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Old 12-03-2018, 12:08 PM
 
Location: Kronenwetter Wisconsin
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I grew up in Chicago, 2 parents 4 kids. Very normal middle class upbringing. Married at 20. Wow we were so young. I spent my first 31 years in Chicago and now 31 years in Wisconsin. We decided to move to central WI. We had 2 kids. My grandparents had died and my mom owned the land and the farm. We never lived on the farm but 10 years ago built a house on the land. Our daughter moved to Alaska last year. Our son, his wife and our 15 year old grandson live with us. They will also build a house on the land in the next year or 2. We are still working. I like my job. I work for Big Brothers Big Sisers. I will be 63 next month but will probably work 3-4 years. Husband is in the produce business. The last 9 years were not easy in the food industry, econony tanked and he was let go from his long term job at Sysco. He bounced around for awhile, including him being in North Dakota for a year selling potaotes while I was still in Wisconsin. He has had the same job for 3 years now but it has greatly changed his income and retirement. But we should be fairly good in a few years. When we 1st got married my dad said he never worried about me because I always land on my feet and so far it has held true.
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Old 12-03-2018, 01:06 PM
 
Location: equator
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Fascinating stories here.

I grew up in an affluent home in Orange County, CA but ended up near the poverty line, LOL. Opposite of most of your "made good" stories. Lived in Mission Viejo for 10 years where my ex and I had a printing co. in Laguna Hills. Back in the days of literal "cut and paste" and one-line typesetting, and the first modems to come out. I learned to fly then; we had a Cherokee 180 tied down in Long Beach, plus flew in gliders out in Hemet. Got into ham radio with the ex. Middle of 5 girls, but the youngest shot herself at 18 in 1985. Hard times. I knew from the get-go I never wanted kids.

I didn't get the brains of the family; my sister, the PhD linguist (and brainy BIL), translated the whole Bible into Quechua (the indigenous descendants of the Incas here in the Andes). Family is 100% stoic Swedes, came to the U.S. in 1890s.

Ex and I built 3 houses with our own hands: two in Parker, CO and one in Shaver Lake, CA near Yosemite. Timing was bad for all 3 so we made little profit but lately those homes have sold for $700,000-plus. (see "Don't Look Back" I posted awhile ago, LOL)

Dumped him after 17 years and spent 7 years in a rustic no-plumbing/no-electricity lifestyle with a younger backwoods/survival guy, including doing 1,000 miles of the Pacific Crest Trail on horseback (with 4 chickens atop the pack horses) for 5 years. Went on cattle drives in WY and MT. Lived at Belknap Hot Springs on the MacKenzie River in Oregon, only accessible by cable car. Step outside into your own hot spring pool!

Dumped him after he took a punch at me somewhere along the trail. Lived single all over the U.S. pursuing various dreams, none of which were lucrative.

Ended up in Moab, UT where I met the current DH. We river-rafted down the Colorado, rode my horse in John Wayne-movie territory, right outside our gate, hiked all over Arches Park and all the wilderness areas of Utah. This is where "Thelma and Louise", "City Slickers", "Geronimo", "Lone Ranger" and many other spectacular Western scenery movies were filmed. Kevin Costner, Robert Plant and Johnny Depp came to my place of employment while filming. Kevin opened the door for me, LOL. My brush with fame!

We lived off-the-grid on solar for all this time. That's a bit too primitive for most people so it took over 3 years to sell our place, so I came crying to the RE section of C-D for help. Along the way, I discovered retiring overseas since we couldn't afford to retire in the U.S. after we were forced out of our jobs due to age.

Experimented with 18 months in Corpus Christi, TX but no jobs materialized, so we ended up selling our beachfront condo there right before the hurricane destroyed it.

So now I'm busy getting skin cancer here on the equator, and adjusting to loss of some physical capabilities due to bad joints, which really pisses me off to no end. But, we are in a lovely beachfront condo where it's always 75 to 85 degrees and I can still stroll the beach, at least. Picking up the litter that Ecuadorians seem oblivious to. Learning Spanish isn't going too well, since the coastal dialect is like the U.S. Deep South drawl, so classroom/TV Spanish doesn't cut it. Oh well, we enjoy our fellow-expats, an adventurous bunch.

So, considering we probably can claim the lowest SS of anyone on this Retirement forum, we ain't doin' too bad, after all.

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Old 12-03-2018, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Henderson, NV
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I was born and raised in New Zealand, married a Kiwi and our two children were born there. I was an elementary school teacher for many years -- all the junior grades (K-4) in a two-room, 2-teacher country school for a year, then 8 years teaching the equivalent 5th grade at a school for the blind. After my kids entered kindergarten, I had a two-year stint teaching braille and typing to newly blinded adults in an adult rehabilitation center attached to the school for the blind.

Moved to Wisconsin in the late 70s for my husband's job and divorced two years later. Wisconsin would not recognize my teaching degree and I couldn't afford to go back to college, so I ran a small agency for the blind transcribing textbooks into braille and audio tapes for blind elementary, high school and college kids. I then moved to managing fundraising events, educating people about charitable giving, grant writing and securing individual major gifts for a Children's Hospital in Milwaukee and stayed there for 17 years.

The job I retired from was running a multi-hospital health system foundation securing gifts for hospital programs and equipment, a hospice, a low-income clinic and a low-income dental clinic, managing a $22 million endowment and representing the system on various non-profit boards and on the Chamber of Commerce. Was in that job for 10 years -- loved every minute of my career, from teaching through foundation management.

I retired 9 years ago and moved away from the Wisconsin winters but have retained a "get-away" on the Wisconsin River that I visit a couple of times a year. My children are both married and I have 5 grandchildren. We visit each other a few times a year -- they come to me here in NV or I visit them in WI and CA.

My life as a retiree is busy by design but I also enjoy some alone time at home when the mood strikes me. I live in a 55+ community and chair a board committee that manages our 59 clubs. I've discovered a love and a modest talent for watercolor painting and take classes each week. I spend a morning a week volunteering as a dispatcher for our community patrol and also act as a dispatcher for one of our service groups that takes people to appointments, does routine home maintenance and provides support groups for various people in need. I golf a little, attend plays at a local community theatre, enjoy one evening a week playing cards and I also enjoy the company of good friends when we go out for dinner or visit in each others' homes.

I travel a few times a year -- annually to the Utah Shakespeare Theatre and a couple of times to WI -- and treat myself to an annual European trip. So far I've toured the British Isles twice, Belgium, the Netherlands, Luxembourg, Hungary, the Czech Republic, Austria, Spain, France and am heading back to London for the third time next year to tour all of the art museums I missed on my first visits. I've taken a few US road trips since moving to the Desert SW, including the Grand Canyon, Monument Valley, Zion National Park, Cedar Breaks, Virginia City and Reno. Flew to NYNY last year and to Salt Lake City to visit their genealogy library and hear the Tabernacle Choir-- amazing.

Retirement is everything I'd hoped it would be and more.

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Old 12-03-2018, 09:47 PM
 
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Old 12-03-2018, 09:52 PM
 
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I'm on here to read your savings stories and maybe gain wisdom. I just started the planning for the retirement phase. Ugh! Always late to the party. But maybe I will make it out okay. I'm a single mom though so it it looks like I'll be working for awhile. Not in my life plans "Dems de berries.
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Old 12-04-2018, 03:57 PM
 
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I was born and raised in the Pittsburgh area, with a loving extended family and three sisters. I attended college in Michigan and grad school in Colorado. I then moved to Illinois, where I married and lived for almost 30 years, before moving to Northern Virginia in 2006. I have been married for 41 years to my husband, who was born and raised in Indonesia. We have two children, a son 32, and a daughter, 24. I consider myself semi-retired, as I work 20 hours a week as a librarian. No grandkids yet, but I can hardly wait. I have traveled to my husband's homeland many times and learned some of his language. We come from such different backgrounds, we never get bored.
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Old 12-04-2018, 04:14 PM
 
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Fascinating stories here.

I grew up in an affluent home in Orange County, CA but ended up near the poverty line, LOL. Opposite of most of your "made good" stories. Lived in Mission Viejo for 10 years where my ex and I had a printing co. in Laguna Hills. Back in the days of literal "cut and paste" and one-line typesetting, and the first modems to come out. I learned to fly then; we had a Cherokee 180 tied down in Long Beach, plus flew in gliders out in Hemet. Got into ham radio with the ex. Middle of 5 girls, but the youngest shot herself at 18 in 1985. Hard times. I knew from the get-go I never wanted kids.

I didn't get the brains of the family; my sister, the PhD linguist (and brainy BIL), translated the whole Bible into Quechua (the indigenous descendants of the Incas here in the Andes). Family is 100% stoic Swedes, came to the U.S. in 1890s.

Ex and I built 3 houses with our own hands: two in Parker, CO and one in Shaver Lake, CA near Yosemite. Timing was bad for all 3 so we made little profit but lately those homes have sold for $700,000-plus. (see "Don't Look Back" I posted awhile ago, LOL)

Dumped him after 17 years and spent 7 years in a rustic no-plumbing/no-electricity lifestyle with a younger backwoods/survival guy, including doing 1,000 miles of the Pacific Crest Trail on horseback (with 4 chickens atop the pack horses) for 5 years. Went on cattle drives in WY and MT. Lived at Belknap Hot Springs on the MacKenzie River in Oregon, only accessible by cable car. Step outside into your own hot spring pool!

Dumped him after he took a punch at me somewhere along the trail. Lived single all over the U.S. pursuing various dreams, none of which were lucrative.

Ended up in Moab, UT where I met the current DH. We river-rafted down the Colorado, rode my horse in John Wayne-movie territory, right outside our gate, hiked all over Arches Park and all the wilderness areas of Utah. This is where "Thelma and Louise", "City Slickers", "Geronimo", "Lone Ranger" and many other spectacular Western scenery movies were filmed. Kevin Costner, Robert Plant and Johnny Depp came to my place of employment while filming. Kevin opened the door for me, LOL. My brush with fame!

We lived off-the-grid on solar for all this time. That's a bit too primitive for most people so it took over 3 years to sell our place, so I came crying to the RE section of C-D for help. Along the way, I discovered retiring overseas since we couldn't afford to retire in the U.S. after we were forced out of our jobs due to age.

Experimented with 18 months in Corpus Christi, TX but no jobs materialized, so we ended up selling our beachfront condo there right before the hurricane destroyed it.

So now I'm busy getting skin cancer here on the equator, and adjusting to loss of some physical capabilities due to bad joints, which really pisses me off to no end. But, we are in a lovely beachfront condo where it's always 75 to 85 degrees and I can still stroll the beach, at least. Picking up the litter that Ecuadorians seem oblivious to. Learning Spanish isn't going too well, since the coastal dialect is like the U.S. Deep South drawl, so classroom/TV Spanish doesn't cut it. Oh well, we enjoy our fellow-expats, an adventurous bunch.

So, considering we probably can claim the lowest SS of anyone on this Retirement forum, we ain't doin' too bad, after all.
Wow fascinatiing life you have lived. I really enjoyed reading about it.
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Old 12-04-2018, 06:31 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Born and raised in Pittsburgh area in 1938, married at young age 23, I was the old one back then, ex drove me and daughter to So Cal for a new life, and I ended up single raising my daughter when she was about 7. We drove across 66 in the mid 60's.

Worked 40 yrs, played a lot, did stuff I would have never experienced had I stayed married and vowed never to re-marry which I did not.

Now at 80, I do pretty well, healthy except for nasty arthritic joints and don't have lots of money but ENUF. Rental control apt in Santa Monica is to die for. Love it. My main job and hobby now is keeping healthy until it's over. My remains will fly over the Pacific.

Enjoy MOST of C-D interactions.
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Old 12-08-2018, 04:11 PM
 
Location: Central Massachusetts
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Just curious in a friendly sort of way. Share what you want. Past life, where you live and how it is. Why did you pick your locale? Hobbies, interests, stuff you do, that sort of thing.

I guess I’ll start since, well, I started this thread.
Great thread to just read. This is my story.


I wasn't a poor kid nor was I a rich kid. I guess you could put me on the poor side since I slept in my car after leaving home with a fight with my dad and his wife. Life was kind of a lost thing to me. I joined the army. My first tour sent me over to South Korea in 1976. Funny year that was then. Jimmy Carter in the white house and 2 officers were axed to death on the DMZ. The summer of 76. Well my luck had seriously changed for the good. Instead of heading to the DMZ like most of the soldiers that go to Korea do. I got stationed downtown Seoul. In a 8-4 job working in a fix radio facility called MARS (Military Affiliated Radio System).

Well if that don't beat all but my roommate asks me to accompany him with another friend to see some local girls of our age. You see we had a phone in the room because he was on call 24/7 as a phone specialist. The girls work in an office downtown for a British company that exports brassware and lacquerware at an office on the base. So we meet these young ladies outside city hall and walk to a coffee shop around the corner. None of the girls spoke English really nor did we speak any Korean. One of those young ladies became my wife 3 years later.

The story isn't over. My luck follows me for whatever reason. I get stationed at Ft Devens MA and adopt a new state for our home. Since I grew up in Maine it wasn't much of a difference. I land a job with the MA National Guard and a full time federal employee position for that same agency. It became very lucrative because it allowed me to work on two separate but equal pensions. They finally told me they had enough of my service and I was free to pass go and collect my paychecks.

38 years later that blind date of a wife is still the love of my life. We had one child a daughter whom we are very proud of 36 years old social worker in the Arlington MA area. We are both retired now and a lot of places to go visit. Thanks listening. Hope I wasn't too boring.

slduvall don't remain a stalker of the forum. You are a great add. Oh and congratulations on your 33 years. I know that happenstance meetings that result in a marriage happens and can be a wonderful thing.


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Long time stalker of this forum, just recently started posting...feel like I know some of you quite well.

Mid 50’s, married to a guy I met in a bar – going on 33 years, who says those don’t work out.[/color] He was in the AF and we left my hometown and traveled the world, literally. Had the most amazing assignments, even those locations that really sucked. I managed to wring out a great career as a defense contractor, unless we were places that were too remote – a couple of those – each random job leading to more and more interesting stuff. HR, Technical Writing and Editing, Congressional Relations, Event planning. Lots of time spent wearing my spouse’s hat as he rose in rank, did it, had fun, but sometimes don’t play well with others, so could only take so much.

After 18 years together we adopted a daughter from China, best move we ever made. Being older parents has given us a completely different perspective on everything!

After 29 years DH retired from the AF, and since we were in DC we stayed for a few more years. Finally the traffic just got to be too much and we returned to my hometown because it was in FL! I was able to keep my job and telecommute every day, which has its ups and downs. But since I have a DC salary, I’m going to keep it for a while! DH lasted about 6 weeks in “retirement” till a friend called me up and asked if I wanted him to go back to work...yep, he was driving me crazy. So he has been doing the consulting thing for 4 years. Trust me, having a hobby is essential to retirement. I told him, “going to the gym is NOT a hobby, especially when you go at 5:30 am and are home by 7am!”

But since the gym is his only activity, he is extremely healthy, and super fit for a 60 yr old. So it came as quite a surprise in 2016 when he was struck down with Guillain-Barre, an autoimmune disease that causes temporary paralysis. His was extremely bad, multiple intubations, a heart attack, 60 days in ICU, then 45 days in rehab. Throughout we were told he may never walk again, or at the very least it would be 2-3 years of rehab. Also thought he would never get his swallowing back and would be on a feeding tube forever. Well he wouldn’t hear of any of that. He was a beast in rehab, was released walking and hasn’t looked back. Surprised his original neurologist at a follow up appt by standing up to greet him, (he is 6’4”). He was not expecting that. Said according to the test he took his motor neurons were at about 35%. So somehow other neurons remapped and took over..or something. He leg presses over 800lbs…which I’m told is a lot! So he is back to 100% for gym stuff – but still claims weakness when I ask him to change some light bulbs I can’t reach!

The morale of this (our) story, other than the classic - live life to it’s fullest, be grateful, yada yada - is he should be able to go to the damn gym anytime he wants! So once we do retire, I just have to find something to keep him busy till his 3:00 nap. (which he says is due to being ill, but in truth he always liked to nap, but never had time).

We are continually looking for a real retirement community…area…place. Even though many move to our town for retirement, we want something more, we just don’t know what it is yet!
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Old 02-01-2019, 02:40 PM
 
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I retired this year for the second time. I worked in the mental health field for 30 plus years but I didn’t know I would need a plan to retire. I am figuring it out. I go to the gym 5-6 days a week and have met other retired woman there. I volunteer once a week at the library during tax season.

My husband retired 10 years ago and is a tinkerer. He is busy with projects all day long. We have a retirement home in the blue ridge mountains and spend some time there in the spring and fall.

My hobbies include outdoor photography, reading,and we both love hiking and traveling. We have a 22 ft travel trailer and spent this past summer in Colorado. We take our two small dogs with us whenever we travel
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