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Old 12-31-2012, 12:04 PM
 
Location: Schererville, IN
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Is anyone nearing or at retirement age longing for the same sense of community you felt when you were young... where you knew all your neighboors and actually communicated with them more than you do with your current neighboors?
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Old 12-31-2012, 12:36 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Is anyone nearing or at retirement age longing for the same sense of community you felt when you were young... where you knew all your neighboors and actually communicated with them more than you do with your current neighboors?
I would love to have a close community as I age, but I do not want to live in a 55+ type community. It just isn't my style, though i wish it were. Friends and siblings are spread out over miles, and the senior centers (at least the ones here) are rather depressing. I do not know my neighbors, never have (other than to wave hi). I don't know what the answer is, for me. I guess I'll stay here another 5 or 6 years, continuing to research the possible "communities" for my 70s.
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Old 12-31-2012, 12:39 PM
 
Location: southern california
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for those of us that have made it to the other side we are not looking its "last man standing" the precious few that are left that make it to retirement already got a strong brotherhood going, dont have to look for it.
the senior centers are inhabited by the victors.
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Old 12-31-2012, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Cody, WY
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I would love to have a close community as I age, but I do not want to live in a 55+ type community. It just isn't my style, though i wish it were. Friends and siblings are spread out over miles, and the senior centers (at least the ones here) are rather depressing. I do not know my neighbors, never have (other than to wave hi). I don't know what the answer is, for me. I guess I'll stay here another 5 or 6 years, continuing to research the possible "communities" for my 70s.
Get to know your neighbors. They're not as unapproachable as you think. Out here we go shooting together. We have play groups for our dogs. In the summer we go to political meetings in the park. Sometimes we hang liberals. Talk to them; find out what they like to do; have some over for dinner. No, not a potluck.
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Old 12-31-2012, 12:49 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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I live in a community where neighbors are close right now, and definitely am looking for something like it when we move. Whether it is a 55+ community or not isn't a big issue to me. I've seen a few 55+ communities I really like, and a few general neighborhoods that I also like. I probably lean more to the planned communities, since I like all the activities and amenities. At the same time I can find those programs in other ways. I'm also a big fan of senior centers, and agree that this is a good place to find that real sense of community. Of course, we've been lucky to be near a good one.
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Old 12-31-2012, 01:10 PM
 
Location: delaware
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i would be looking for community in a retirement setting, although over 55 communities don't appeal to me. the senior center near me, a very active one, is primarily attended by mid 70 year olds and older, with an emphasis on bridge, knitting and quilting groups, exercise, and scrabble groups. none of these interest me very much but seem to draw a good number from the population group that attends.
i've investigated several ccrc's, which, at this point, seem to be the way i'd go, although the few that are rentals, with built-in levels of care, are more appealing than the ones where you initialy have to put out a fairly substantial outlay of cash. i would like to think that some sort of community is possible in such facilities, but i don't fool myself that any would be "the answer". i have found that such communities have decidedly different personalities and attract different types of retirees. therefore, it seems important to select a community where you feel that there would be enough people with your own interests and even some similarities in background, so that it would be as comfortable a fit as possible.
although location is important, certainly if you want to stay near family, i think the unique personality of the community is just as important, maybe more so. this community does truly become a kind of family, in a very real sense, so living among people with whom you feel you have commonality , becomes very important.

catsy girl
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Old 12-31-2012, 02:55 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Yes.
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Old 12-31-2012, 04:03 PM
 
Location: Marietta, GA
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My husband's cousin bought in one of those Del Webb 55+ communities. It is wonderful. There is so much to do there, and everyone seems to know each other. I wish that I could see us living in a place like that, but I can't.
I would like a neighborhood that has a sense of community, but I don't get involved enough to justify paying $250 a month for the common charges in one of those places. I would rather just meet 2 or 3 friendly neighbors for free!
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Old 12-31-2012, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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Yes, wife and I hope to find a supportive community setting, but not in a senior planned community. Their activities are not the kind I'd be looking for. Probably our best bet will be church groups, senior center and specific interest groups of the activities we like.
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Old 12-31-2012, 06:18 PM
 
Location: San Antonio
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My husband's cousin bought in one of those Del Webb 55+ communities. It is wonderful. There is so much to do there, and everyone seems to know each other. I wish that I could see us living in a place like that, but I can't.
I would like a neighborhood that has a sense of community, but I don't get involved enough to justify paying $250 a month for the common charges in one of those places. I would rather just meet 2 or 3 friendly neighbors for free!
We live in the Del Webb Hill Country Resort in San Antonio Texas and LOVE IT!!!

So much to do, everyone and I mean EVERYONE knows everyone here...great friends, sit out front and folks drive by in their golfcarts and stop by and before you know it there is a party going down!!!

It has the feeling of what we grew up in, a small neighborhood where you can borrow an egg, take each other to the airport, help out when someone is sick. It REALLy should not be overlooked if you are looking for that in RETIREMENT! The nice thing is it is gated, no kids, traffic, teens, graffati, etc. Sleep with the windows open and all you hear are the crickets and birds (and owl, we have 2 that talk to each other a lot!)
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