my "old" age of 76, divorced 35 years from a man who believed he was entitled to as many women as he wanted to have even while married with a couple of kids, I just cannot get it in my head how "safe" it would be for me to get involved with another man. My ex also took advantage of our young daughter while I was in the hospital for a period of time.
So, yes, I probably do have a distorted mind about men.
I think because of all of the above I would make a horrible "partner" for a man. For the most part I do like men, enjoy their company, but don't believe I could handle a relationship.
I do not want to take out my hurt and anger on an innocent man.
Every day, in every way, in the last 50 years, men think we women give a eff what they think. Whatever.
I find many women attractive for a variety of reasons. Appearance simply provides that initial spark of interest but becomes less important as you build an emotional bond over time. But I have to say, the first time something like the quote above comes out of a person's mouth, I'm out. I don't care if they're a supermodel. It's not worth it. My happiness and peace are far too important to me.
As long as she is not like one of those women you see at Trump Rallies, I am OK. They lack at least 3 of my mandatory requirements. Looks like the quote in the post above is from one of those.
Yes, take emotions and love out of the equation and it really does come down to hormones and wanting to be with young, fit, good looking people. It's really mother nature with the underlying and compulsive need to reproduce from the cave man days though we'll never admit it. Of course, money can be the aphrodisiac that can make anyone attractive, LOL.
"visually appealing". What you like to look at not what you require.
Its okay. Its the reason your partner who loves you dearly still looks at others.
As long as he/she still turns to me in bed at night and treats me with affection and respect, I'm happy. He can look.
what do I like? Sense of humor (face that falls into smile lines with ease), clean overalls unless he's been working, some whiskers at least some times, warm handshake, looks at me like I am still the prettiest girl in the room
Old women are well...old. When they alter their old appearance it makes them look odd at times.
Who wants to hear grandma's stories about her grandkids? Who wants to hear about her aches and pains? Who wants to hear her woes about her ex-husband? Who wants the baggage that comes with being old? I don't want to be a caretaker , nor do I need a caretaker. I'll pass dating old women.
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Originally Posted by Catgirl64
Old men are well...old. When they alter their old appearance it makes them look odd at times.
Who wants to hear grandpa's stories about his grandkids? Who wants to hear about his aches and pains? Who wants to hear his woes about his ex-wife? Who wants the baggage that comes with being old? I don't want to be a caretaker , nor do I need a caretaker. I'll pass dating old men.
Everyone gets old. If you're lucky, you will find someone to share the experience.
An older man looks distinguished.
An older woman just looks old.
That's the way it was explained to me a long time ago.
That's the way it was explained to me a long time ago.
I've seen more than a few old men who definitely did not look distinguished.
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