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Old 02-03-2019, 10:27 AM
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Might there be a website more focused on gay (male?) concerns? As a long-time friend of gay men in my social circle, I'd say that there are few small towns that are significantly gay-involved. Not necessarily hostile, just not enough people to say it's a gay small town. My observation is that my gay men friends have tended to go to major cities from smaller cities and towns for their lives and work, and stay there, as so many people tend to stay if they don't move to suburbs at some point.

Maybe a city with a significant gay population would have a discussion that would apply more than this one.

I emphasize "male" because gay seems to have come to equate with male, whereas back some time ago, it included gay women also. There are certainly places like Northampton, MA, that are significantly gay women, and likely would be gay male friendly, but maybe not enough men to make a social life.

Unclear if the poster is looking for a town where he'd be safe (of which there are many, any college town would likely be better than non-college) or a place with distinct gay life, and opportunities for dating.

I live in a progressive small town full of transplants, am a straight woman, and have been told my numerous people not to hope for a date around here, gay or straight! Just not real likely in a small town.
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Old 02-03-2019, 12:00 PM
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To the poster who repped me, no interest in getting on another site. I do still have a couple of gay friends in touch from afar. One is in a couple in a good Mass. city (40 and working), and the other one is sadly widowed from his lifetime love in Europe in a city (Hamburg) and retired. The younger man grew up around Boston, and the other man in a small town in West Texas and couldn't get out fast enough, but consider the time he was young in a small town- 1950s-'60s. It was a different world.
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