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Old 11-25-2018, 11:50 AM
 
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Commercial just came on in the background. Mentioned having a home and feeling secure in your forever home.

And I thought, am I the only one that can feel at home in many places?

I tell everyone that I am going to sell my house or even just sign it away to the roommate or whoever.

They say I should wrangle every dime I can out of it.

Isn't that house prostitution?

Maybe I was born to be a wanderer and thank goodness I have a pension!

Anyone else feel this way?
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Old 11-25-2018, 11:57 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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I have found a lot of people want to tell us what and how to live, how we should or should not feel. And when we can't do it their way we think we are failures.

For me I have discovered that nobody knows me like I know me, what I want, how I feel, etc.

Of course people don't know how to handle a newly independent person. But that is their problem.
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Old 11-25-2018, 12:07 PM
 
Location: Texas of course
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We've lived in 6 states. When I was younger I didn't mind moving but now I'm just over it, I'm tired and I hope those days are behind us.
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Old 11-25-2018, 12:11 PM
 
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I want a forever home. It's not my self-image as a free spirit! But have learned that I am not my self-image, have not been for a long time.

I think of a forever home as an area, not only a house. In my new community in Colorado, I have some hope of feeling part of community. I didn't have it back East, where my community really was the night shift and to a lesser extent, the other long-timers I'd worked with for years. When I retired (as have many of them) I knew I was losing community and all I had left was house, not area or place.

I do think I'd have trouble feeling "at home" in a suburb anywhere. It's just the wrong rev/density for me.

I certainly have no plans to move again unless something extreme occurs, in which case I'd move wherever I needed to in order to address the extreme situation, whatever it turned out to be. Otherwise, I expect to stay here. I love my house and area and the community of people is promising.
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Old 11-25-2018, 12:20 PM
 
Location: Location: Happy Place
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Commercial just came on in the background. Mentioned having a home and feeling secure in your forever home.

And I thought, am I the only one that can feel at home in many places?

I tell everyone that I am going to sell my house or even just sign it away to the roommate or whoever.

They say I should wrangle every dime I can out of it.

Isn't that house prostitution?

Maybe I was born to be a wanderer and thank goodness I have a pension!

Anyone else feel this way?
I don't feel emotionally attached to my house but finding an apartment I could afford on my pension would be difficult. I expect to have to stay here in this 1900 sq foot house until I die.
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Old 11-25-2018, 12:20 PM
 
Location: Mexico City (at the moment)
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Commercial just came on in the background. Mentioned having a home and feeling secure in your forever home.

And I thought, am I the only one that can feel at home in many places?

I tell everyone that I am going to sell my house or even just sign it away to the roommate or whoever.

They say I should wrangle every dime I can out of it.

Isn't that house prostitution?

Maybe I was born to be a wanderer and thank goodness I have a pension!

Anyone else feel this way?
I have been wandering since the early 80's. First on my own, then in the military, then in the Foreign Service.

I have never owned a home that I lived in myself (bought one for my parents in 2002, and sold it last month, but never lived in it.)

I plan to "settle down" and do it only part time in a couple of years.

I like the thought of a forever home to go back to.
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Old 11-25-2018, 12:22 PM
 
Location: Florida -
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Since this is in the retirement forum, one might assume the subject is a 'forever retirement home'(?) - However, the approach sounds more like, "I'm off to join the circus."

Are you generally talking about owning versus renting? -- or about staying in one town or location "forever"?
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Old 11-25-2018, 12:25 PM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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Maybe it's because of the way I grew up...we moved frequently, and I had to start over as the new kid again and again. I don't think of any place as my forever home. I am always happy where I live, but also thinking fondly about my next move. As an adult I've lived in 6 homes, owned 4 of them, 3 for 10 years each, and the most recent for 5 years. I see myself here for another 5 to 10 years, and then will become a renter probably, to allow me to more easily satisfy my wanderlust. I don't even like to vacation in the same place for very long. I want something new and interesting to explore.
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Old 11-25-2018, 12:29 PM
 
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Since this is in the retirement forum, one might assume the subject is a 'forever retirement home'(?) - However, the approach sounds more like, "I'm off to join the circus."

Are you generally talking about owning versus renting? -- or about staying in one town or location "forever"?
Owning and staying there forever! And if something were to happen to it, you would just die.
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Old 11-25-2018, 12:55 PM
 
Location: NC Piedmont
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I have been in the same house about 25 years. I don't want to retire here but I dread the process of moving, having accumulated so much stuff. I try to convince myself this won't happen again and to some degree it won't because so much of the stuff is related to parts of our life that are really over an should have been cleared out some time ago. There is a lot of stuff kids might take, but probably won't.

Anyway, I am likely to settle in wherever I go when I retire without much chance of moving while I can live independently.
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