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Old 11-28-2018, 01:00 PM
 
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The only long-winded old people I know were also long-winded in their youth.
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Old 11-28-2018, 06:43 PM
 
Location: Eugene, Oregon
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Yeah, we have many older politicians who also suffer from logorrhea (they make us all suffer).
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Old 11-29-2018, 04:45 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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Does anyone know why some seniors become really long winded as they get older? I'm talking about those people who go on and on, taking 15-20 minutes to tell a story that just 5 years before they could tell in 5 minutes.

Then there are the ones who constantly find ways to dominate conversations, and or who never let anyone else talk. I volunteer at a local senior center, where we have a knitting group. We have a 74-year-old woman who really seems to have this issue. She jumps into every conversation, and no matter what someone else might say, she has an opinion or some experience that she wants to share. Once she starts just goes on and on. Sometimes she takes the conversation off track. If people try to talk over her or steer the conversation back to the original topic, she sometimes gets defensive that other people are trying to interrupt her, and even brags about how she can talk louder than anyone else, so don't try it! She complains that the other people in her groups talk too much (apparently she doesn't realize she is the worst offender, by far).

People complain about her a lot, but nobody wants to tell her to shut up, because she would take it way too hard. She really is very sweet and nobody wants to hurt her. We've discussed having a polite, private conversation with her about it, but the conclusion is this would probably backfire, too. She would probably over react and go to the other extreme and nobody wants that either.

For now, we're all pretending to ignore it. There is something to be said for being patient and realizing we all have faults, especially as we get older. But... is there a better solution?

Or at least an idea on what causes this (so maybe we can be a little more sympathetic)?

Thoughts?
Even 5 minutes is way too long to tell a story. 30 seconds is enough. Leave out the backstory. Make your point.

When she said she could talk louder than anyone else I would ask her why she feels she has to do that.


When a person is long winded just keep asking them questions, every few sentences. They will get frustrated and shut up.
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Old 11-29-2018, 05:17 AM
 
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Ok, to make a long story short, he died wearing the chicken suit, and the flamingos, fully engulfed in fire, ran into the lake.

Yep. Short stories are better.
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Old 11-29-2018, 08:05 AM
 
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No time to read all this, but, in my very humble opinion, what the OP is describing is normal human behavior when several people get crowded together. Most of our lives we all more or less live with quite a bit of separation. When we get older, we may end up in groups for many reasons. Personality differences are evidenced and conflicts are more frequent.
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Old 11-29-2018, 08:10 AM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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I remain curt.
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Old 11-29-2018, 10:26 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Well, we have more time and if we are curious enough, there are a lot of interesting things happening to research. But you're right, OP, most people aren't interested in hearing about Brexit.
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Old 11-29-2018, 12:09 PM
 
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Ok, to make a long story short, he died wearing the chicken suit, and the flamingos, fully engulfed in fire, ran into the lake.

Yep. Short stories are better.

LOL, I did something like this to my hubby the other day because he's always interrupting me when I'm telling him a story to say, "Get to the point!" So I did that one day, with no other details, and soon he was begging for them.
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Old 11-29-2018, 04:40 PM
 
Location: Northeastern Pennsylvania
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I remain curt.

Curt. Yes.


Terse, I can be terse. Once I was Laconic....


TU
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Old 11-29-2018, 04:42 PM
 
Location: Myrtle Creek, Oregon
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Are you sure this is an elder thing? I went to a party a week ago and met a 30 year old woman who just would not shut up and didn't listen to anything anyone around her said. She went on and on about the gluten in the spaghetti. I made it, and didn't use pasta. It was all fresh vegetarian ingredients over spaghetti squash, but she just wouldn't shut up about it. I walked away and refused to listen to her.

I'm a grumpy old man, and have no patience with fools.
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