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Old 08-22-2018, 09:10 AM
 
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My life could be nearly perfect. I am semi-retired with Social Security, a pension, savings and a great part-time job that helps the community. I have lots of friends and a supportive family. Our home is beautiful and we love our community.

But I am miserable! WHY? I am so tired of not sleeping at night because I have to get up and go to the bathroom 3-4 times a night. I have gone to doctors and tried exercises. Lots of tests. Have tried all the pills and even considered surgery. So far nothing has worked. It is getting worse as I age. My friends tell me they get up 2-4 times a night but fall asleep in 2 minutes after going. Lucky them- it takes me hours to fall back to sleep.

Fellow old retired men, is this an issue for you and what have you done to make it better?

IF YOU TAKE PILLS THAT MAKE IT BETTER- TELL US WHAT THEY ARE!!

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Old 08-22-2018, 09:18 AM
 
Location: Texas of course
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My life could be nearly perfect. I am semi-retired with Social Security, a pension, savings and a great part-time job that helps the community. I have lots of friends and a supportive family. Our home is beautiful and we love our community.

But I am miserable! WHY? I am so tired of not sleeping at night because I have to get up and go to the bathroom 3-4 times a night. I have gone to doctors and tried exercises. Lots of tests. Have tried all the pills and even considered surgery. So far nothing has worked. It is getting worse as I age.

Fellow old retired men, is this an issue for you and what have you done to make it better?
I'm not a man but my husband gets up about 3 times each night. His is due to his previous prostrate cancer. I get up too.
I did find this article and it basically says You are not alone. According to a National Sleep Foundation survey, about 65 percent of people age of 55 and older reported getting up several times at night to use the bathroom.

Here's the link to the article. https://www.orlandohealth.com/blog/i...is-that-normal
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Old 08-22-2018, 09:23 AM
 
Location: NC Piedmont
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Day or night. I take meds that help a little but the frequency is still pretty high. At least a note from my doc gets me out of jury duty. Before I get piled on about it being my duty, it really would be a problem. It's bad enough having to excuse myself at business meetings.
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Old 08-22-2018, 09:44 AM
 
Location: Texas of course
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Day or night. I take meds that help a little but the frequency is still pretty high. At least a note from my doc gets me out of jury duty. Before I get piled on about it being my duty, it really would be a problem. It's bad enough having to excuse myself at business meetings.
My husband can't do Jury Duty anymore either, his urologist gave him a note. When he has to go...HE HAS TO GO!
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Old 08-22-2018, 09:57 AM
 
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If your problem is simple BPH that can be handled easily. Alpha Blockers work well for most. There are several different ones Try 'em all

You might just have a mild case of sleep apnea. Not enough to be of clinical significance but just enough to keep jostling you awake at night. After you're up you then make a mental connection to using the bathroom but your mind is fooling you.

Did the Dr you say you saw diagnose BPH? If so, get one of the new less-invasive /non surgical procedures

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Old 08-22-2018, 10:04 AM
 
Location: VT; previously MD & NJ
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The worst thing about being an older WOMAN is "having to go" 3-4 times at night.


So what else is new? Although my problem has gotten a bit worse since the doctor upped the diuretic component of my blood pressure medicine.

You have to teach yourself to not fully wake up when you get up to go at night. Just shuffle to the bathroom, do your business and shuffle back to bed. Don't turn on any lights (keep a small night light in the bathroom).
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Old 08-22-2018, 10:19 AM
 
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My life could be nearly perfect. I am semi-retired with Social Security, a pension, savings and a great part-time job that helps the community. I have lots of friends and a supportive family. Our home is beautiful and we love our community.

But I am miserable! WHY? I am so tired of not sleeping at night because I have to get up and go to the bathroom 3-4 times a night. I have gone to doctors and tried exercises. Lots of tests. Have tried all the pills and even considered surgery. So far nothing has worked. It is getting worse as I age. My friends tell me they get up 2-4 times a night but fall asleep in 2 minutes after going. Lucky them- it takes me hours to fall back to sleep.

Fellow old retired men, is this an issue for you and what have you done to make it better?

IF YOU TAKE PILLS THAT MAKE IT BETTER- TELL US WHAT THEY ARE!!
It happens to all of us, male or female. Have you tried limiting your fluids at night? Avoid beer because beer does make you have to go frequently. Do you have this same issue during the day?
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Old 08-22-2018, 10:22 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Do you have this same issue during the day?

Probably not. He's Retired Now.
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Old 08-22-2018, 10:27 AM
 
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I’m sure you already tried this but have your last drink 4 hours before your bedtime. And of course go take a leak right before you go to sleep. It has to atleast help.

Good luck.
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Old 08-22-2018, 10:29 AM
 
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It happens to all of us, male or female. Have you tried limiting your fluids at night? Avoid beer because beer does make you have to go frequently. Do you have this same issue during the day?
Yes, I go often during the day but it is more manageable because I am awake and not trying to sleep. I don't drink much of anything. One time as an experiment I only had water and only a few sips and I still had to go three times that night. I don't have BPH according to the doctor.
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