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Old 10-23-2018, 06:39 AM
 
Location: Orlando
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I have three kids -- one in Illinois, one in Arizona, and one here in central Florida. The one here in Florida is the mother of my only grandchild, and it looks like she is going to remain my only grandchild. I never wanted to be a long-distance grandmother, so despite the climatic disagreement I have with Florida (i.e., I hate the weather), here I stay. I have to say, being this close with my granddaughter makes it all worth it.
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Old 10-23-2018, 06:48 AM
 
Location: New York
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It sounds like your life is tied up in your children's lives. Sounds great. You should stay, as long as it seems they will be there long term. While you can move to a lower cola place, traveling back and forth to visit will cost money, as well as where you will stay while visiting. That cost may come out to the same cost you now have where you live currently(or exceed it!).
Good luck
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Old 10-23-2018, 06:57 AM
 
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I think a better question to those here, is 'how many working people gave up jobs in other states to stay close to grandparents?'
I will be the first to answer: Sorry, that was never a consideration in my life. I never related to them at all.
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Old 10-23-2018, 07:00 AM
 
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Only if its to spend time somewhere they all want to visit - like Disneyworld/Orlando
Or lakefront/beachfront
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Old 10-23-2018, 07:57 AM
 
Location: Cleveland, Ohio
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Also, there's a new thread on this very same thing every week or so.
The questions that often get asked in this forum....
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Old 10-23-2018, 08:59 AM
 
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If it were me, in your stage of life, the pros of moving would not be worth the cons, unless I was really struggling financially. What I would gain by such a move would not make up for what I'd lose.
Thanks! It is likely we will stay in Maryland. We are involved in almost everything the grandkids do and we enjoy the fam get togethers on the weekend. I had no idea life would be this way when I was young having children. My wife and I have created a huge family with a lot of kids. Not seeing then would be an issue.

One of the grandkids is a teen and you are correct. We don't see her that often because she is busy with her life.
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Old 10-23-2018, 09:19 AM
 
Location: Philadelphia/South Jersey area
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So I have a big family (no grandkids yet) nieces and nephews, kids and cousin. We see each other ALL the time. we support each other, yell, fight and love on each other.

There is no scenario in my mind where I would be happy half way around the world from that. Now if one of my sons ups and moves far away I'll deal with that when it happens but for me, I'll stick with my 10 K property taxes a year (ouch) to stay close to my kids.
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Old 10-23-2018, 10:13 AM
 
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So I have a big family (no grandkids yet) nieces and nephews, kids and cousin. We see each other ALL the time. we support each other, yell, fight and love on each other.

There is no scenario in my mind where I would be happy half way around the world from that. Now if one of my sons ups and moves far away I'll deal with that when it happens but for me, I'll stick with my 10 K property taxes a year (ouch) to stay close to my kids.
When the grandkids appear family functions go up exponentially. However, i assume they grow older (and do we) and things cool off.

I am thinking that instead of moving away I can simply rent in far away places a few months out of the year.
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Old 10-23-2018, 10:20 AM
 
Location: VT; previously MD & NJ
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Quite some years back I started looking around the Annapolis area, when I was ready to move to a home with no steps. I was in Columbia MD. I was still working but looking at retirement soon. What I found is the cost of housing in and near Annapolis is just as high, if not higher than MD suburbs of DC. And now, traffic is just as bad around Annapolis as closer in. Sure would have loved to be near the bay though.

Meanwhile, my son tried out Alabama and North Carolina. Then ended up in NH which he likes very much. So I followed him up here to north county. Getting ready for winter now. I am fine with it, especially since spring, summer and fall are so gorgeous.
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Old 10-23-2018, 11:15 AM
 
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Get a map and one of those instruments (what do you call it?) draw a circle within 2 hrs of every direction of your house. Compare COLAS in each town. That's what we did.

We are in Heaven now Best of both worlds though we live closer to 2.5 hrs away. Still close enough for our son to visit and stay the weekend once a month.
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