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It’s always surprising to realize what an outlier I am. I’ve never NOT been with anyone I wanted to be with yet I don’t have a problem being with someone I’d never want to be with; had we met randomly.
I can’t say I’ve ever been afraid of STDs but I’ve always respected the risk & therefore; I’ve never had one.
I’ve never felt awkward or felt like things changed afterwards either. I have had guys do to me & that’s a good way to ensure there will be no more rounds.
I don’t regret “sleeping” with anybody. I don’t regret not sleeping with anybody because I’ve been with everybody & anybody I wanted to. So far.
Maybe there’s something wrong with me but I remember as a teenager these two girls calling me a s**t in a loud whisper & I turned & gave them a genuine smile. It sorta dawned on me that I was supposed to be indignant or offended but that would take a lot of effort & energy; not worth it really.
I’m a total hypocrite because I see the “sexual revolution” as having been detrimental to society.
The only thing I have to love a man for is to have his child, otherwise; it’s just sex.
^^^ This for me too. After a few (very few) casual partners back when I was in my 20s, I realized that I simply did not get anything out of the experience, physically OR emotionally (although honestly, for me it's hard to separate those two things and I don't WANT to). On the other hand, the long-term relationships I've been in tend to start with decent to good sex and then it gets better and better as we continue to get to know each other (and, you know, maybe even love each other? what an idea! ).
I also realized decades ago that the idea of sex with a stranger is just bizarre to me. It's just about the most intimate thing you can do with a person, so why would you want to do it with someone you don't know at all (or even like) and vice versa? Sorry, that's a rhetorical question as clearly a lot of people LIKE sex with strangers (or relative strangers). OK, I guess FWB is also casual sex and maybe you know the person a little, but again, not interested.
Clearly I'm an outlier here, given the responses I've read ... but I simply cannot imagine sex without love (or at least being on the WAY to falling in love!). And that requires an emotional and intellectual connection as well as the physical. And when I have all those ... well, it's a very good thing.
No sure what an "outlier" is but I agree with you 100%.
Lol...excellent question. My answer is not so much "more" casual partners, but I definitely could have pulled the trigger on a few that I know would have. I can think of three young women during my college years whom we got to the initial flirting phase, but I never sealed the deal. Totally my bad...they would have been willing but I didn't act and they moved on. Can't really say it's a regret because things turned out ok for me...but if I could turn back time....lol!
You just described me, and most men if we were honest. I had a window from about age 20 until about 32 where I was told I was really good looking. But like you I had no game, especially the college years. I do look back at those years with regret, several woman said later that I had the chance but showed no interest. Damn, I was just too nice and of course not confident.
No regrets here either. I was never promiscuous, don’t believe in casual sex. In my younger days, my sexual partners were people with whom I had a relationship with.
My best and most intense sexual partner ended up being my 2nd and current husband. I’m very glad I never bought into that one night stand frame of mind.
So I’m happily married to my second husband and in our 60’s are still experiencing wonderful intimate encounters or great sex lol.
You just described me, and most men if we were honest. I had a window from about age 20 until about 32 where I was told I was really good looking. But like you I had no game, especially the college years. I do look back at those years with regret, several woman said later that I had the chance but showed no interest. Damn, I was just too nice and of course not confident.
I just finished watching Bohemian Rhapsody, my dating years was in the 80s where AIDS were full blown, 30 million people died of AIDS/HIV related. I was hearing people died left and right in the news from the beach community nearby. It’s not the time to be promiscuous.
i spent the 1970's to early 1980's on tour playing drums professionally ... it got to the point i just grew tired of that life
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