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Old 12-14-2018, 08:52 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Your advice is good but doesn't apply to millions of us out here who do not live in cities or towns. Some of us are far from senior or community centers. Some are like myself, disabled and no long able to drive. We find ourselves unable to get around like before and with no bus or subway services. Finding people around our age also looking for new friends they have things in common with is another issue altogether. My husband and I have met many people since moving to FL but none with similar interests. Or he may have something in common with the man but the wife and I share no interests. Should he pass away before me I will be left with many acquaintances but no real friends. My son lives in NY, about 800 miles away. Should I be alone some day living in NYC is out of the question due to the cost of living there.
What's funny to me is that a lot of seniors from "the city" want to move to "the country" on retirement, but being out in the country is kind of a young person's game when don't need as many as services.
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Old 12-14-2018, 08:57 AM
 
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which could be why more are aging alone , away from family and friends . throw in reverse mortgages eating up any capital they may have had to relocate closer and yep you got quite a lot more people aging alone .
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Old 12-14-2018, 08:59 AM
 
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I see a lot of retired/old people moving "to be closer to the children" who end up not lifting a finger for them in their old age.

Again, we're born alone, we die alone... And if we're honest with ourselves, we'll face the fact that we ultimately live alone...
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Old 12-14-2018, 09:03 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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which could be why more are aging alone , away from family and friends . throw in reverse mortgages eating up any capital they may have had to relocate closer and yep you got quite a lot more people aging alone .
You forgot and they come online to complain. That’s why a lot of people stay put in the city despite the fact that it’s HCOL. You can’t have your cake and eat it too scenario.

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Old 12-14-2018, 09:09 AM
 
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What's funny to me is that a lot of seniors from "the city" want to move to "the country" on retirement, but being out in the country is kind of a young person's game when don't need as many as services.
You are still "young". Some of those seniors are probably in very good shape and excellent health.

As you get older, you might realize that what you thought as old is not really old.

I can see myself living out in the boonies and doing it successfully, but do I want to? No way.

Of course I live in a town with less than 5K people, so this is probably the boonies anyway.
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Old 12-14-2018, 09:12 AM
 
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we did . we abandoned the idea of relocating to our home in the poconos and sold it . .

no public transportation if i couldn't drive

few medical facilities

few specialists

no place to work except low pay

long cold winters

not enough to do daily

summers were getting boring

to far from family and friends .
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Old 12-14-2018, 09:16 AM
 
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You are still "young". Some of those seniors are probably in very good shape and excellent health.

As you get older, you might realize that what you thought as old is not really old.

I can see myself living out in the boonies and doing it successfully, but do I want to? No way.

Of course I live in a town with less than 5K people, so this is probably the boonies anyway.
Ideally, one can find a compromise like you have done. One doesn't have to live in a large city with it's crime and traffic, nor does someone need to live way out in the sticks. There are lots of places that are in-between.
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Old 12-14-2018, 09:16 AM
 
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we were 2 hours from manhattan , but it was a different world .
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Old 12-14-2018, 09:17 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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You are still "young". Some of those seniors are probably in very good shape and excellent health.

As you get older, you might realize that what you thought as old is not really old.

I can see myself living out in the boonies and doing it successfully, but do I want to? No way.

Of course I live in a town with less than 5K people, so this is probably the boonies anyway.
But things can change rapidly at 75-80+. I wouldn't want to be in 80 and in a rural area an hour at best from a small community hospital or a Walmart.
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Old 12-14-2018, 09:21 AM
 
Location: Paranoid State
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We used to live in Cupertino, CA, home to Apple. Cupertino is an affluent community, with over 60% Asian, most of whom are Asian-American and ethnically Chinese. Most moms & dads were born & educated in China, and came to the USA to pursue advanced degrees (EE, ME, ChemE, Physics, Materials Science, etc) and stayed to pursue their careers in High Tech.

The typical household had Mom & Dad, both ESL, both with PhDs, their kids born in the USA, and elderly Grandma or both Grandma & Grandpa (neither of whom read or speak English). All under the same roof. Grandma & Grandpa ensure the kids learn Mandarin and learn Chinese culture. Most street signs and retail signs are in both in English and in Chinese, as are most restaurant menus, etc.
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