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Old 11-20-2018, 03:31 PM
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OP here.

It is over. He is at peace.

Theres an ache and a hole in my heart, an empty spot on the bed,
and a litter box looking for its owner.

My little man, my furry boy, my fur-face, little buddy is gone.

The vet gave us one last chance by asking if we were sure we wanted to do this.i gave her one last chance by asking unless she had something else in mind? She said this was all she had in mind, we said then go ahead.

Ill write more tomorrow.

Right now I'll try to take a nap...without the familiar heat spot and lump that always reassured me he was snuggled up against me......

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Old 11-20-2018, 04:15 PM
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I'm so sorry, galaxy. It's never easy.
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Old 11-20-2018, 05:08 PM
Location: Salt Lake City
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I had a tuxedo cat, Annie, who lived to be almost exactly 22. She was really pretty healthy right up until the end, too. One day she had a seizure; I saw it happen. We rushed her to the vet, who was able to stabilize her. She came home and was okay the next day, but the day after that, had another seizure. This time, the vet said she suspected a brain aneurysm and suggested that we put her to sleep. Obviously, after 22 years of having her with us every day, it was heartbreaking. But there was no denying that she had a long and very happy life.
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Old 11-20-2018, 05:20 PM
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On another note:

I called our "family " (very close friends). Who lost a 16 yo cat a couple years ago. We adored their cat and he in turn adored us, it was hard to hear we'd never see him again.

He was sorry to hear about our little boy, but informed me today they got their new 6 mos. Old cat.

And thusly, "The circle of life" continues....

May i and my OH rest as peacefully as our furry boy, my little buddy.

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Old 11-20-2018, 06:57 PM
Location: Planet Woof
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Though it was extremely incredibly unbelievely difficult, it was the right time and you did the right thing because of your deep love.

You have so much more to give and receive from another little soul, when you are ready.

((Big hug))

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Old 11-20-2018, 07:57 PM
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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Lots of hugs for you, galaxyhi, what a hard day.

We euthanized our 20 year old Siamese this past spring. I got her as a tiny kitten as an anniversary present to myself. She was the best present ever. She was a sweetheart and lived with us longer than our son did before going off to college.

20 years is a long time, with a lot of love to give and receive during that time. You were lucky to have your boy with you for so long.
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Old 11-20-2018, 08:26 PM
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Originally Posted by galaxyhi View Post
Other Half

Ok, thanks, makes sense.

So sorry about what you're going through with your kitty.
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Old 11-20-2018, 10:28 PM
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So sorry about your little buddy. We lost a few old-timers in 2017 and early 2018 (20 years old, 18 and 2 that were 15). We knew they would start passing away, but it was tough to lose so many in a short period of time. We subsequently took in a few of our friendlier ferals and they are all doing well.

Give yourself some time to grieve and then see if you are ready for another kitty.
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Old 11-20-2018, 11:44 PM
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I read this whole thread just now and was worried when I got to p.4, because I knew what I'd see: the post about the OP's little fur buddy being gone from this world.

Galaxihi, so sorry you've had to go through this. I think every one of us knows that empty feeling, and we realize how much space in our heart and our home these beloved nonhuman family members take up. So few things left behind--a blanket, a pillow, a few toys--but they have left paw prints all across our memories over so many years. You will probably hear his paws on the floor, and see him out of the corner of your eye, for weeks to come.

After the passing of our two dogs, First Dog (13) and Sweetie (only 8), I wrote a short memorial piece. It had great therapeutic value for me. A photo memorial on social media also works for some people, but this is as "social" as I want to get online, so I'm not into Facebook, Instagram, etc. But putting some pictures and words together about your kitty's life may make your grief focused, somehow, and help you get through the darkest hours.
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Old 11-21-2018, 07:43 AM
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A cat, 21. Our old boy was healthy up to the last couple of months. At the end we had the vet come to the house to put him to sleep in his favorite spot on the sofa.

He was black as night, black fur, whiskers, claws. I still momentarily confuse anything black on the floor or sofa - like a sweater in the dark - for him and step around. After he passed away, the few times when I returned home and my family wasn't home gave me the weird sensation of the house being unfamiliar to me. Missing the presence of that little being - he was part of "home."

Still miss his furry belly, his purrs, and his occasional bad mood swipe at me feet as I walked past him. It takes time to adjust. But I can't complain - 21 years was a good run.
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