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Old 11-25-2018, 07:44 AM
 
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I haven't bought any cemetery plots yet or even discussed issue with hub (who would immediately get depressed thinking about it). Neither of us had a brush with death but doing genealogy made me think about how nice it is to have family headstones as I found on findagrave dot com. Before that cremation seemed no-brainer.

We live 1200 miles away from our home state where we will never return.
But I really like the idea of a headstone near previous generations. Of course hubs church cemetery and my family's cemetery are about 50 miles apart and both very crowded, probably can't get a plot either place.

So many retired people move away this problem must have been solved already. Ideas?

edit to add: I am an artist and garden lover and one of my "fantasy wishes" is to create a beautiful cemetery (like the famous one in Savannah) where artists could create their own monuments. Rudolph Nuryev's is one of the most beautiful in Paris. Weird fantasy wish I know.
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Old 11-25-2018, 07:59 AM
 
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I am going to be cremated and remains will be buried with my parents.

You should make your arrangements. Both of my parents had and it made everything so easy.

Why get depressed about dying? It is just another phase of "life".
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Old 11-25-2018, 08:08 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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No, but we have our pre-paid cremation plans that we purchased this year (ages 59 and 64). I would like my ashes to be spread at sea. No headstones.

We did have to sell my MIL's old plot. She had planned for her and her husband to be buried there next to her mother, but when one of her children passed, she used one of the plots for him, and then she never sold the other when their plans changed to be cremated and interred at the veteran's cemetery. It was a bit of a pain to sell because the plot was still in her name, and she was deceased.
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Old 11-25-2018, 08:10 AM
 
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I haven't given it much thought yet, but I rather like the idea of a burial at sea - either a full-body burial at sea, or having the cremated ashes scattered at sea.
Burials at Sea Cost

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Old 11-25-2018, 08:49 AM
 
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Cremation for me. I told my wife I want my ashes on top of Mt Everest and I am holding her to it I sure hope she is up to the climb.
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Old 11-25-2018, 08:53 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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cremation for me too. Ashes to be scattered. Legal in PA-I checked.


all prepaid after I sold my previous house.
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Old 11-25-2018, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Florida
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I would go for cremation and spreading the ashes someplace. But if you want to have your final resting place in a cemetery and you know which one I would buy the plot and headstone. I would also prepay the funeral. The idea is to have all the decisions made so those that you leave behind do not have to go through the process under a lot of pressure.
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Old 11-25-2018, 09:41 AM
 
Location: Texas of course
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We live near the beach so......if I go 1st my husband will put my ashes in the gulf of mexico and vice versa.
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Old 11-25-2018, 09:49 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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If you know where you want to be buried, it's also a good idea to look for a plot on the secondary market. We sold my MIL's plot at a discount from what the diocese charges today, and it was in a sought after part of the cemetery that's been sold out for years. I asked the cemetery folks what a similar plot with the similar included costs would run today, and priced it below that a good bit to find a buyer. If you're looking to buy, check Craigslist for the city in which you're looking and you might find a plot at a discount.
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Old 11-25-2018, 09:55 AM
 
Location: NC Piedmont
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Waiting until I move in retirement. I will likely donate my body to the nearest medical school. They only take it if you die close by. Backup plan will be cremation with ocean ash scattering; they are all connected so I would not be picky about the exact spot.
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