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Old 03-14-2019, 11:49 AM
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I was raised learning how to shoot and most importantly, gun safety. I would not own a gun for any reason. Nor would I want to do a thing to bring pain to my kids.

To be clear, I’d like to be happy and healthy into my late 70s - early 80s like my mother and grandmother (well, mom’s last 2 years were a little tough).

I brought my kids into this world. I don’t want them to suffer financially or in any way keeping me alive if I’m unable to think or act or enjoy moment of it when the end result is inevitable anyway, I’d rather my kids benefit from my existence, not pay for it - whether in time or expense. I hope I’m a long way off from that and things can change.

I don’t have enough assets to have a financial plan. I can’t afford getting a legal will written, though I have written one. I have also been up front and clear with my kids. Thankfully they are so close and care most about being fair to each other. That could change, but I find it unlikely.

I was diligent in instilling in them (both girls 21 and 27) that their first obligation in life was to be financially independent. When they were toddlers, I told them it was a “law” that they had to go to college and be able to support themselves before they had children or got married. They are both college grads, supporting themselves, one is a homeowner, the other planning on grad school - they saw and learned from my naïveté and mistakes.

I am debt free.

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Old 03-14-2019, 12:09 PM
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Also, my kids might want to help me stay in my home (paid for, expenses minimal) but that would be up to them. But I’d like them to get the financial benefit of my home rather than have it go to anyone else.
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Old 03-16-2019, 05:51 PM
Location: Columbia SC
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I have posted this before and at the risk of repeating myself, for those that do not want to read all posts and would consider taking their own life, read the book Final Exit by Derek Humphrey.
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