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Old 12-08-2018, 06:15 AM
 
Location: Chicagoland
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I don’t miss work Apr thru Dec, but I’d just as soon be working (and getting paid) Jan thru Mar when winter really sets in. But we hope to move south next year, might cure my winter blues.

Even when I first retired, I noticed that I missed the personal relationships more than the work itself. I retired early so literally none of my peers were retired, that doesn’t help.
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Old 12-08-2018, 06:16 AM
 
Location: the Old Dominion
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Default ...you only go around once...

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At 22 I suggest you find a career that is more enjoyable. Not every day was joyous, but I found a career that had meaning. I worked in healthcare and the outcome of my work helped others. Later I moved up in management and helped improve the quality of services. I took an active interest in managing for the welfare of patients, for the benefit of my organization and for the other employees who worked under me.


You should be able to do better than being bitter and upset and barely getting by. In addition to looking for a more satisfying career you might want to take a look at yourself. You might begin by taking responsibility for the situation you are in and for your unhappiness.
In answer to the OP's question - No.

As to the post I quoted: OP, this is very good advice. Life is too short to waste in an activity that holds very little reward for you. Especially in work that you recognize at such a young age.
Go to a counselor. Not necessarily a career counselor, but one who can help you better understand yourself.
In your present state you could easily end up with the wrong life partner. I think professional counseling will help you go on to the great life you deserve.
Good luck!
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Old 12-08-2018, 06:27 AM
 
Location: Planet Woof
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I did miss working, but not at a profession that I had for many years. During the recession and since, I lost many jobs due to closings and lay offs. In 2015 I became a full-time caregiver and took SS early at 62 because I had to be at home 24/7.
So I had years of not working and when my caregiving role ended earlier this year I took on a part-time contract job, not in that old professional field (done with that!).
I love my job and don't consider it work because it is fun and great people. I like the money too! I am looking for a second job and am going to try driving for Lyft a bit too.
I just love to be out doing stuff and also love the income perks.
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Old 12-08-2018, 06:32 AM
 
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I loved my work, especially the last project I had before I quit. The politics were what led me to resign at age 61. I haven't looked back. Don't have to set the alarm, don't have to commute in the snow, I can take long vacations without worrying about having enough vacation days left for shorter family visits... I appreciate that my career got me to this point but don't want it back.
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Old 12-08-2018, 06:45 AM
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Location: Willamette Valley, Oregon
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Nope. Now my time is completely filled with things I have wanted to do for years, and nobody is standing over my shoulder telling me why I should be doing something else!
edit: ditto on how fast time goes. It is amazing.

I worked for a guy who actually did that. I'd be working in the shop and John would sneak up behind me to about a foot away and just observe. If I had turned around fast I would have knocked him over. He said he managed by wandering around. Great guy!
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Old 12-08-2018, 06:49 AM
 
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Default Get counseling

At 22, you have lots of life ahead of you. Go find a counselor and go to therapy. Use your insurance, and spend the money. Find a line of work that fits your personality. It is the most important thing you can do for yourself. I am not kidding, please do this. I am 60, and going into a line of work that did not fit my personality was the biggest working mistake I made. I spent years being unhappy doing work in an environment I was not suited for. I did not understand myself or my strengths and weaknesses, and I paid a heavy price for that.



To your original question, I will not miss working when I retire soon. Working for me has always been difficult especially when I was younger. I did not come from a privileged family, had no connections and was bad at smoozing and kissing up. Therefore I was always at the lower end in jobs and trying to work my way up. I have encountered it all in the workplace from bad bosses and co-workers to companies that thought a 30 cent an hour wage increase is generous. My current company took away our pension last year and replaced it with a 401K. Workers had no say, they just did it. I went out into the working world in 1980, about the time that workers began to lose power. I have never had a union job, and I have always had to attempt to get promotions and salary increases on my own. I think some people are able to navigate this kind of working life but I was not very successful. I was able to invest and save and I will be able to get by I think. But I am looking forward to removing myself from the working world. When somebody asks what I do, I want to say "retired" and leave it at that.
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Old 12-08-2018, 07:06 AM
 
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Hell No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And that's putting it mildly.
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Old 12-08-2018, 07:25 AM
 
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Age 68, retired two years. Do I miss working; NOPE. I do miss some of my coworkers. It’s kinda too bad worker friendships end when you leave work, but is just life. My job was fine until the last year. But my career didn’t define me. It simply gave me the mean$ to live my life
I find it interesting that a lot of people say they miss the people they worked with.

Some of the people I worked with were definitely more pleasant than others, but I never thought of any of them as more than minor acquaintances. I didn't really know them as everyone acted fake at work. I have similar feelings towards old coworkers that I do random people out in public. They are irrelevant.
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Old 12-08-2018, 07:32 AM
 
Location: Planet Woof
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I wanted to add that even though I am "working" I am doing it for myself.

Set my own hours, no time clock, no commute, off when I want, no bosses, wear what I want, take my dog along, FREEDOM!

Only way I will ever work again for money.
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Old 12-08-2018, 07:34 AM
 
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I find it interesting that a lot of people say they miss the people they worked with.

Some of the people I worked with were definitely more pleasant than others, but I never thought of any of them as more than minor acquaintances. I didn't really know them as everyone acted fake at work. I have similar feelings towards old coworkers that I do random people out in public. They are irrelevant.

I feel the exact same way about co-workers. Most of the interaction at work is phony and with good reason. It is difficult to know who you can trust and who will betray you if you say anything anti-management. Some co-workers are just jerks and you would never associate with them if not for the work environment. The worst thing about social media like facebook is being "friends" with old co-workers. Over time you become different people and maybe you never knew them that well anyway. It is often best if co-workers are left behind when you change jobs. I could care less about most of my former co-workers. They really were just acquaintances.
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