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For a minute there, I thought you were talking about booze! Had me worried! LOL!
The tax thing - used H&R Block online the past few years, which is nice because they upload a bunch of stuff so you don't have to retype and you can upload docs pretty simply....not really too difficult. My financial life is pretty simple, though, as I only have pension and SS at this point. And with the new deduction, I actually GOT A REFUND! for the first time in about 20 years, so that made it much less painful!
Agree with everyone else, cut out the stuff that does "not bring you joy" as the current saying goes.....yes, there is still going to be laundry and feeding the cats, but seriously, why NOT cut out whatever you can that just drags you down?
I think it was attributed to Grace Slick, and it went something like this - "You reach a point where outside of paying taxes and rectal exams, why would you do anything you don't want to do?" That about sums it up!
I am working on my taxes today, and I just despise it (just gathering info and recapping, so not actually "doing" the taxes - I have in the past - could never do it now).
When I was married we would make a 45 min. pilgrimage to the middle of the state to see a CPA who was recommended to us. When my hubs and I divorced I still retained the CPA even though my taxes were relatively straightforward. Because I retired in 2018 and then moved from CT to FL, I shipped all of my tax docs to my guy in CT as I still had to pay income tax to CT. He charged me $95. Our tax guy has a great personality and it made/makes the whole ordeal rather pleasant. Sometimes my then-husband and I would stop on the way home at a local Irish pub for a brewski.
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I am late sixties - I realize that I have almost completely lost my tolerance for a lot of things, but what I am noticing right now is my unwillingness to do anything I don't want to do - hence it takes me fives times as long to do something (as it would have taken when I was more tolerant).
That's part of the reason I retired--after 26+ years of doing a job I loved I couldn't stand it anymore. Staff was gutted to the point that I was the only one who knew anything about the day-to-day routine of library acquisitions of physical materials (books, DVDs etc.)--and most of those procedures I developed myself. My supervisors of late had very little technical services experience and almost no procedural experience buying books--and they didn't care. When I was leaving everyone was screaming for documentation on procedures but no one liked the documentation I provided. Right now my job has been parsed out between 2 departments--acquisitions (selection/receiving) and financial services (ordering/payment) on two different floors. As I suspected, the left hand doesn't know what the right hand is doing.
But I digress...
I do feel the OP's pain and feel the same way. I'm still not quite moved in, haven't really set up my office area and have no desire to follow through. If it wasn't for a friend's visit at the end of January I probably wouldn't have finished unpacking!
I was never one for small talk and as I get older I try to avoid high octane "forced" social situations at all costs (weddings, showers, birthday and holiday parties, gatherings where I know no one, etc.) So I haven't even tried to make friends in my new home state--I'm happy in my own little cocoon.
This brings up an interesting dilemma. The dreaded "in case of emergency contact...." question. There is no one local to contact. My nearest "emergency contacts" are my kids--one in CT and one in CA--and maybe my brother in NYS. Part of me thinks I should try to actively cultivate friendships just so I have someone to call in case I need help, but that seems to be a rather shallow motivation. I don't reside in a 55+ community but I think that this would be one of the perks of doing so--having office staff who keep half-an-eye out for their residents.
No more pets for me. We lost one cat last week. She was never well, but still lived almost ten years. And will not be replaced.
I have 4 senior pups.
"Senior pups" -- isn't that an oxymoron?
(Just kidding because we have a 13-year-old Lab mix "puppy" ourselves! Seriously, she is still as goofy and friendly and energetic as she was when she was three months old, despite having a major surgery a year ago.)
Also, I am very sorry about the loss of your cat. (Ours is almost 16.)
OP, it's age. I have noticed for years women become less tolerant around age 50. I don't know about men. Women just stop putting up with BS as they get older.
DH is more tolerant than me. I am at an age where I do nothing that I don't want to do.
The kids have about convinced me to even have my groceries delivered. Grocery stores are becoming a PITA in my town.
OP, it's age. I have noticed for years women become less tolerant around age 50. I don't know about men. Women just stop putting up with BS as they get older.
DH is more tolerant than me. I am at an age where I do nothing that I don't want to do.
The kids have about convinced me to even have my groceries delivered. Grocery stores are becoming a PITA in my town.
I've had groceries delivered for 14 years! Haven't set foot in a grocery store for 14 years.
I'm also aware that I could never be expected to daily or even semi-weekly or weekly cook or prepare food for anyone i.e. any man in my life or anyone else.
Just could not do it.
I have little to no tolerance for people that take forever to say something. I had a neighbor that would talk for 10 minutes when it could have been " I went to Kroger and bought a ham."
I don't tolerate back stories very well since they are hardly ever necessary.
The very worst is when they retell the entire conversation and you don't even know the people. "Then he said..."
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