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Old 12-16-2018, 04:34 AM
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My father was still mentally sharp at 88. He was *still* attempting to explain complex math to me thinking I’d finally get it this time. LOL. As if...

Also, near the end, he was still able to get us from point A to say point Y in their city, a route none of us, including him, had ever taken before, only by means of his internalized map of the town. No one else in the car could do this, and google maps wasn’t helping for some reason, but when we finally listened to him, we eventually got to our destination.

However, he had advanced Parkinson’s which made communication and movement very difficult. Towards the end, while he was still sharp mentally, he could not write or type and he could barely speak. It was so hard watching him attempting some kind of complex philosophical thought, trying again and again and seeing the tears well up.

So, just to say, staying mentally sharp isn’t everything.
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Old 12-16-2018, 04:58 AM
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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My Dad was 92 and still mowing his lawn three weeks before he died. He did online banking and kept up with what was going on in the world. His filesand life, were well organized and made everything easy for us after he died.

DH picked up my MIL at the airport last night, she still snow birds. DH texted a pixture of her as he met her in the baggage area. She dresses stylishly and is always polished. She looked amazing with a huge smile after a long day. She is 88 and DH likes to pick her up at the airport every year since she decided to quit doing the two day drive to FL a few years ago. He opens her place up for her because he wants to, she’s totally capable of doing it herself.

What she and my Dad both had in common is always being busy mentally and physically, and keeping involved in the current world. Complaining and ruminating aren’t traits either one had/has. Dad was, and MIL still is a great role model for a life well lived.

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Old 12-16-2018, 10:06 AM
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I’ve known plenty of 90+ people who maintained the vast majority of their intellect. Most helpful words of advice to live long? “Don’t do stupid things”.
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Old 12-16-2018, 11:13 AM
Location: Chicago area
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We roller skate with a 92 year old every Friday morning. He drives, is sharp, and lives alone. Unfortunately he fell and broke his wrist when he slipped on some ice in the parking lot at the rink. He also had a fire in his house around the same time. He comes to the rink and collects the money and is still the same ray of sunshine he is every week. He's a treasure, and I miss skating with him.

I was very attached to my friend's 90+ year old father for years. He was a joy and I didn't mind his constant ribbing of me. It was his way of showing affection. We had many nice conversations and I would often visit him one on one when I had a 4 hour shift at work. He lived close by my job. He died about 3 years ago and he was around 96 I think. One of his sons came up to me at the wake and told me how much his father loved me, and my Halloween parties. He is still very much missed. He lived alone and drove himself everywhere up until about two months before he died.
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Old 12-16-2018, 11:48 AM
Location: SoCal
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Originally Posted by rugrats2001 View Post
I’ve known plenty of 90+ people who maintained the vast majority of their intellect. Most helpful words of advice to live long? “Don’t do stupid things”.
I believe there more out there. The fact is 30-35% of people over age 85 has Alzheimer’s and that means there’s 65-70% of people over age 85 who are still functioning or sharp. So let’s say, half of these people are ok, not sharpe, you still have a large number of people who are sharp.
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Old 12-16-2018, 12:54 PM
Location: Philadelphia/South Jersey area
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My Aunt is 101 years old. sharp as a tack. we had a family trip to disney world 2 years ago to celebrate her 100th birthday (we did it a year early). she went and had a ball.
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Old 12-16-2018, 02:12 PM
Location: Tennessee
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My barber, who passed away earlier this year, was very with it at 91.
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Old 12-16-2018, 02:38 PM
Location: plano
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Originally Posted by allenk893 View Post
Just curious. What have your experiences and interactions been? Please share any diet tips, life advice, etc and other nuggets you've gained from them.

My mom is 95, take next to no meds and has a great memory. She lives by herself in the country on 5 acres, she drives in town and signs in the church choir.

She was a health food nut way back in the 50s when I was a child. She walked all her life. She walked two miles a day until about a year ago but still walks most days now at 95. She walks indoors if its wet or cold now to, thank you WalMart!

She never smoked nor drank. Her parents both died in their mid 70s, had 4 sisters one lived to her 90s and other two passed in their 60s, one is still iiving, much younger than mom. So sort of ok genetics.

She lives simply and cares alot about others and her family. She is the center of our family gatherings. She views ex wives are part of the family even not married to one of her children. She is happy and not a worrier. A docent at the local museum and quilts and travels to see her four children scattered across Texas and Oklahoma. The one in NY comes down to see her and use a few times a year.

She is tiny and weighs under a 100 lbs and has been lean her whole life but not as short or tite as now.

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Old 12-16-2018, 02:46 PM
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Haha. My mother in law. She is 92, I think. She is about 150 pounds overweight, diabetic, has a horrible diet and sharp as a tack.
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Old 12-16-2018, 02:53 PM
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My father died at 87 in 2012 from very fast pancreatic cancer. He'd had a heart attack at age 75 while driving a taxi 12 hours a day in Philadelphia, and blamed "all that street food." He walked two miles a day, blew his bits of money at the racetrack until the end (denied having a gambling problem) and ate perfectly no-fat/low-carb for those last 12 years.

He was always very interesting to talk to, paid a lot of attention to international events, and declined moving in with me because I lived "in the sticks" and there was no gambling around except "old people going to the casino on the old people bus).

He was winning dance contests in his 60s with a girlfriend who was in her 40s. Never a sign of dementia of any kind. His many siblings all died of cancer and as far as I know, did not have any dementia.
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