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Old 11-15-2018, 09:45 PM
Location: Sierra Nevada Land, CA
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Originally Posted by Bayarea4 View Post
I live in San Francisco, turn 70 next month, and I've been retired for nearly 10 years from a technical job at a TV station. I was part of the studio crew, handling cameras, audio, video playback and graphics. I've been married for 32 years. My husband also worked there as a master control operator. He's 78 and has been retired for 13 years. (Yes, we met at work.) It is the second marriage for us both; no kids.

In my previous life, I grew up in the Santa Clara Valley. Then it was still known as the prune capital of the world and not Silicon Valley. I remember walking through orchards on my way to school. When I was 18 I met a boy at college who was from New York City, fell in love and moved to the East coast to be with him. That didn't work out, but my six years in NYC was a real adventure. I worked for a small film production company at one point, and Paul Simon had the office above ours. We could hear him play the piano sometimes. One of my bosses knew Joan Crawford, and that is how I came to speak to her on the phone once when she was trying to reach him. I remember what a lovely, well-modulated voice she had and how gracious she was to a mere secretary.

My life now is not nearly as exciting. After 30+ years of working nights and weekends at the TV station, I love being a homebody and don't go out that much. My husband has health problems and doesn't like to go out much, either. We're both rather introverted. For this reason we don't travel. Our big splurge is that we go out to dinner twice a week and breakfast once a week, always at the same places. We also read voraciously and spend a lot of money on books. I am an opera fan and also love classical, oldies, jazz and big band/swing from the 1940s.

Another legacy of working nights is that my husband and I are both confirmed night owls. We rarely get to sleep before 3am and usually get up between 11am and 12 noon. I assumed that after retirement we would go back to living on normal people's time, but it just never happened.
I was born and raised in the City. And we both love to swing dance
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Old 11-15-2018, 10:05 PM
Location: Sacramento
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Retired 12 years after 34 years with the Dept of Defense. Born and raised in Philadelphia, spent many years in Ohio and Northern Virginia before retiring to Sacramento, CA.

Wife and I have been married 46 years, married when she was 19 and I was 20. We were told we were too young to make the decision, but it worked out just fine. Wife was a stay at home mom, and enjoyed it very much.

We have three grown kids, two sons in their late 30's and a daughter in her mid 30's. Sons are both married and live in metro Los Angeles. Daughter is mentally handicapped, and still lives with us.
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Old 11-15-2018, 11:13 PM
Location: North Alabama
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Almost 70 now. Off and on retired for 21 years now. College and a first wife, military and a child, electrical construction for a couple years, work for Social Security Administration and put wife through college, divorce and single parenthood, work for Department of Defense buying weapons of mass destruction, second marriage to local girl I had known since Junior High (and I pick up another daughter in the deal), retire from government work at 48, cut grass for four years, help spouse with her estate downsizing business, and then assist (I think, maybe/some) her with the communications company she bought until it was sold and she FINALLY retired. Condo living since then.

She stays busy with several organizations, I shoot and mess around in the woods some. We eat out a lot, have friends and family around town and in and out of state that we visit regularly. She enjoys cruises and foreign travel, I enjoy trail riding and dream of driving to Alaska and staying a month or so. In other words, we are perfectly matched!

Two good wifes and two good daughters; more than i ever deserved. Life has been good.
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Old 11-16-2018, 06:20 AM
Location: Loudon, TN
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I grew up a poor kid, one of 5 raised by a mostly single mom. Joined the USAF, got married, no kids, divorced after 10 years.

Re-met an old friend, and we hit it off, moved in after 3 years, married 5 years after that. Now he and I have been together 21 years. After the AF, I started working at a nuclear power plant for a few years and then continued with that utility after the power plant was shut down. Primarily worked as an energy specialist, residential and commercial, and a program manager, until retirement at 51. Hubby was 56 and a state worker when he also retired at the same time.

We sold our home in the CA foothills and moved to TN 2 years after retirement. We live in an active community of mainly seniors, not age restricted though. We love this place. We're near the lake andon the golf course, less than an hour from the Smokey Mountains. We play golf and pickleball, sometimes we boat and swim. I do a lot of beading and sewing, and enjoy hiking and travel. He does most of the yard work and likes to ride motorcycles when we get the chance and the right weather. We've spent the last 9 months buying and refurbishing a rental cabin in Pigeon Forge and are finally just about done with it, and are starting to enjoy the profits from our investment there.
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Old 11-16-2018, 07:25 AM
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Originally Posted by Mikala43 View Post
I LOVED Scottsdale, it was on our short list for retirement locations. Only fell off because I can't take heat anymore.
I know what you mean. I was here in Phx for the 116 degree days this summer. But when it gets to be too much I can say, "Hey, let's go to Flagstaff/Sedona/Prescott/Payson/Show Low for a few days before the tires melt off. Call the cat sitter." The koi can go for a few days without feeding but the cat has needs. She is going to so freak out when she sees the koi.

So far we haven't even been south of Chandler, so there's a lot of the state left to explore.
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Old 11-16-2018, 08:20 AM
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Originally Posted by Mr5150 View Post
I was born and raised in the City. And we both love to swing dance
good thing you put the word dance in there ha ha ha
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Old 11-16-2018, 09:04 AM
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Long time stalker of this forum, just recently started posting...feel like I know some of you quite well.

Mid 50’s, married to a guy I met in a bar – going on 33 years, who says those don’t work out. He was in the AF and we left my hometown and traveled the world, literally. Had the most amazing assignments, even those locations that really sucked. I managed to wring out a great career as a defense contractor, unless we were places that were too remote – a couple of those – each random job leading to more and more interesting stuff. HR, Technical Writing and Editing, Congressional Relations, Event planning. Lots of time spent wearing my spouse’s hat as he rose in rank, did it, had fun, but sometimes don’t play well with others, so could only take so much.

After 18 years together we adopted a daughter from China, best move we ever made. Being older parents has given us a completely different perspective on everything!

After 29 years DH retired from the AF, and since we were in DC we stayed for a few more years. Finally the traffic just got to be too much and we returned to my hometown because it was in FL! I was able to keep my job and telecommute every day, which has its ups and downs. But since I have a DC salary, I’m going to keep it for a while! DH lasted about 6 weeks in “retirement” till a friend called me up and asked if I wanted him to go back to work...yep, he was driving me crazy. So he has been doing the consulting thing for 4 years. Trust me, having a hobby is essential to retirement. I told him, “going to the gym is NOT a hobby, especially when you go at 5:30 am and are home by 7am!”

But since the gym is his only activity, he is extremely healthy, and super fit for a 60 yr old. So it came as quite a surprise in 2016 when he was struck down with Guillain-Barre, an autoimmune disease that causes temporary paralysis. His was extremely bad, multiple intubations, a heart attack, 60 days in ICU, then 45 days in rehab. Throughout we were told he may never walk again, or at the very least it would be 2-3 years of rehab. Also thought he would never get his swallowing back and would be on a feeding tube forever. Well he wouldn’t hear of any of that. He was a beast in rehab, was released walking and hasn’t looked back. Surprised his original neurologist at a follow up appt by standing up to greet him, (he is 6’4”). He was not expecting that. Said according to the test he took his motor neurons were at about 35%. So somehow other neurons remapped and took over..or something. He leg presses over 800lbs…which I’m told is a lot! So he is back to 100% for gym stuff – but still claims weakness when I ask him to change some light bulbs I can’t reach!

The morale of this (our) story, other than the classic - live life to it’s fullest, be grateful, yada yada - is he should be able to go to the damn gym anytime he wants! So once we do retire, I just have to find something to keep him busy till his 3:00 nap. (which he says is due to being ill, but in truth he always liked to nap, but never had time).

We are continually looking for a real retirement community…area…place. Even though many move to our town for retirement, we want something more, we just don’t know what it is yet!
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Old 11-16-2018, 09:19 AM
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I retired in 2014 after almost 40 years as a property-casualty actuary in the insurance business. I'd planned to quit at 65 but politics got toxic at 61 and I left and haven't looked back. Fortunately I'd been working, saving and investing my entire adult life and the market has been kind- my stash is still up over what it was when I retired.

DH and I had been traveling all along- it was a passion of ours and I knew that, since he was 15 years older, waiting till I retired to make all our major trips was risky. We had a few more good trips after I retired (Alaska, Iceland and Paris) before he was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia in mid-2016 and died two years ago yesterday. I'm still traveling and loving it even though I miss DH. This year I took a group tour to India and Nepal and went on my own to Scotland, with a 2-day side trip to Paris.

I try to do a lot of volunteer work- retirement when you're still healthy and financially solvent is a gift. Church Finance Committee, Toastmasters, maintaining the church Web site, secretary of the HOA, the garden club... I keep busy! I also get to the gym every day. I have one son who lives 3 hours away- married, with two beautiful little girls and a third grandchild on the way. Life is good.
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Old 11-16-2018, 09:30 AM
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Location: USA
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I'm an SOB - raised south of Birmingham. Very patriotic - four years in the USAF. College-educated, two degrees. Had a decent career as kind of a corporate cop who regularly investigates employees who are often terminated.

But, I work to live... I don't live to work.

I've been in and out of motorcycling three times in my lifetime. I've hit the road way twice at over 50 mph. I love to kayak and have done trips on both the Alabama River and the Amazon/Rio Negro in Amazonia Brazil. I'd consider myself to be a controlled adventurist - I don't take unreasonable chances.

I love to bicycle. When I was a mere 55, I did a couple of 750 mile bike rides finishing each in well under 4 days. I've bicycled across Iowa via Ragbrai a couple of times, I did a 600 mile tour in Texas in a week and I cross Montana from Glacier to Yellowstone solo.

I love my wife, my daughter and my country. God, guns, good food, good friends mixed with a lot of compassion. Freedom to be the best or freedom to fail. Support those who can't support themselves.
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Old 11-16-2018, 10:16 AM
Location: Forests of Maine
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Originally Posted by Mr5150 View Post
Just curious in a friendly sort of way. Share what you want. Past life, where you live and how it is. Why did you pick your locale? Hobbies, interests, stuff you do, that sort of thing.
I served 20 years in the US Navy. Mostly on subs, though I also did 6 years as an MP.

I am originally from Modesto California.

After I retired we moved to rural Maine. We have 150 acres of forest with 1/4 mile of river frontage. We built a large house, on solar power. I have remade myself as an organic farmer.

I breed pigs, I am a beekeeper, we have an apple orchard and lots of raised beds for herbs.

I am Chaplain of my VFW post. We both serve on the exec board of our Cooperative Extension Office. We volunteer a lot with our regional Organic Certifying agency [MOFGA] MOFGA Education Programs, this group originated 'Certified Organic' in 1970. And they help a lot of young people to become organic farmers.

I grew-up on a farm in the San Joaquin Valley, almond orchards and cattle. My eldest sister married into one of the big grape families near Fresno. My parents had a 'cabin' in Mariposa. As a teen, I used to hike in Yosemite a lot.

I selected Maine because I wanted to get away from droughts, and I wanted a lower Cost-Of-Living. Maine is both.

I have been on pension for 17 years.

We have two adult children [one is former Army, a current truck driver. The other is currently an Army helicopter mechanic in Aghanistan] and two grandchildren.
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