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Old 11-27-2018, 12:21 PM
 
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During the financial crisis I remember a long lament on one Board (not here) from someone about to lose her home to foreclosure; they'd built it and gone for every upgrade (she mentioned "hand-scraped wood floors"- can't you get kids and dogs to do that for free?) and the realtor had told them this would be their "forever home". That term is now associated in my mind with sales people trying to goad you into spending more for a home.

I love the home I'm in now, probably more than any I've ever occupied, but I don't believe in "forever homes". Needs change. DH and I liked our previous house but as he aged it was just too big for us. At some point when I can no longer maintain this one I'll move to a senior complex near DS and DDIL, who are 3 hours away. I'll miss this place but I'm sure I'll also be grateful that I no longer have to worry about mowing the lawn, cleaning an entire house or weeding the garden.
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Old 11-27-2018, 12:28 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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Feels don't matter.. something that don't feel like your forever home might very well be it. And visa-versa as others have said. Mine sure doesn't feel like forever with what I owe on it.

I still have to laugh at the wisdom...or not...of a bank who'll give a 73 year old woman a 30 year home loan. lol Well, they get their money every month and I guess that's all they care.
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Old 11-27-2018, 01:14 PM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Feels don't matter.. something that don't feel like your forever home might very well be it. And visa-versa as others have said. Mine sure doesn't feel like forever with what I owe on it.
Haha, same here. I took out a 30-year mortgage at 52, so it will likely outlive me, although I may have a chance to refinance it to a 15-year.
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Old 11-27-2018, 01:27 PM
 
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I still have to laugh at the wisdom...or not...of a bank who'll give a 73 year old woman a 30 year home loan. lol Well, they get their money every month and I guess that's all they care.

When I built a new house recently, the lender said "All I care about is value of the home, your house is worth way more than the loan, you're good to go. Trust me, no one lives in a house for 30 years anymore"
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Old 11-27-2018, 03:24 PM
 
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It's very important to me. I will be very excited to make my last mortgage payment. Whether I stay here or not, it will always be mine, mine, mine!
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Old 11-27-2018, 05:40 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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It's not the house itself I care about (within reason), it's the feeling of not having to constantly be looking over my shoulder for employment security.
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Old 11-27-2018, 05:56 PM
 
Location: Washington state
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I think in my case it's more the land that's important to me - owning my own land. Well, I'm some Irish and we know how the Irish are about their land. Living on my land, even in my car, will make it living on my forever home. If I could find a way to be buried on that land, I would, but somehow I think the state would frown on that.

By the way, for those of you who aren't aware, miniaturists tend to be collectors of dollhouses. No, we can't stop at just one. Most of us have more dollhouses in boxes than we'll ever be able to put together. But one thing a friend and I have been talking about for the last couple of years is our "forever house", meaning the dollhouse we'll put together and always keep compared to the ones we might build and later sell or give away. So "forever house" is a term that's used by those of us obsessed (and that is the correct word) with anything mini, too.

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I think cemeteries are barbaric.
I think every cemetery I've been in has felt only peaceful to me. A place to rest. Having said that, I plan to be cremated and set loose on the wind. I love water and I'm hoping that wind blows me into someone's awesome swimming pool. Of course, with my run of usual bad luck, I'll probably end up in a kid's wading pool.

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You can never go home again....
Yeah, you can, sorta. Depends if you had a solid foundation when you were younger. For me, that was the great music of the 60s and early 70s. It was all I had during those years that were so difficult living with my family.

In the last couple of years I've found that music again and it means as much to me as it did then. Songs I hadn't heard in over 40 years come back to me like I heard them yesterday and that's saying a lot for someone who can't remember where she left her car keys two minutes earlier.

I didn't realize how much that music anchored me then and is anchoring me now after drifting for so many years. I'm coming home now hearing it again.

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There are only two forever home possibilities. Heaven or hell.
Maybe there's another one. Maybe we come back again.
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Old 11-27-2018, 07:36 PM
 
Location: North Alabama
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Old 11-28-2018, 12:56 AM
 
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But sometimes as neighborhoods change, kids grow up, new families more in, old friends move away, there are no longer long term relationships to sustain.

Oh, yes, you nailed it.

My longtime neighborhood, as I remember it, is gone, due to the above. It exists only in my head.

So, because of that and myriad other reasons, I moved far away to a beautiful place where I thought I would spend the rest of my life.

But, again for myriad reasons, I am not comfortable there, and I think every day about the possibility of living elsewhere, although it’s doubtful that I can pull it off.

I guess I need to be grateful that home isn’t a Walmart tent.
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Old 11-28-2018, 01:50 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Just because I’m happy where I am now doesn’t mean I can’t be happy someplace else. Always keeping my options open.
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